Mumsnet

[BethanyGilbert]

I have just had the most MN thing happen. I mentioned on a thread my holiday had been cancelled and someone replied with...
"Come back to me when you've gone 30 years without a holiday abroad and you have to save for 2 years just for a holiday in Cornwall"
I haven't been on holiday in 5 years but even if I had last summer why shouldn't I be upset I should be going to Disney this weekend rather than for a walk.

 

[String Man]

AIBU is the worst place to post, you need to be very tough skinned (or insane) to post a thread on there. Chat is a lot more gentle, but a bit boring.

I used to post on Mumsnet quite a lot but deleted my account earlier this year. I was very close to being banned anyway

The only thing I can thank MN for is leading me to Tattle via a Gabriella Lindley thread.

 

[Jeeze Louise]

I gave mumsnet £50 as I was worried about them closing down as so many use them for support. I had no idea just how much money they made because they run it like its a small cottage company or charity struggling to get by as it runs so badly and keeps getting hacked. Anyway I got baned last week for talking about meghan markle. I didn't say anything bad more that the language used was like finding freedom and I don't know what to believe. I thought there was a glitch with the site when I couldn't login, then no password reset was being sent and they've wiped my account without even an email after taking my £50. And mumsnet premium is a load of tosh, nothing premium about it. I wouldn't trust that site again.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

It’s Mother’s Day and of course over on Mumsnet we have the usual threads complaining about lack of effort from children and husbands or partners. Most of the time they have very unrealistic expectations of what to expect and sound so fucking ungrateful. One poster is moaning that she only got a card and small potted plant from her toddler. I feel they’ve totally forgotten what Mothers Day is about, it’s a religious festival not Christmas mark 2. What do they want or expect?

 

[Yel]

It exists just to sell data to brands, work with infuencers and get very lucrative deals like their 6 figure deals with Lidl and mondelez. All shit it's about helping people.

The users there are terrible, calling all kind of names to this gossip forum when their "am I unreasonable" threads seem to just be full of people taking a swipe at each other just to be unpleasant. Nasty place.

We just gossip here and if it's not your cup of tea it's easily avoided. But lots think infuencers unlike celebs are the kind of public figure that are beyond reproach. Strange.

 

[watermelon sugar]

The whole DH, DS, DD goes through me

 

[HeeeeyDuggee]

Ha ha! Yes, and on every thread about snoring husbands the majority of posters say 'can't you just sleep in the spare room?' What effing spare room?

 

[DCICassieStuart]

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Can I also add ‘get your ducks in a row’ and ‘get yourself a shit hot lawyer’ to that list please? Also, I can only make a chicken last for just the one meal rather than 6 years, so I’ll leave the membership to anyone who’s still eating a chicken that they cooked on the eve of the millennium.

Don't forget that you're entitled to '30 minutes free' with that shit hot lawyer. They HAVE to give it to you, and if you don't manage to 'LTB' after getting your 'ducks in a row', then why not 'treat yourself to a spa day and get a cleaner'

 

[ButtonDownTheHutches]

A heads up for fans of MN’s long-standing, bulletproof troll Crumbs: in her latest incarnation she has an ultra-twattish thread on the go about being too posh to realise that England are playing in the ‘World Cup final’ tonight and it could potentially spoil her plans for supper for ten on the terrace.

Inexplicably, many people appear to actually believe it!

 

[rainbowlemon]

 

[CrapEars]

I was on there. Still occasionally have a quick look but it’s nothing like it used to be.
It’s helped me a bit over the years, people on the Style & Beauty threads are often very helpful but AIBU is awful. I got absolutely slated for asking if an eight year old should be able to wipe their own arse, it wasn’t the fact that I was asking was a problem, it was the fact that I’d used the word ‘arse’. The professionally offended on MN were almost swooning at the word. I was apparently the worst person in the world. And I’m a stepmother, so I’m always wrong anyway.

 

[JulieScoobyDoo]

It doesn’t matter who you are, what your job is or how much volunteering and giving back you do the rules are the fucking rules. We’re in lockdown until told otherwise. I know somebody who’s second home was broken into and he isn’t allowed to drive 80 miles to go and check it.

