Mrs Hinch #437 Hinch wants a holiday so Fiddle’s got dog but Inch has blocked the bog!

[Pollyanna263]

So she’s saying she won’t label him, but a diagnosis is okay, but doesn’t say whether that’s a path they are taking, and whether he is being properly supported?

Clear as mud.

 

[Justapeep]

Somehow she can always bring it back round to herself. The two women in the restaurant giving her support and saying your not alone. She’s a lying cow those two women probably don’t exist it’s a way of making her shoppers feel sorry for her. Deflecting from the fact that Ron does need professional help and by the way I think she does too

 

[IamIncog]

Invisible speech needs?? She’s addressing it, yet still skirting around it. Either say something or don’t.

 

[Airconditioning]

So… she’s selling things you can’t even use as their main purpose

 

[Blue raspberry slush pupp]

Knew it. I said there’d be a post where she did exactly this. She’s so predictable and she clearly enjoys this page .
well Sophie… you don’t believe in labels but you believe in a diagnosis? So the doctors can say there’s an issue such as autism or whatever but you can’t tell people because you’re labelling him? Nobody is “labelling” your son-you just seem embarrassed he’s not the “perfect “ insta ready kid you wanted . you don’t need to tell us anything but drip feeding little bits and pieces for content is demeaning your son and his struggles so il label YOU- as a fame hungry attention seeking cunt!

 

[HinchesSousChef]

Ronnie drew on MY curtains.
sorry love THE curtains. The curtains belong to the home. The family. They aren’t YOUR curtains.
Things that are mine: my handbag, my phone, my clothes, my toiletries. Everything else in OUR home is OURS - you get my point.

I’m baffled how Ronnie was left unattended long enough to do that when it’s not like they have pens permanently out. As a mother of two young kids I’m fully aware it only takes a second but sorry I don’t believe it. My 2.5 year old is a shit but when the pens are out he draws on his paper (and the table which wipes off). He knows to not leave the table with a pen. And he’s not left unsupervised with pens.
i know it happens but in a house with let’s face it 3 adults all loitering around just no. It doesn’t happen.
It’s all back to naughty Ronnie again.
burnt what for dinner? A fucking mugshot?

 

[cantstandinfluencers]

Does she not realise the problem is HER!
she shows her son to millions, says he can speak fine, is potty trained etc etc. This is what SHE is feeding to millions. All’s well. She constantly shows the ‘perfect’ family life. But when she realises that’s not cutting it with some of her shoppers, she pretends to be relatable, by fake yawning & filming it, messing up her home etc. She lies continuously that you can’t believe her. Not once has she written a truthful heartfelt message saying she was worried about her child. It’s all perfect as far as she’s concerned. Now she’s written this - which I don’t understand so goodness knows how the Hinchers are getting on with translating it! They must be very confused. Is she now going to use Ron’s development issues for a book, a way to gain publicity and support? I really hope not. She should remove both children from social media. Give them both the privacy they deserve.

 

[BBC1HD]

The more she drags it on the more I detest her.

She has the ability to put rumours to bed by just saying "he is just speech delayed" "he's been diagnosed with asd" "he is being evaluated"

Instead she's posts that pompous rant. I think she quite enjoys the speculation and being able to play the woe is me card.

She isn't speaking out or using her platform to help others and she isn't actually saying anything. Just alluding to many possibilities.

Fucking cunt.

 

[Pollyanna263]

Not defending Hinch in the slightest buuuut that private meeting of Pepper Pig was clearly the absolute highlight for Ronnie. The 1-2-1 attention the host gave to him was perfect and that’s the most animated and interactive we’ve ever seen him.

I’m sure it was a freebie, but it’s nice to think she might have paid a fortune for it.

 

[Pollyanna263]

I actually don’t know what she means in the first half of this, but Soph if you’re looking for someone who ‘understands their view’ may I introduce our resident expert and all-round lovely lady (not nusty troll) @Suebigfatsue87

 

[Chesneyslittlesister]

I'm pretty sure they're not her words. I've been hanging around the SEN Parent Facebook pages long enough to have read all the memes and quotes. I think this has offended me more that anything she's ever done. Either be upfront and honest or keep the boy out of the spotlight. She's made it seem something to be whispered in hushed tones and it's all for attention for her. Whether or not he has autism he's clearly capable of much more non verbal communication and interaction than she'd ever shown before he met Peppa and George. Every other new path has failed so she's trying the special need Parent blogger now. She can f*@k right off!

