Same goes for the service. You could have loads of good experiences but the one horrible or traumatic time is the one that will stick with you.
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Defo shouldn't have read all these stories when I'm due to give birth in a month as a first time mum. 
So sorry all you ladies had to go through that it sounds horrific
So sorry all you ladies had to go through that it sounds horrific
If it helps, my 2nd pregnancy and labour were a dream. I was supported and listened to, my midwife during labour was absolutely incredible! Had my dream water birth and could have been home within hours if I’d wanted to. We stayed overnight in the end as we had a private room with double bed etc. The only real issue we had was with the discharge midwife who didn’t agree with how the baby was dressed. She was born during the ‘beast from the east’ so we wrapped her up warmly to get to the car, apparently she didn’t believe we’d remove the coat once we got thereDefo shouldn't have read all these stories when I'm due to give birth in a month as a first time mum.
So sorry all you ladies had to go through that it sounds horrific
When my baby was around 6wks old, I attended my GP due to my mental health taking a complete dive and feeling like I couldn't keep myself safe/really struggling with dark thoughts. I was crying explaining how I was feeling and he replied to me "my wife had 3 kids and managed to get on with it. I'm sure you can since you've only got 1 baby." I was horrified. I called my health visitor and broke down telling her how I felt, she came out to see me and got me in touch with the perinatal mental health team who visited me weekly until my son turned 1. I couldn't fault them at all, they were so wonderful and helped me really out of a dark time. Anytime I call my Dr's though, I still refuse to see that GP and always will avoid him now
Yeah when you have to deal with flashbacks and are terrified to step foot in a hospital it does stick with you. I would say no longer having any trust in medical professionals is probably the worst outcome for me. Of course the majority can probably be trusted and have your best interests at heart but when your mind is traumatised you can't see that which makes life and medical care very difficult to navigate.
Kindness goes a long way which usually settles me down, had a fantastic nurse recently for a smear and an amazing couple of staff when i broke down and had a panic attack just getting into the hospital for an MRI.
When I was 32 I caught a particularly bad bout of flu and ended up in hospital as it progressed to Pneumonia. The staff were amazing with me.
when I had my son I had to be rushed to theatre for an emergency section (had to be put to sleep as they needed him out very quickly due to heart rate dropping). When we went for a debrief to talk about it the doctor said in these cases their aim is to get the baby out within 11 minutes. In my case it took them 7 minutes. They saved my son’s life. Afterwards the anaesthetists and midwives came to see how we were. They were all so lovely and I’m forever thankful. We didn’t get to see our son being born but I know it was absolutely necessary. My scar healed so well, they done such an amazing job considering how rushed everything must have been.
when I had my son I had to be rushed to theatre for an emergency section (had to be put to sleep as they needed him out very quickly due to heart rate dropping). When we went for a debrief to talk about it the doctor said in these cases their aim is to get the baby out within 11 minutes. In my case it took them 7 minutes. They saved my son’s life. Afterwards the anaesthetists and midwives came to see how we were. They were all so lovely and I’m forever thankful. We didn’t get to see our son being born but I know it was absolutely necessary. My scar healed so well, they done such an amazing job considering how rushed everything must have been.
If it’s any reassurance both of my births have been fantastic- first was an MLU water birth, 2nd was planned to be a home birth but nobody was available to attend so ended up a labour ward water birth due to MLU being shut but was back at home discharged 5 hours later! I realise I am incredibly fortunate to have delivered mine with no intervention xDefo shouldn't have read all these stories when I'm due to give birth in a month as a first time mum.
So sorry all you ladies had to go through that it sounds horrific
Do what you can/feel to make yourself informed and prepared. And dont be afraid to ask questions! My midwife second time around was amazing and really helped me be heard! Which is what was missing the first time. I hope all goes well xDefo shouldn't have read all these stories when I'm due to give birth in a month as a first time mum.
So sorry all you ladies had to go through that it sounds horrific
Hi, not posted on this thread before, just wanted to say I completely agree, I'm forever reminding people that their GP is just that, GENERAL PRACTITIONER! I'm in no way putting them down, but pointing out that they are general and not specialist, they learn a bit about most things, they can't be expected to remember every guideline or ailment etc, they see lots of patients with different things going on, I would rather they checked if they weren't 100%
This is bleeping horrifying. A butcher doctor who they are 'supervising' instead of firing, one patient they won't admit is living or dead, and a woman who was bullied mercilessly by some utter cunts of 'nurses' when she was suffering from the effects of the butcher doctor's surgery.