AF is an entitled twat and everyone defending her needs to get a fucking grip.

 

[BethanyGilbert]

Someone on their today said they don't consider anyone with 100 million extraordinarily wealthy. I'll try and get a screenshot.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

But heaven forbid one of the tradesmen they employ goes and takes a dump in the ensuite.

There was a thread before Christmas about offering tea and coffee to tradesmen. Now thats just basic common decency to me, but the amount of posters who were horrified at the thought of offering ‘the help’ a brew was shocking. Apparently they should bring their own in a flask (most do), but it’s still good manners to offer them a drink in my opinion. Then they all wonder why they get such bad service from tradesmen, Well maybe because you so obviously look down on them and see them as beneath you?

For all their wokedom, they are all mostly a bunch of stuck up middle class Hyacinth Buckets.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

One thing I’ve noticed about the pandemic from working from kids is how resilient they are and how they have easily accepted all of the changes and restrictions. I’ve not once yet heard a child complain about any of it. They’ve just taken it at face value and have got on with it. It’s us adults who’ve struggled. Probably understandably given we’ve been around a lot longer than them, but still I think we are doing them a massive disservice by saying it’s ruined their lives and they will never get back what they’ve apparently lost. I don’t believe for one second any child will be impeded by the lockdowns, they will adjust again once things go back to normal.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I found Mumsnet to be quite ‘London-centric’ at times.
If you didn’t live there then you were behind the times by the tone of some of the snippier posters, I recall someone saying ‘why didn’t you get an Uber?’ on AIBU about a friend leaving her mate at a pub.

Allegedly when one poster had no transport was struggling to get to work, she was asked why she didn’t just get the tube. She lived in rural Yorkshire...

The other day someone posted saying they desperately wanted to move due to nightmare neighbours, but were stuck because they lived in a housing association property and needed someone to swap with them. A poster replied asking why she didn’t just drop the asking price if she was that desperate. Because she lives in a HA property and doesn’t own it you dozy bint! There is a general assumption that everyone owns their homes on there, and an air of snobbery about renting. Especially social housing.

 

[DCICassieStuart]

A couple of years ago we were having the bathroom tiled by a guy my friend had recommended that had done some work for her.
It turned out that the tiler and I had gone to school together (same year) but we didn't know each other at the time because the school was separate boys and girls.
So obviously we got chatting and I dug out some old school photos (leavers ball etc) and sure enough there we both were.
It was a fiddly job (lots of awkward corners and things to try and tile around) which would have meant a second day, but he said he'd stay late and finish it. Obviously we really appreciated this so when I was cooking dinner for myself and my husband I cooked a dinner for the tiler too. I mean, it wouldn't have occurred to me NOT to, if I'm honest. He was grateful. Said he wouldn't have to go cooking for himself when he got home.
We added each other on Facebook and we had a few mutual friends.

About a month later he was doing a small job in my SIL's house. I'd warned him about her in advance. She stood behind him supervising him while he was working, told him under no circumstances would she allow any 'tradesmen' to use her toilet. He ended up having to pop into the local pub (the only one in the small village where she lives) and ask if he could use theirs,

I had to laugh though when he said to me forget about dinner, she literally didn't even make him a cup of tea!

She's a snobby cow at the best of times, so I wasn't even surprised when he told me, but there's just no need to be that rude and disrespectful towards anyone.

 

[leoladyxo]

OP, I take it you mean “vicious”?

Someone is here from Mumsnet then!

 

[BethanyGilbert]

There was a thread about how working class people dress their children neat to prove themselves and how middle class people don't care and they were falling over each other to say how scruffy their children were!

 

[PrincessCharming]

Don’t forget a statement necklace. It’s the standard answer to anyone who’s asking what they should wear to an event. Job interview, night out, wedding, funeral. In mumsnet land you must team every outfit with a ‘statement necklace’.

I bought a shedload of statement necklaces from Topshop a few years back. They were 5 for £5 but most of them had £20 price tags on them.

I sold all of them (30 if I remember correctly) for a tenner each plus postage. I had posted on MN about finding fab statement necklaces on eBay on a few threads…I’m sure these posts boosted my sales.