 

[Bettygee]

“Since Ronnie ruined my curtains we’ve had to move out and buy a mansion”

 

[cutlery]

Sophie doesn’t like labelling things, yet somehow manages to sneak a label onto Ron’s bottle

 

[Latala]

I hope Ron drew a massive cock & balls on her curtains

 

[JabbaAndMutt]

I can translate the first paragraph for you.
I don’t believe in labelling but diagnosis can open the door blah blah.
she will have Ronnie assessments rolling to get SALT, SEND, EHCP, and he eventually receive diagnosis( if he hadn’t already) but won’t talk about diagnosis outcome because she doesn’t believe in labelling meaning in her eyes he’ll be just speech delayed, we will be hearing and reading all the time that everyone is different blah blah and this will be blamed on lockdowns. I really doubt she’ll ever say he’s on the spectrum, however I can understand her because I’ve met many parents over the years that word Autism won’t go past their throat. I know cases that had been officially diagnosed at age less than 2. My school accommodate pupils from 2-19 years old.


from my own experience as a SEN teacher, yes, it’s hard to diagnose ASD in very young children and even older one but if he scores in all three aspects which from observation I believe he will( communication, social interaction, sensory processing) he can be diagnosed very quickly, his nursery should get the ball rolling and I believe they already assessed him there so they can refer him further to other professionals.

on the other hand do strongly believe something else is in the pipeline. Huge reveal pending. I’m voting for new house.
Sophie I know you haven’t been reading here since 1066 but please spend quality time with your beautiful boy because he need you to fight for him with everyone, LA, doctors, SALT, OT( if he requires one) they won’t welcome you with open arms and be there waiting for you you need to be fighting for every appointment!
Spend time to model imaginative play, messy play, practice and model receptive and expressive language. don’t screech at him mummaz. Get play dough and make a monkey, make monkey noises and encourage him to repeat and use a monkey to play or act it appropriately, the list goes on. Encourage him to react to his name when called, encourage gestures, practice face expression so he can read them, make him visual clues if he appears not to understand spoken language not fucking autumn reefs.
A little homework for you, learn the difference between speech and language because lots of people think they the same thing but they are not.

Sorry for typos.

 

[tushy]

Just want to come on and say I’ve found this whole skirting around Ronnie’s additional support needs by her (whatever they may be) and some of the posts on here hard to cope with (Not an attack on anyone, nothing bad, it’s just hard to see it spoken about over and over and I can’t get my brain to stop obsessing over it so I had to take a break)
but some points I’d like to say:
We are autistic, we are not ‘with autism’
Our Autism DOES define us, it is everything about who we are and that’s okay. As many of you have said, Labels are okay and important. I’m much happier being labelled autistic that I was being ‘an idiot’ ‘that weirdo’ ‘lazy’ ‘uncooperative’ and the list goes on.
Autism is a disability- disabled isn’t a dirty word Hinch. But it’s also not an Instagram buzz word to make money out of.
STOP MONETISING CHILDREN

I am so so scared that her page is going to become a ‘poor me my son is disabled’ page. ‘Autism mommy’s’ are the worst. (And I don’t mean parents of autistic children I mean the specific subset who make their whole identity their child’s autism. How long before her page is covered in the god-awful puzzle symbol if he does get diagnosed)

Apologies for the rant. It’s been eating me up (i’m only a few pages into this thread so I know I’m way behind - im probably going to take another break from it as I find it really triggering. Again not your fault I just can’t move on from my anger over her handling of it and what I think is going to happen as she moves through Ronnie’s life)

 

[Danielle0120]

Here come some aww sympathy for Soph. Refresh your Instagram and read her story again. None of that was about Ronnie. It's all about her. What a fucking joke.
Ah I'm done

 

[Alfie1234]

Does she realise that there isn’t a parent alive that hasn’t experienced either the kindness of strangers when you’re struggling with your kids and the glare of the unsympathetic too. She hasn’t been treated like it because she’s Mrs Hinch or because of Ronnies issues, she’s been treated like it because that’s what people are fucking like towards others! Some are nice and some aren’t, fuck me she’s driving me mad this week, she even turns people asking about Ron into a pity party for herself. Fuck off Soph and when you get there fuck off some more and don’t come back.