I really wish it was practice to push nurses and doctors straight into court for this level of behaviour. Ruin the fuckers. Prison sentences. \Poverty making fines. Sell your houses fines. Public name and shame. There are mistakes and there is being an evil bleep. As it is, I bet none of them even gets their professional accreditation yanked. As for these butcher doctors, they deserve prison cells and the colleagues who who knew their incompetence and didn't do anything about it deserve to be demoted to the bottom of the pay scale and also named and shamed.
Injured patient left in urine-soaked bed sheets and labelled ‘lazy’ by nurses after botched surgery (msn.com)
I think there are certain NHS hospitals that basically need dismantling brick by brick and many staff barring for life from being near patients. You need to root out every single nurse with a crappy attitude without mercy or the culture that allows mistreatment of patients will never be destroyed.
It's not the fact that some tit people become nurses and doctors and some are basically thick and useless, it's the fact the NHS and other medical institutions seem to constantly cover up for them and punish whistleblowers that destroys my confidence in the profession.
I really wish it was practice to push nurses and doctors straight into court for this level of behaviour. Ruin the fuckers. Prison sentences. \Poverty making fines. Sell your houses fines. Public name and shame. There are mistakes and there is being an evil bleep. As it is, I bet none of them even gets their professional accreditation yanked. As for these butcher doctors, they deserve prison cells and the colleagues who who knew their incompetence and didn't do anything about it deserve to be demoted to the bottom of the pay scale and also named and shamed.
Injured patient left in urine-soaked bed sheets and labelled ‘lazy’ by nurses after botched surgery (msn.com)
Honestly, if I found a relative or friend being treated like this in any hospital I would have trouble not taking the nearest nurse-offender by the hair and mashing their face repeatedly into a hard surface.
I think there are certain NHS hospitals that basically need dismantling brick by brick and many staff barring for life from being near patients. You need to root out every single nurse with a crappy attitude without mercy or the culture that allows mistreatment of patients will never be destroyed.
It's not the fact that some tit people become nurses and doctors and some are basically thick and useless, it's the fact the NHS and other medical institutions seem to constantly cover up for them and punish whistleblowers that destroys my confidence in the profession.
I’ve never had anything but awful negative experiences of the NHS, from my grandad being told he had asthma (advanced lung cancer) to when my children were born. I can’t give names without outing myself but a quick google of my mother in law and her dying after a routine operation would tell anybody all they need to know about my local trust.
An interesting article in the MailOnline (sorry) about gps and the nhs
Have our GPs stopped caring? BEL MOONEY tells of her fury at trying to get a local doctor to see her 97-year-old mother - and shares the stories of others betrayed by the service they trusted
Sorry I can’t seem to attach the article
Have our GPs stopped caring? BEL MOONEY tells of her fury at trying to get a local doctor to see her 97-year-old mother - and shares the stories of others betrayed by the service they trusted
Sorry I can’t seem to attach the article
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Strangely, I just finished reading this article ( not the same one) and see this post
Walsall mother made 196 calls for son to see GP
The partnership that runs the surgeries says it is hiring more staff following complaints.
www.bbc.co.uk
Most of my family have worked for the NHS at some point (we live near a big teaching hospital) and I’d be one of their biggest supporters, but they really failed my son.
He was only 13 months old so he couldn’t tell me what was wrong. He had a fever but no obvious symptoms, after a few days his fever was reaching 41 degrees so took him to the GP, checked him over but they said he was fine “probably just a virus”, keep alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen.
As soon as medicine wore off his fever would peak at 40 degrees again, he turned a really nasty grey colour so I took him to out of hours, “he’s fine, just a virus”. I was adamant he wasn’t fine, so I took him back to the GP. “He’s fine”.
After a really, really bad night, after 10 days of a 40 degree fever, I took him to A&E. We were there for about 11 hours, they took bloods & swabs, took urine, then sent us home with antibiotics for an ear infection. They said to call them directly if he didn’t improve in 2-3 days:
3 days later he still hadn’t improved, so I called them. They got his notes up and told me to bring him in ASAP. The markers in his blood showed he had Sepsis. Nobody had checked his results until now.
He was in for 4 days on IV antibiotics, it turned out he had a urine infection which had been left untreated, and he now has permanent kidney damage from the infection. He goes for checks up on his kidney function every 6 months (kidney function should be 50/50, his are 57/43). One is much smaller than the other due to scar tissue.
Moral of the story- trust your instinct, if you think something isn’t right, keep pushing.
He was only 13 months old so he couldn’t tell me what was wrong. He had a fever but no obvious symptoms, after a few days his fever was reaching 41 degrees so took him to the GP, checked him over but they said he was fine “probably just a virus”, keep alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen.
