I believe that her parents are so young that they aren’t actually retired so I guess that’s why they can’t help. But I think she’s been naive to think that there would be after school club spaces. My daughter went onto the waiting list at 3 for going into P1 at 5 and we aren’t at the school, have to schlep elsewhere to get her - and that’s fine, we make it work! I think she needs to be prepared to offer her full flexibility - if that’s not working completely full time or working early mornings etc. then that’s just what you have to do! I think being out of the workplace for 6 years means she’s remembering a culture that doesn’t really exist anymore. And her husband is probably just agreeing with her because he doesn’t want things to change - regardless of how clearly miserable and lonely she is.