I hate any of that inspirational quote bullshit, but the one I do agree with is "you can't pour from an empty cup." Sometimes you have to put yourself first, or you're no good to anyone.
Is there a panel of gentle experts sat in a room deciding if these people pass the gentle test? It's ridiculous.I joined the gentle parenting FB group as I wanted to be nosey at Peas posts.
i didn't see any of her posts, but Jesus Christ I've never come across people like it. I was gobsmacked at some of the posts and replies. How pathetic are they ?! 'Is that gentle?' , why the hell do you care if it's gentle, if it works for you and your family. Just get on and do it.
What a strange world we live in, people frightened to tell their kids no and not allow them to experience negative emotions. What a bunch of wet flannels !
That’s literally what the FB groups are!
That’s the saddest thing. They’re sucked into a parenting method they can’t deviate from, because they’re scared that they’ll duck up their kids if they do.
.There was one on there the other day with someone asking how to handle their teenager during summer holidays because he just wants to stay in his room and be on his computer all day. Sarah ockwell smith commented on it advising that she ask her son to teach her how to play the computer games so she can play along with him
I think when it comes to crunchy types especially, it becomes your entire identity and consumes your life (I mean, when you’re wearing them in a sling at 5, breastfeeding and bedsharing, well it’s impossible for it not to consume your life).
) and wonder where it all went wrong? Of course a teen doesn’t want to play FIFA with his mum! Or do they pat themselves on the back and say “good job mama! You know they have a 
secure attachment when they can separate from you”.Exactly! Someone posted that they shouted at their child and said it felt like a confession, I just find it sad. Of course nobody should be mindlessly screeching at their kids but most sensible people know that sometimes you will list patience and snap
That was a very odd post. I mean I get mum feeling frustrated and worried about him being his room all the time but some of the replies were bizarre. One woman saying her 17 year old has to give her his phone and PlayStation controls by 10 pm each night and he must go on at least 50% of family days out. He is months off being an adult ffs!!There was one on there the other day with someone asking how to handle their teenager during summer holidays because he just wants to stay in his room and be on his computer all day. Sarah ockwell smith commented on it advising that she ask her son to teach her how to play the computer games so she can play along with him
He’s in his room because he’s a teenager and they want to get away from their parents, it’s so so normal at that age!! My brother would have rolled his eyes right back into his skull if my mum had asked if she could join in on his gaming….just give the kid a break, he needs space!!
Also if you’re still in a parenting Facebook group when your kids are teenagers, maybe you need to reassess why you’re in them.
You must be wrong, don't you remember her saying how lucky she is to live in the countrysideNeighbourhood and blocks …. Has Pea moved to America??
I really wish you lot could see where she lives, it’s a housing estate of about 10 houses chucked together off the side of a dual carriageway and opposite a retail park! Not sure how far she’s walked to find this lovely neighbourhood, but she can’t be describing the one she lives on!
Yes that reply was ridiculous! If that 17 year old decides to go to uni next year, can absolutely guarantee he won’t be coming home until the year finishes and he absolutely has to!
Bet it’s white noise. I used to do that with my daughter although not right next to her head like that.
A-bloody-men - nobody wants to see it!
Agreed! When ever I drive past to go to the retail park I swear I’m going to see a boob flash on the path to Sainsbury’sNeighbourhood and blocks …. Has Pea moved to America??
I really wish you lot could see where she lives, it’s a housing estate of about 10 houses chucked together off the side of a dual carriageway and opposite a retail park! Not sure how far she’s walked to find this lovely neighbourhood, but she can’t be describing the one she lives on!
I’m from just up the dual carriageway way and know of her story through a mutual friend and a nurse who cared for Winter (she’ll probably read this and know who I am!) 
.Country side my arse, bloody building site infront and a mental hospital behind it!You must be wrong, don't you remember her saying how lucky she is to live in the countryside
So if you were wrong, what was the prevailing view amongst the group? I’d love to know.
Is this allowed? The woman replying to me was replying to everyone!