As soon as medicine wore off his fever would peak at 40 degrees again, he turned a really nasty grey colour so I took him to out of hours, “he’s fine, just a virus”. I was adamant he wasn’t fine, so I took him back to the GP. “He’s fine”.
After a really, really bad night, after 10 days of a 40 degree fever, I took him to A&E. We were there for about 11 hours, they took bloods & swabs, took urine, then sent us home with antibiotics for an ear infection. They said to call them directly if he didn’t improve in 2-3 days:
3 days later he still hadn’t improved, so I called them. They got his notes up and told me to bring him in ASAP. The markers in his blood showed he had Sepsis. Nobody had checked his results until now.
He was in for 4 days on IV antibiotics, it turned out he had a urine infection which had been left untreated, and he now has permanent kidney damage from the infection. He goes for checks up on his kidney function every 6 months (kidney function should be 50/50, his are 57/43). One is much smaller than the other due to scar tissue.
Moral of the story- trust your instinct, if you think something isn’t right, keep pushing.
Not a story or anything overly interesting but for some reason, through my own personal experience, I’ve found that locum GPS/ hospital doctors/pharmacist often tend to care and will actually do more to help find the actual issue with a patient. I’m not sure if this is just because they’re locums so their stress is perhaps less because they’re always in new environments but that’s genuinely what I’ve found. Mainly because it was locum GP who actually diagnosed me with type 1 diabetes when I was 13, when all the other doctors had just written it off as a water infection
Also, not sure if this has been talked about, but if anyone cares to watch, I found this quite interesting https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m000w7rk
Edit just to say, be careful of watching that link above if you’re easily upset by hearing about and seeing trauma, and would recommend to avoid if you’re pregnant. Hard to watch, but interesting (to me) none the less
Also, not sure if this has been talked about, but if anyone cares to watch, I found this quite interesting https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m000w7rk
Edit just to say, be careful of watching that link above if you’re easily upset by hearing about and seeing trauma, and would recommend to avoid if you’re pregnant. Hard to watch, but interesting (to me) none the less
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So sorry in advance for long reply
We’ve had some AWFUL experiences with doctors in surgery as well as hospital
Carer to dad, aunt and mum through their illnesses
Dad: diagnosed with a brain tumour after a seizure in 2015, inoperable, given 3-6 months. He made 2.5 years before having to go into hospital with impacted bowel. They called me to collect him after a week (I’d obv visited too). As soon as I saw him I said I can’t take him home he’s still not well. Was reassured that he was in fact very well and fit for home. I had to lift him into car and lift him up steps to get him home. Next day he was delirious and raving, no urine output etc. Confirmed by hospital he had sepsis (catheter). Told it would kill him. He recovered but bowel still blocked. He then was put next to a really ill looking skeletal man with his pj top open and looking so ill, there was a fan blowing over this man towards dad. I complained and asked to at least have curtain closed (refused). He developed pneumonia. Told it would kill him. He fought it off and they said they’d put him into geriatric hospital (he was 82). His heart gave out a couple of days later in adamant it’s because his body was so stressed with all those infections.
Aunt: (lived next door to us and was my other mum really) very very fit 88 year old except bad arthritis in legs, would still scrub kitchen floor herself. Called me to say she felt very unwell and could I come? Sore back, nausea. Doctor on call came out and said it was her arthritis having spread to her back. Upped her ibuprofen. Happened again a month later so I raced there, called another doctor. She was vomiting this time. He said it was actually a heart attack and ambulance was on way. I had no idea that a sore back could be a heart attack symptom in women. Ambulance driver said he couldn’t believe with how bad her heart attack was that she was just sitting up.
Took her to hospital, after much wrangling with a social worker that said I wanted to kill her because I explained her house was filthy and shed live with me until a new house purchase from me for her and my mum went through. I said she’d be dead within two days if she went back to grubby house.
Managed to care for her at home until a hospital acquired infection was apparent, she was admitted and passed after a few days (Oct 18)
Mum: kept her safe and cared for her through first lockdown, cancelled her carers and hubby and I did it all to keep her safe. Oct last year she was unwell with stomach swelling and diahorrea. Doctor on call advised she should go to a&e. I insisted on going in as mum had MH issues and I was PoA (as I was for whole family). Kept in for a week. She was diagnosed with liver issues and didn’t believe me when I said she didn’t drink - she wasn’t mobile and I did all her shopping.
