I hope he doesn't, poor little boy. I understand that Phaedra was found in another room, so hopefully safe in his cot, rather than in the same room as his deceased mother.I wonder if Phaedra has any memories of Peaches’ death. My daughter is the age he was when it happened, and she would be distraught if I suddenly fell unconscious and didn’t wake up.
18 hours! He must have been starving and soaked through. Poor lad.Phaedra was found in another room, but not in a cot. He was crawling around, as they didn't use a cot due to the attachment parenting they supposedly believed in. He'd been alone for 18 hours. It's an absolute miracle he survived. It most likely affected him, but I very much doubt he has memories of it. He was only 11 months old.
Attachment parenting should only be done when both parents are completely sober. You shouldn't even do it if you have had a glass of wine, in case you roll on the baby. I can't believe they were both so deluded as to even try it when she was a heroin addict! It's one thing to lie to your fans and maybe she had to tell herself she was doing her best for her children but Thomas shouldn't have enabled her.Phaedra was found in another room, but not in a cot. He was crawling around, as they didn't use a cot due to the attachment parenting they supposedly believed in. He'd been alone for 18 hours. It's an absolute miracle he survived. It most likely affected him, but I very much doubt he has memories of it. He was only 11 months old.
I agree on the attachment parenting. I suspect the whole earth mother persona was her need to tell herself she was a good mother. Paula did the same. Maybe the is too harsh on Thomas ( I have no experience, and your input is very informative) but it's a shame no one intervened before it was too late. Money seems to protect you from social services involvement.Addicts gaslight and lie to protect their using (and I speak as one, now clean). It's exhausting being around them. I can't be too hard on her husband; he must have felt quite desperate and under pressure to keep the peace and the entire ship afloat, because I have no doubt they relied on her family for assistance, financially and career-wise. I also think attachment parenting was a form of DIY therapy for Peaches and had less to do with the needs of her children and husband.
I think one of his parents was a social workerI agree on the attachment parenting. I suspect the whole earth mother persona was her need to tell herself she was a good mother. Paula did the same. Maybe the is too harsh on Thomas ( I have no experience, and your input is very informative) but it's a shame no one intervened before it was too late. Money seems to protect you from social services involvement.
sadly, being a social worker doesn't inoculate your own family against the issues Peaches had. Sometimes health and social care professionals can have their heads in the sand when it comes to their own relatives and there's the added shame too. Also, I suspect they were very much the subservient family; the Geldofs are incredibly dominant. And as @LoopyLou47 says, money protects you against social services involvement.I think one of his parents was a social worker
I think Thomas was too young and out of his depth. He was what, 21-22 at the time? I don’t think either of the pregnancies were planned, so I can’t imagine he was planning to pursue the budding rock star life alongside being a father to two very young kids. He shouldn’t have ignored the red flags telling him not to take the baby back to Peaches, but I think he just didn’t want a row. I’m sure she was the boss in that marriage. Who knows what was going through his mind, especially if she was out of it regularly.The husband admitted he relied on his addict wife’s word that her tests were coming back clean but also that she had started using again in the February. I mean.. come on.
All good points, I suppose I will always struggle to understand why & how she was left alone for so long and with a baby, knowing she had been back using for a couple of months at least. That doesn’t make it anyones fault. Yes Thomas was young although I believe it was one of his parents who left the baby with her that day. Terribly sad if they were beholden to her wishes against better judgement because of the money/fame/power of the Geldof family.I think Thomas was too young and out of his depth. He was what, 21-22 at the time? I don’t think either of the pregnancies were planned, so I can’t imagine he was planning to pursue the budding rock star life alongside being a father to two very young kids. He shouldn’t have ignored the red flags telling him not to take the baby back to Peaches, but I think he just didn’t want a row. I’m sure she was the boss in that marriage. Who knows what was going through his mind, especially if she was out of it regularly.
This a thousand times. I forget how young he was.I think Thomas was too young and out of his depth. He was what, 21-22 at the time? I don’t think either of the pregnancies were planned, so I can’t imagine he was planning to pursue the budding rock star life alongside being a father to two very young kids. He shouldn’t have ignored the red flags telling him not to take the baby back to Peaches, but I think he just didn’t want a row. I’m sure she was the boss in that marriage. Who knows what was going through his mind, especially if she was out of it regularly.
Completely agree with you. Also, I know people are saying he was young, but young and completely clueless are not the same thing. He must have been shockingly naive to not suspect anything. I had lived a fairly sheltered life by the time I became a mum aged 21, but there's no way I would have been this ignorant/naive/trusting. Even if he was, his social worker parent should have been the voice of reason that day. Something doesn't add up.I can never get my head round Thomas calling her at about 9pm on Sunday evening and getting no reply, then trying unsuccessfully all Monday morning before arriving back at the house with his Mum at 1.30pm. I don't understand why they didn't go first thing Monday morning?
Not accusing him of anything dodgy, it just seems so wierd. Even though he said he thought she was clean (which stretches incredulity to breaking point tbh), it must still always been at the front of his mind she could be using again.
I agree that his judgement was off.Completely agree with you. Also, I know people are saying he was young, but young and completely clueless are not the same thing. He must have been shockingly naive to not suspect anything. I had lived a fairly sheltered life by the time I became a mum aged 21, but there's no way I would have been this ignorant/naive/trusting. Even if he was, his social worker parent should have been the voice of reason that day. Something doesn't add up.
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