Peri menopause moans

[Cinnabun]

I can't remember much else but the scared of the dark stuck with me, it was just so bizarre. It went as suddenly as it came around 6 or 7 mths later.

I have just found this https://www.avogel.co.uk/health/men...rful-during-menopause-and-how-to-overcome-it/

it says about suddenly being scared about things especially loved ones dying. I remember being very fearful of my children/grandchildren dying,l but I put that down to my sister dying and other family members passing in a short time of each other. The dark thing I just went with it and got a nightlight in the bedroom and hall but the constant thinking about family dying actually drove me to the point of ending it so I would not have to face it. I never contacted the two as they were at different times (one peri one menopause )
That has actually pissed me off because its not that it isn't known. why are these things not in every Dr surgery or other places where people can see them and see its not unusual at this time.

This is so interesting. My first symptom was anxiety, including waking up in the early hours with my heart pounding thinking somebody had broken in. Then I kept having thoughts about my parents dying: utterly convinced that I'd be getting a phone call to say my Dad had had a heart attack etc. I still have these thoughts.

I'm another who has been told they are too young for HRT - by the so-called Menopause expert nurse practitioner.

At the moment I'd say the worst symptom was having zero energy or enthusiasm for anything - I feel like life is passing me by.

 

[Notworthy]

anyone having trouble with their GP needs to report them. Write a letter to the Practice Manager outlining your complaint and let them know that you will report them. You can also contact the British Menopause Society, it just isn't good enough in this day and age.

 

[HotesTilaire]

I lost the day today due to agonising cramps at the end of my period. I couldn’t stand up. Once I’d got the pain under control I got tired and fell asleep.
What is the actual answer, if you don’t have endometriosis but you bleed heavily and have life-disrupting pain before, during and after periods? It’s only getting worse as I get older.

 

[curiouserandcuriouser2022]

Oops - this message was meant for a different thread so I deleted it!

 

[Kittylover2019]

Did anyone else's libido go through the roof? OMG the last year has been insane. Hubby's most uttered sentence has been ‘I’ll be glad when this bloody menopause is finished'. Honestly what a melt, there wasn’t enough before now there’s too much?

Yes mine has, poor husband

 

[ChickenLicking]

Place marking. Will read the whole thread as it's so timely.

 

[CarmenGhia]

I'm seriously considering the Mirena coil. Fed up of my life being dictated by horrible hormonal mood swings and unpredictable periods. My self-esteem has taken a massive hit because my body shape has changed and I've turned into a tubby apple shape, instead of the slim pear I used to be. Because of thyroid issues I've got as well, losing weight is really difficult. I can't wait for the menopause to hit properly, to be honest.

 

[youRjokingHunz]

What about hormone related back pain?
sometbing has afflicted me in later years.. periods used to be background issue, now they arrive off the back of high libido.. my back then seems to fall apart ..
Period .. back pain settles.. then round I go again?

sometimes I get sensitive to noise .. kids wind me up easily .. have to take myself to bed to avoid snapping.

but the back pain is a issue now.. seriously debilitating, and I can’t take time off work with it ..

would the mirena coil Help level the hormones?

 

[CarmenGhia]

The Mirena does release hormones and they suppress your cycle.

 

[Sketchy]

Haven't read all of the thread yet but one thing that distressed me a bit was the 'twang' in the head, a bit like an electric shock. It happened sporadically and started happening a few years before the actual menopause. I didn't tell the doctor so don't know for sure if this was linked to peri-menopause or not, but it would be interesting to know if anyone else experienced this 'twang'?

 

[CarmenGhia]

In the base of your skull where your head joins your neck? I've had those, but I think they predate any menopause suspicions by quite a long time.

 

[Bettyboo2475]

I’m finding anxiety has hit me hard. I barely leave the house these days and avoid social events. Have booked a call with GP although I really don’t want anymore tablets.

 

[Randy77]

I’m finding anxiety has hit me hard. I barely leave the house these days and avoid social events. Have booked a call with GP although I really don’t want anymore tablets.

Can you try to read or listen to podcasts to help? Some other kind of therapy?

My issue is lacking in confidence. Feeling not good enough in my professional work, almost imposter syndrome.

 

[Not_A_Troll]

I think I’m struggling just to know what is peri menopause and what could be something else, there are just so many symptoms!

 

[Notworthy]

Can you try to read or listen to podcasts to help? Some other kind of therapy?

My issue is lacking in confidence. Feeling not good enough in my professional work, almost imposter syndrome.

I've found that the worst. Used to run a successful business, sold up then looked at starting something new and have to remind myself that I've done it once so why do I feel that I can't now.

 

[Baby Giraffe]

Since peri my ability to cope with things and to just manage to get on with things in a practical way just upped and left. I didn’t know it was hormonal and felt like I was falling apart and that I was totally useless. I had no idea how I would continue and got no joy from anything, even things I used to love. I actually started on HRT to mainly help with my sleep which was totally disrupted by night sweats and that improved within a few weeks but after about 6 months I realised I was me again, I didn’t feel numb and was able to deal with things rationally. I’m also protecting my body for the long term, unless there is a medical reason not to take HRT (which, with modern types is a lot rarer than often thought) then please don’t see it as giving in, you’re simply replacing something your body isn’t producing, the same as you would if you were a diabetic. I’m a much better person as a result.

 

[Falkor]

I've had a salient lesson this past fortnight that it's also important not just to put things down to peri - I'm 47 and have been having symptoms for a couple of years, but only mild ones. Over the autumn last year I started to gain weight around my middle that I couldn't shift and also started to get muscle aches and joint pain. The aches got worse over Christmas so I rang my GP when they reopened in the gap between Christmas and New Year to book myself an appointment to talk about HRT - only to find out via the medium of five days in a high dependency unit and now in my second week on a normal hospital ward that actually the aches and pains were acute pancreatitis caused by a gallstone and the increased weight round the middle was fluid leaking out of a very pissed off pancreas!

 

[Dinnerbag]

Ladies, so not had a period since February 2022 and today I’m spotting….ffs doctors won’t entertain me unless I’ve not bled for 12mths.

 

[Baby Giraffe]

Ladies, so not had a period since February 2022 and today I’m spotting….ffs doctors won’t entertain me unless I’ve not bled for 12mths.

Technically you’re peri until you’ve not a bleed for a year but there’s no reason at all for the doctors not to address peri issues so don’t understand why they won’t.

 

[PrettyGreeneyes76]

Ladies, so not had a period since February 2022 and today I’m spotting….ffs doctors won’t entertain me unless I’ve not bled for 12mths.

Have you other symptoms?