I get this feeling about ma barker too. Like she has a scary hold over sophie.She reminds me of my step daughters
one is almost 18 other almost 13 (for context neither have ever worked just sat around waiting for everyone else to bust a gut for them-mine all had cash in hand little Saturday morning jobs like washing cars to earn a bit of extra money by the age of about 13-im a bad mother-I refuse to sub them-they need to know the value of a days work)
anyway almost 18 lives with us the almost 13 lives with their mother
The other day both kids where at ours while I was at work
i came home about an hour before the youngest went back home
i needed to get my uniform in the wash for the morning and sort out my packed lunch etc
so I walked through the kitchen door to get to my washer-did what I needed to do and walked out again (both kids where sat at the dining room table-ours is a kitchen/diner)
thought nothing to it-dad drove 13 year old home and came back
hed been in the house a full 20 seconds when the phone rang
it was their (nutter) mother (I’m not being mean i could be here all day with stories that could make your hair curl)
Screaming that I’d scared the youngest by walking through the door and from now on I could either stay away from my own home (where I live-and pay the bills-she’s never been here-she doesn’t even know my area let alone my address) or she is going to ban me from walking though the doors ‘just in case I scare either daughter’
my fella laughed and told her that if I wasn’t at work then I had a right to stay at home-even if the queen came round for a cuppa then I still have a right to walk in and sit on my own sofa-and if I’m banned from walking through my own doors how am I meant to move around?though the bloody windows?
’yes’ came the reply
16 times she’s rang back to find how I’m planning to move around without walking through my own doors!
and by not pandering to her by telling her to fuck off instead of telling me off by being in the wrong we’re being ‘unreasonable’ (that’s me being polite-not quite what she did say)
im waffling but for some reason I’m thinking this is what ma barker was like when Sophie was growing up/now which goes a long way of explaining why Hinch is the way she is-she’s never been allowed to grow up even though she’s a mother and is still the wrapped up snowflake/child shes always been
sometimes you just need to be able to walk through a bloody door and allow the other person to deal with it without needing bloody therapy
the world is a tough place-even more so when you put your whole life out there and then act shocked when not everyone loves you
Enjoy walking through yours doors