I visited when allowed and made her walk (against nurse advice though they wouldn’t do it)as she was very sedentary and quite frankly we’d worked since we became her sole carers to make sure she was getting more active and actually managed to stop her needing her wheelchair. I also took her to toilet myself as no point in having her wait on nurses having time. The day she was meant to be discharged we got a call to say she’d been diagnosed with covid and had to isolate for 2 weeks in hospital although she had no symptoms whatsoever and I was willing to isolate with her in her house and do it all myself. Those two weeks she was stuck in bed as nobody would exercise her.
When she was discharged (again after a fight as nurse said they didn’t know I could look after her even tho SW was amazed at her progress) she was frail and had lost at least 1.5st. She was still weak and ill so I called doctors. Asked doc on call to check mums meds she’d been discharged with as they didn’t look right to me (no medical training at all). She’d been kept on her diuretic after her oedema had gone down to the extent that she was severely dehydrated, the next day had to sign a DNR. They asked if we wanted her to go into hospice for palliative care which we (not so) politely declined. She passed peacefully at home with us holding her hand but I firmly believe she would still be here if they had checked her meds instead of just sending her home with them
Sorry meant to say mum passed nov 27 last year at 81
We’ve had some AWFUL experiences with doctors in surgery as well as hospital
Carer to dad, aunt and mum through their illnesses
Dad: diagnosed with a brain tumour after a seizure in 2015, inoperable, given 3-6 months. He made 2.5 years before having to go into hospital with impacted bowel. They called me to collect him after a week (I’d obv visited too). As soon as I saw him I said I can’t take him home he’s still not well. Was reassured that he was in fact very well and fit for home. I had to lift him into car and lift him up steps to get him home. Next day he was delirious and raving, no urine output etc. Confirmed by hospital he had sepsis (catheter). Told it would kill him. He recovered but bowel still blocked. He then was put next to a really ill looking skeletal man with his pj top open and looking so ill, there was a fan blowing over this man towards dad. I complained and asked to at least have curtain closed (refused). He developed pneumonia. Told it would kill him. He fought it off and they said they’d put him into geriatric hospital (he was 82). His heart gave out a couple of days later in adamant it’s because his body was so stressed with all those infections.
Aunt: (lived next door to us and was my other mum really) very very fit 88 year old except bad arthritis in legs, would still scrub kitchen floor herself. Called me to say she felt very unwell and could I come? Sore back, nausea. Doctor on call came out and said it was her arthritis having spread to her back. Upped her ibuprofen. Happened again a month later so I raced there, called another doctor. She was vomiting this time. He said it was actually a heart attack and ambulance was on way. I had no idea that a sore back could be a heart attack symptom in women. Ambulance driver said he couldn’t believe with how bad her heart attack was that she was just sitting up.
Took her to hospital, after much wrangling with a social worker that said I wanted to kill her because I explained her house was filthy and shed live with me until a new house purchase from me for her and my mum went through. I said she’d be dead within two days if she went back to grubby house.
Managed to care for her at home until a hospital acquired infection was apparent, she was admitted and passed after a few days (Oct 18)
Mum: kept her safe and cared for her through first lockdown, cancelled her carers and hubby and I did it all to keep her safe. Oct last year she was unwell with stomach swelling and diahorrea. Doctor on call advised she should go to a&e. I insisted on going in as mum had MH issues and I was PoA (as I was for whole family). Kept in for a week. She was diagnosed with liver issues and didn’t believe me when I said she didn’t drink - she wasn’t mobile and I did all her shopping.
I visited when allowed and made her walk (against nurse advice though they wouldn’t do it)as she was very sedentary and quite frankly we’d worked since we became her sole carers to make sure she was getting more active and actually managed to stop her needing her wheelchair. I also took her to toilet myself as no point in having her wait on nurses having time. The day she was meant to be discharged we got a call to say she’d been diagnosed with covid and had to isolate for 2 weeks in hospital although she had no symptoms whatsoever and I was willing to isolate with her in her house and do it all myself. Those two weeks she was stuck in bed as nobody would exercise her.
When she was discharged (again after a fight as nurse said they didn’t know I could look after her even tho SW was amazed at her progress) she was frail and had lost at least 1.5st. She was still weak and ill so I called doctors. Asked doc on call to check mums meds she’d been discharged with as they didn’t look right to me (no medical training at all). She’d been kept on her diuretic after her oedema had gone down to the extent that she was severely dehydrated, the next day had to sign a DNR. They asked if we wanted her to go into hospice for palliative care which we (not so) politely declined. She passed peacefully at home with us holding her hand but I firmly believe she would still be here if they had checked her meds instead of just sending her home with them
Sorry meant to say mum passed nov 27 last year at 81
I had a good experience recently with my toddler. I was concerned about her foot that it wasn’t developing properly. I emailed a photo to my health visitor team who called me the next day and advised I speak to a GP. My GP have an online form you can complete so I did that as I could send the photo again. A GP called me the next day and said they didn’t think it was anything concerning but would speak to paediatrics to be sure. I received an email about a week later confirming paediatrics have said nothing to worry about but if it doesn’t change by x age then I can ask for a referral. I suppose some people might see it as being fobbed off but I feel reassured and it is on her records now if I feel it’s causing an issue later down the line.
