New Zealand Influencers and Public Figures #26

[shytetalker2.0]

I wonder if DD CF realises that kids grow up. They're at home for about 18-20 years, then they leave.... independent... gone. Then you get the best of both worlds.

Freedom, AND kids. Kids that now cook xmas dinner for you. Who buy you the things from Father Rabbit that you've mentioned you love. Who use coasters on your polished wood tables, and sit around your new stone kitchen Island, praising your interior design choices. Who come out to dinner and drink wine with you.... You pay the bill of course, but still.... Kids aren't babies and toddlers forever.

Everything you just said is SO right and more!

In regards to Ellie Haines and Danni commenting on her post: you’ve got to hand it to Danni. Her own voice is clearly the loudest in her ears and it takes some serious self absorption to be that ignorant and to ignore free feedback that your content is extreme and unnecessary.

Danni will have children and then she will look like such a fucking idiot. She isn’t child free, she just hasn’t had children yet. There’s a HUGE difference.

One of my friends had her tubes tied and her husband had a vasectomy both via private surgery because their doctors wouldn’t do anything due to their ages and how they might change their minds. They are staunchly child free and didn’t want any accidents so they got fixed lol now THAT is child free. And you know what? They’ve NEVER mention their stance either online or in person it’s just a non-issue. I don’t care that they don’t want kids and they don’t care that I have kids we just get on with life. I only know they had the surgeries because we are close.

 

[relatableboujeebiarch]

Jesus it looks like Ashlea Harris has a real catastrophy on her hands

 

[hereforfreestuff]

“Wahh wahhh I didn’t/don’t have a village ”
Few hours later, kids at her parents. I don’t think she understands what having a village means lol

 

[Peaches24]

I feel the same way about cats. Us cat-free people need a safe space to talk about being cat-free too!
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I’m not sure this is allowed- Gareth Morgan tried to start this and he got cancelled.

 

[HashtagJustPoppedOnToSay]

How do we know she drank during pregnancy? Like what did she say about this/how much etc? He’s 100% got FASD. So sad.

I followed her when she was pregnant with him. So saw it. She also talked about it in one of her podcast episodes, how in her second and third trimester she had a glass of wine every night. That’s more than what I drink when I’m not pregnant!

He would likely have some tell tale features that would support that. But then again , so does she

He does. He has so many indicators of FAS (based on what she’s shared with her followers) - sensory seeking behaviour, struggle to self-regulate, flight or fight response, hyperactivity.

I don’t think what you have said is accurate here. Psychotherapists and psychiatrists don’t tend to open with criticising your parenting. They start with observing your kid, parents and teachers fill in surveys and then it is decided who needs to do the assessment. Sometimes it’s a neuro psychologist sometimes it’s a paediatrician who specialises in this. I think M is kidding herself if she thinks it’s ADHD, but having someone label your child can be upsetting and difficult. As parents you ask yourself where you have gone wrong etc.
I think it’s a bit much to imply, or outright say, that he has FASD. None of us know him or the family, none of us are trained professionals who have treated/observed him so we all shouldn’t be diagnosing him from our arm chairs.

You might think it’s a bit much to imply the possibility of FAS. But she drank every day she was pregnant with him so

I followed her when she was pregnant with him. So saw it. She also talked about it in one of her podcast episodes, how in her second and third trimester she had a glass of wine every night. That’s more than what I drink when I’m not pregnant!

 

[justhereforthetea2022]

Tf? Seriously who would do this

 

[simonepretscum]

Megan Papas the latest influencer to flog off the cord banking scam for money!

 

[Sadie123]

Surprised Christian hasn't been canceled. Can you imagine if it was a 40 year old straight man posting sneaky photos and videos of "hot" young women at the beach. Pretty sure he'd get arrested or at least spoken to... in NZ anyway.

 

[SimoneAnderSpon]

real life wife is great. Marnie doesn’t get it.
She consistently talks so badly about Mack all the time every comment includes something cutting or harsh about him. Saying one child out of three and naming them and showing a photo and saying this one child ruined my life is horrible and her cult of awful followers validating her because they’re also horrible parents is nuts. She shared a video saying I wish my life was like this but it isn’t because of Mack. She said Mack is hard to love not Moby or Riv. She said mack terrorises them and holds them hostage. I can’t even remember the last time she said something loving about Mack. He is not a lucky child. She just only listens to prople on instagram who agree with her.

There's just no self awareness here whatsoever.

To me, a basic analogy would be like (and yeah it doesn't work all the way because a parent-child relationship is obv different but bear with me)...

Coming across a post by her husband saying "Marnie is really hard to love with all of her scatter-brained ideas, and wanting us to do 10 different things at once, but I'm so grateful for how resilient I've gotten over time putting up with her. I've had to give up a ton of my dreams because of the person she is, but that's okay I still love her."

Would she feel like that's complimentary towards her? Makes her feel loved, or merely tolerated?

Oh, and this picture was in a public forum... with a picture of her.

 

[#hereforthegoss]

I find the whole thing weird, of her (DD) being staunchly child-free. I'm in my 50s and hubby and I chose to be childfree. I would never follow someone like DD. For me being childfree isn't a 'lifestyle'. I have friends with kids, friends without kids, and it's not something I ever talk about unless asked. Then I explain I just never felt I wanted them and neither did hubby, then thats the convo about it done and we move on to more interesting discussions. I don't understand why it needs to be a 'niche'. Maybe other folks have different experiences but for me it doesn't affect my life any differently than my friends, we still have struggles just like every other human, being childfree doesn't mean your life is carefree.

