I think it’s very wrong that Nadia appears to have no communication channel with Julia of any kind.
Firstly, Julia’s concerns about Kiki on SM. She clearly made reference to additional accounts and that she thought that Nadia was not aware of all of the accounts. No matter what has gone on between the sisters…Julia should ALWAYS be able to raise a safeguarding concern, she had a close family relationship with them at one point and there is no reason to assume that if she points out a safety concern…that it isn’t just genuine because she is concerned for safety. If Julia had been able to send Nadia a direct message, with links to the SM pages and lost her concerns…all Nadia would need to do in response to her estranged sister is acknowledge the message had been read and noted. It would then be for Nadia as a parent to decide how to proceed or whether to ignore the concern of her sister. Julia still cares for her nieces, so some factual one-way information such as when something significant happens, such as for example if Maddie and Patrick were to get engaged…should come from Nadia (or Maddie herself) not a third party or seeing the news on SM.
Secondly, and this is a much bigger issue.Their parents are elderly and their father has obvious health issues. They should be able to communicate on the facts of this. If for example one parent is hospitalised, Nadia should able to send Julia a text stating the facts of why and how she can visit. It is selfish of Nadia to force Dina or the other parent to be the only ones who can communicate, at times of stress, or when they are dealing with an emergency…it is not much to ask for her to keep a factual dialogue going if it’s needed. What happens if a parent is in hospital…does Dina need to act as negotiator because her other 2 sisters can’t communicate on agreeing which visiting times they want? It’s pathetic. What happens when one of the parents die? Again is it down to Dina to be the go-between on top of everything else she will be lumbered with doing, does the remaining parent have to walk on eggshells with rowing daughters even at a funeral and wake?
I can see that the sisters aren’t likely to ever kiss and make up…they are incompatible…and to an extent that is okay, if you can’t stand someone that applies whether you are related to them or not. What the real problem is that it appears that Nadia cannot differentiate a falling out you have with a friend that you never need to deal with again, and a sister who is connected to you for life. By not allowing any factual exchanges of information, such politely reading and acknowledging each other’s communication, but not entering into arguments or even responses about it, they are denying each other important communication about the loved ones they have in common.
If Julia had been able to voice her concern directly and privately to Nadia, and received a polite acknowledgment that she would think about and look and the accounts and decide whether to speak to her daughters privately and not enter into a debate on the matter directly with her sister…even if Nadia then decided not to take any action…Julia would have said her piece and likely thought that is the best she can do.
Yet by denying her a channel of communication…Julia had to go direct to the girls, who also didn’t acknowledge her or say they considered her points but are happy with their choices so won’t be acting on her advice…they blocked her. Julia then had to go more widely public to get her point accross.
Nadia hates it when Julia speaks out publicly…but I actually think she gives her no other way to get an acknowledgment from Nadia that she has been heard. So Nadia causes it to have to happen that way and then acts like the victim. It seems to me that Julia in general can’t be mentioned in the S-A household…which may include by Dina and the parents, plus Nadia runs away to hotel if there is even the chance that Julia could be near enough to knock on her door…so how does Nadia expect Julia to deal with real-time problems that she feels she needs to communicate to her.