I do this with my husband
I also use you ladies and your sometimes rotten partners to tell him, “oh so and so’s husband has been awful today, I’m so glad you’re not like that”, and IT WORKS!
this is very childish but can you make him jealous of another dad being good with baby? Like if you see a friend and their partner you can say oh Lee was amazing with baby, you should have seen how much fun they had and she was giggling away, he even *insert thing you want him to do with her*
I think he feels the need to encourage me to bf as his family are a bunch of judgemental people who think bf is the only way. My sis had a chat to me as well and reminded me to suit myself and only me. Thank you for reminding me 
these first few days are tough
I should have realised although literally up to tonight she’s just chucked the fruit around the room but scary stuff xx
I think traditionally that safe place to put baby would have been your mum/a female relative’s arms. We’re really going through something as a society where we’re expected to get on with things by ourselves and it would have never been like that for our ancestors ( and it’s not like that in other cultures). The saying it takes a village to raise a baby exists for a reason and it’s that many hands make light work. In other cultures the grandmother comes for 40 days to look after the baby whilst the mother heals. Here you either have family who are willing to come and help you (but if you’ve just given birth in a UK NHS hospital they unfortunately don’t have the resource, space or frameworks to enable this), or you have to be able to afford to buy in help in the form of a post natal doula or night nurse - which isn’t accessible for many people. I felt awful and weird leaving TM while I went to the loo when we were in the hospital. If my girls have babies I want to be able to provide that support to them.In a way I would’ve liked somewhere safe I could put baby? Just for 5-10 minutes, my husband left me alone for the day so he could go sleep at home, anytime I needed the loo the staff on the desk just told me to leave baby in my bay.
Just remember, pumping is not indicative of how much you are producing, and don't let it stress you out if you think you're not getting much out. A baby is much more efficient at emptying a boob than a machine is.
My absolute Ted Bundy level psychopath of a husband would sleep at night with the curtains open if I didn't close them. Before we got together, he didn't own curtains or a bath matYes!!! My husband will get up and put the living room light on rather than open the curtains. Both are the same distance from his usual chair
he wasn't ridiculously young either so no excuse
Mention it to your Dr or HV if you’re worried but periods seem awful after birth.
at one point I thought I’m just going to have to excuse myself aren’t I. I got up after the meeting so self consciously. I was wearing a long black and white dress. Thankfully didn’t come through but it was horrific. My periods right now are so heavy I have to wear the heaviest flow tampon and pad and I’m still not guaranteed I’ll make it a couple of hours without going through 
it’s grim AF. 
i struggled with breastfeeding & pumping and i would politely tell your husband to f off
it’s HARD WORK. my baby lost weight too and i introduced formula, best thing i did.
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Even Joseph did his fair share when Mary had an immaculate conception
It's so hard isn't it, we are stuck in a cycle of split nights and my reaction to it tonight is rage. Pick him up he squirms and lies awake looking at me but put him down and he just cries. Had to leave the room to cry myself now back in the game. Hope your night gets better x