 

[trentstillworksfromhome]

Yuck. I say it all the time but Christian is so sleezy and gross to me. There’s something MAJORLY off about him that I can’t put a finger on. It’s nothing to do with his sexuality or anything like that he just gives me really icky vibes.

I think it’s the dichotomy between his Instagram page which is meant to be a wholesome parenting page devoted to notes to his two kids, and the reality of his personality, which as I’ve said before, seems stuck in the early 2000s, Sex and the City mode of one dimensional “woo woo fabulous party gays”.

Mark doesn’t strike me as the same as this, which makes Christian’s persona grate all the more, as it seems like he’s trying to push back against the responsibilities of marriage and parenting all the time, whilst profiting off of what marriage and parenting do for his insta presence.

 

[Peaches24]

I am so sorry about this. I struggled with infertility for years and was luckily blessed with my daughter but I'll never forget the pain to get here.

Thank hun it’s been hard- we have now had to decided enough is enough, so will be childless by circumstance. I do get really wound up by influencers that bitch and winge about their children and/or harp on about how amazing it is to be child free, either way they should just count themselves fucken lucky and they had a choice.

 

[Sadie123]

Sad about Dai Henwood

 

[heyteaaaaam]

I mean, I tried to warn them Holly outed them in her stories and she’s changed her Insta profile pic. A good reminder to check! It was very easy to work out.

Hi, it was me 🥲 I asked the mods to delete my original post and there was another post someone made with a screenshot of HM’s story with my details.

Lesson learned, check your shit before you post it. It is what it is, I’ll own that I’m a bitch and now people know who I am. It’s just the internet though

 

[Peaches24]

This deserves to be in a book of the all time greatest quotes!

 

[hazelnot]

Danni rubs me up totally the wrong way, trying to figure out exactly why, but it's really just a gut reaction to her smug holier than thou act.
And YES so many people I know who are childfree have made it permanent early in their lives. I don't think she is as commited to the idea as she claims in insta.

Yeah, I was much the same, and I think it's the know-it-all (but-actually-quite-ignorant) vibes for me. She comes across as incredibly sheltered, privileged and judgmental. Like many have said, a lot of what she shares as being able to do because she's cHiLdFrEe isn't even about being childfree, it's about being a middle class white woman who has the luxury of being supported by a full time working husband.

I don't want to detract from the pain she felt in an emotionally abusive relationship, because I know it's real and I know it's horrific in its own way, but pitching herself as a voice for abused women and speaking as if she intimately understands trauma really irks me when from everything she's shared, it sounds like her ex was a twat - for sure - and he behaved inappropriately, was controlling and possessive - for sure - but it's just not the same as horrific physical violence where you are essentially imprisoned, injured, totally and utterly demeaned, and in constant fear for your life (or, in the most extreme cases, have your life taken). It's not. Knowing that version of abuse, it makes me feel ... all sorts of things when she gets on her high horse about abuse. And there was always an uncomfortable undercurrent where I felt like a lot of it, again, was simply trying to find a niche. Playing on that sort of shit for engagement never sat well with me - and sure enough, when it didn't take off but something else did, she stopped talking about it altogether and instead went balls-to-the-wall on what got likes, and now presents herself totally differently.

Now it's the same with the childfree angle; she's NOT childfree - she's just a woman who hasn't had kids yet. She'll flog this horse loud and proud and pretend she's on the same wavelength as everyone else she's "created a community" for, but it's not true.

It just feels like it's all been incrementally less and less authentic. The fakeness grinds my gears. It's like the less she believes what she's putting out, the harder she goes on it, the smugger she appears, and as people celebrate her sass she leans into that more and crosses into mean girl territory. To perpetuate a narrative that's NOT EVEN TRUE.

 

[hereforthegoss29]

I’m so sick of Dani Duncan saying she has more money than people with kids. I have 2 kids and I am more than certain I have more money and buy nicer things than her. Even get the occasional sleep in.
Also you’re not CF by choice if you think you might have a baby one day. You’re just single with kids

 

[happymonday]

Totally see both sides and points to the CF saga but I think it’s pretty shitty off JG and DD to come and spew condescending comments on Ellies post which she posted ON HER PAGE, literally about how it makes her feel. If it makes her feel a type of way she isn’t wrong and it’s super disrespectful of them to do that.
Side note why are so many influencers dying their hair the copper/red colour? It’s so cringe at this point all just copying each other and feels like they’re trying to fit in. Fair play to Millie who has had it quite a few years before it was ‘cool’

 

[hereforfreestuff]

Hey, I'll join your home owner's community! We can all make snarky reels and tiktoks about why it's so great owning our own homes and when renters point out that it's not always that great we'll tell them that our content isn't meant for them and they can go and sit with the other peasants.

Next thing, DD create content about how being “mortgage free by choice” and renting is the way to go. So much happier, so much freedom, no maintenance to do etc. Danni “Renter” Duncan
*not throwing shade to renters- just to DD lol*

 

[WatermelonSugar22]

But as Rebecca said Tarryn is also camping but this would never upset her

God they are so triggered by tattle! Calm down Rebecca, I’m not here for you, your life is boring. Just keep living it and stop coming here.