My baby waited 16 weeks for a tongue tie diagnosis. She was hospitalised twice in this period one time after hitting 24 hours without feeding and was given medication for oral thrush. It was a lady in a shop who noticed my daughters tongue didn’t lift off the bottom of her mouth when she cried and she advised me to see a feeding specialist who confirmed that yes, many pediatric drs had looked in my daughters mouth and failed to notice her tongue tie. Even after she was tube fed for 24 hours during which time she was a happy content baby, something I had never known, I commented this and still nobody clocked that maybe it’s because she was actually being fed properly.
However this is the same hospital that discharged me after her birth without completing all the tests they said I would have to pass and who let me find out for myself what had happened to me during labour when I went for a shower. Absolutely shocking.
I will say however when she had an awful skin reaction at 5 months and her skin was literally peeling away the drs at a&e took it very seriously and couldn’t believe her GP had sent her away with only a prescription for savlon.
However this is the same hospital that discharged me after her birth without completing all the tests they said I would have to pass and who let me find out for myself what had happened to me during labour when I went for a shower. Absolutely shocking.
I will say however when she had an awful skin reaction at 5 months and her skin was literally peeling away the drs at a&e took it very seriously and couldn’t believe her GP had sent her away with only a prescription for savlon.
I have a lot of bad things I will share in time, most are to do with mental health services/psychiatry
Right now however I wish to rave about the practice nurse I've been seeing at the GP. Turned up with some weird infected sore on my leg, the nurse wasn't happy with how it looked and what it even was (!) so she called the doctor who was also baffled by it, so called a specialist in to have a look and prescribe some antibiotics, I felt very well looked after. They were very thorough and I felt suitably reassured that my leg wasn't about to fall off
I've been seeing the nurse a few times a week to get my dressing changed, and she is fab! She also doesn't mind my gross wound or my hairy legs haha.
I used to dread going to the doctor because they were pretty much dismissive of basically any problem I had & put everything down to mental health or weight. So it's nice to be treated differently after I put off going for so long, like actually taken seriously for once. I was dreading the first appointment, but i needn't have worried!
Right now however I wish to rave about the practice nurse I've been seeing at the GP. Turned up with some weird infected sore on my leg, the nurse wasn't happy with how it looked and what it even was (!) so she called the doctor who was also baffled by it, so called a specialist in to have a look and prescribe some antibiotics, I felt very well looked after. They were very thorough and I felt suitably reassured that my leg wasn't about to fall off
I've been seeing the nurse a few times a week to get my dressing changed, and she is fab! She also doesn't mind my gross wound or my hairy legs haha.
I used to dread going to the doctor because they were pretty much dismissive of basically any problem I had & put everything down to mental health or weight. So it's nice to be treated differently after I put off going for so long, like actually taken seriously for once. I was dreading the first appointment, but i needn't have worried!
I had a bad tear with my 1st child, he was on the highest centile for head circumference. My mw was a trainee and she stitched me up. Weeks after having my baby, I was still sitting on inflatable rings to ease the pain and any intimacy down there was a no go. With it being my first baby, I honestly thought this was normal. Months passed and I dared go to the gp with my mum in tow for support and I was examined by a female gp. She said I had a prolapse and the I'd been stitched incorrectly, basically part of my skin now covered where baby came out, sorry tmi! We sat down after the examination, dreading the idea of possible surgery, to be told (off record) to get drunk if I wanted to be intimate in the future. I was young and naive at the time so just took it. I had my next child 3yrs later, had a tear, got stitched up and to my relief, it was done properly. This was the turning point of realising how I had lived for the past few years was so wrong. I then became pregnant very quickly after with my third and was honestly traumatised by my first birth (I also developed vaginal sepsis and went into shock, only my mum raised concerns) so was very dubious about birthing again. I spoke with my midwife, hospital consultants, etc who offered a c-section after going through my medical history. I then had to have a meeting with the top consultant and head of midwifery (both males) to basically beg for the csection and to be told prolapsed are something so many live with (I had severe incontinence and alot of pain) and that they could guarantee if I tore again, it would be done correctly. I wouldn't have minded such a meeting to discuss things further but they honestly made me feel like I was a hypochondriac.