 

[Pollyanna263]

Oh dear there’s a lot to unpack here. Can I just start by saying the fact she’s finally put that out there is one step and it is better than the ignorance we’ve seen of ronnies clear developmental delays, so credit to her for finally realising, you can’t help a child by making them live a life being who “you” wanted them to.

the label thing troubles be, Sophie I know you read here. Autism is a label, like any disorder is, if your child is not labelled with his autism or whatever it could be. He would of spent his life being labelled as strange, quiet, different, unusual etc. There’s no escaping labels. So please rethink how you word that. Autism is a label for a child who is neurodiverse, children with autism are amazing and have the potential to fulfil a rewarding life. Be grateful that you have access to huge lots of money which will open doors to jumping ques for private slt, ep etc assessments.

Ronnie deserves and is entitled to privacy on his journey in learning how to navigate the world as a neurodiverse child. The world is not quite there yet of being accepting of neurodiversity, take him away from Instagram, work with him privately. If you want to share snippets of him, cover his face, share how the progress is going but let Ronnie have a private life and identity away from the Instagram world. He will thank you for it as he gets older. If she does read here, read about “theory of mind” google “theory of mind and autism” it’ll help you understand better.

Children with autism can be particularly vulnerable, I highly recommend you do not keep sharing everything about him, this is the one thing she needs to take on board.

I would also recommend she start finding out about schools in her area now, he is 2.5, them yesrs fly by till reception. Sophie if you read here, private schools are not as good as mainstream schools for senco. I know you believe chucking cash will buy the best but that’s not always true. Yes it’ll certainly help you pay for private assessments which is amazing, if Ronnie needs an ehcp one day this potentially will get it sorted quicker if your local la accepts private assessments… but it doesn’t help with education. Private schools just don’t seem to have the amazing resources and knowledge like state schools do, probably because their are far more children in state schools in the U.K. and always have been so you’ll find the best for Ronnie will be a mainstream school with a good senco or a specialist school.

I really really hope this is the start of something for that little boy, I really do. He deserves to thrive and be loved. No more lying about his development as that almost makes it seem shameful, I hope she deletes the videos of her trying to prop him up and lying about speech. He doesn’t need to feel like he was embarrassing growing up.

mostly YESS for Ronnie! I would absolutely love to plan intervention with him, I just know he would thrive!

@Suebigfatsue87 I love you.

Do you mind if I put some of the abbreviations into layman’s terms just in case anyone reading isn’t familiar with them? I have no experience in this so please correct me if I get them wrong!


SLT - (SALT) - speech and language therapy

EP - Educational Psychologist. Will be an essential expert to provide assessment as a child progresses through school. Money does talk here in terms of being able to appoint one you want to rather than whoever is designated.

SENCO - special educational needs and disabilities coordinator - school’s lead person. The quality and experience of this person will make a huge difference to the school experience.

LA - local authority.

EHCP - education health and care plan - you need this to make sure your child gets the support that is appropriate and best for them. This may be a battle and a long road but it’s one many have walked and there are people to help.




My best friend is going through the EHCP process at the moment with her youngest, I’ve seen bits of it and been there for the highs and the lows.
What stands out to me the most is that parents more often than not are the absolute key to getting what is needed for their children. My friend knows her child inside and out, she knows what is needed, how her child masks at school and then falls out at home (coke bottle analogy), she has spent HOURS reading and researching to ensure that she has the best possible EP to give the truest possible assessment, in the hope of getting the best possible setting for her child.

Soph and Jamie, please please be ready to be Ron’s cheer squad, his advocates, his safety net, his protectors. He needs you to step up.

 

[CoolMom]

I know this is far too early but I was wondering what everyone thinks of the next thread title being something positive (I know the sarcastic rhyming ones are hilarious!) but as a little three cheers for Ron having his needs recognised at long last?