This sounds like my MIL to a t! Even when I post pictures at my mums I get bombarded with messages, luckily no unexpected visits though as she doesn’t drive and they live in the next city so nowhere near us 🥲I went out with my mum yesterday, only to the garden centre but my mum took a photo of my daughter & posted it to fb (she has my MIL as a friend, fuck knows why). Jealous bitch mother in law has just turned up, uninvited and unannounced. Just as I am getting everyone and everything ready to leave for a myside family party. I haven't even gone and said hello, I'm carrying on with the million things I have to do
She turned up unannounced and uninvited last weekend and stayed for 5 hours, thankfully I was out. She never visits this often so it's clear she's jealous
Oh I feel for you with you MIL switching, mine did the same. She was vile, still is. She's always doing things to provoke me like being overly kissy with my children, she looks at me when she does it. She's such a mardy bitch too, I don't bother with them now, and my OH does the bare minimum when it comes to visiting, hoping they get the message soon!Super long sorry but It’s a weird one with my mil, we used to get on really well and were pretty close when me and my boyfriend were younger and would stay at eachothers houses for the weekend. We lived an hour away from eachother and it was a faff sometimes as neither of us drove so relied on parents..but then some years passed and when I found out I was pregnant and already 5 months gone, my family welcomed him into our home and he moved in with us a couple months before I was due and maybe this is what triggered her to be the god awful person she is now as she was really close to her son as he didn’t have much of a bond with his dad due to him cheating previously but they stayed together.
As soon as we’d told our families my mil just switched and she was so controlling and wanting to be involved in everything and I’d made plans to go look at some prams with my mum but then my mil made plans for my now sister in law to go with me to look at some when I just wanted to do everything my way and with my family but she never liked that. She was a mardy bitch when I was at the hospital as I gave birth quite late into the evening and they didn’t allow visitors but I was only allowed one in the end so I obviously chose my mum and my mil obviously wasn’t very happy as they’d drove all the way to the hospital to be turned away basically and my mum told me when she went back downstairs to my dad and my partners family and showed them pictures she had taken on her phone of our baby she didn’t say anything and was just in a mood even though they could visit the next day which they did! I was bed ridden after having a third degree tear and had a catheter attached and my partner was out like a light during most their visit which was just awful and my mil basically changed our baby out of her sleepsuit even though she was fast asleep and swapped it for one she liked and then carried her to the window on the ward and was walking around with her. I will never ever forget that, she barely asked me anything about the birth and how I was feeling, all she wanted was my baby in her arms and it only got worse after that, I could write a book, a trilogy of books on everything she’s done that has been manipulative, controlling and jealous behaviour. We moved into our own place when our baby was 6 months old and then after they visited us at home after our second baby a couple years later, she did even more things to piss me off in my already hormonal teary state I sent her the longest message telling her everything id had bottled up from the past two years that I daren’t ever say to her face and I did regret it for a while but then she did tone ‘some’ stuff down after that. She’s still annoying and controlling but I’m grateful lockdown happened so she wouldn’t worm her way in with our second baby like she did with our first, she was super OTT when they were allowed to visit though but she doesn’t have the bond with my second like she does with our first and that might make me sound so horrible when some families would love their mils to be more involved but it was absolute hell with my first baby when it should be the most wonderful time in your life as a family. Now I’m pregnant with my third I do get nervous thinking what she’s going to be like again as it’s always when they’re teeny babies but luckily they only visit on a weekend now.
It’s so sad because we got on so well but the second she was a grandparent something just switched
Completely understandable. Don’t listen to her, if she spent some time in your shoes she would understandOmg mine made me so angry today. Slagging me off for being over protective. My son is disabled and has a life threatening condition so I rarely leave him with anyone. Surely that’s understandable? I wouldn’t trust her with a goldfish.
thank youCompletely understandable. Don’t listen to her, if she spent some time in your shoes she would understand
Hey! She went home about 2 weeks ago and I have a new mattress and my room backPeaches how’s your situation with the MIL? Is everything sorted now
Aww, I hope she’s alright xHey! She went home about 2 weeks ago and I have a new mattress and my room back
She’s quite unwell atm and in hospital but everything is finally in place at hers so when discharged there will be no issues with her going home x
Omg sounds so similar to my experience!!! What the hell is wrong with these women??Super long sorry but It’s a weird one with my mil, we used to get on really well and were pretty close when me and my boyfriend were younger and would stay at eachothers houses for the weekend. We lived an hour away from eachother and it was a faff sometimes as neither of us drove so relied on parents..but then some years passed and when I found out I was pregnant and already 5 months gone, my family welcomed him into our home and he moved in with us a couple months before I was due and maybe this is what triggered her to be the god awful person she is now as she was really close to her son as he didn’t have much of a bond with his dad due to him cheating previously but they stayed together.
As soon as we’d told our families my mil just switched and she was so controlling and wanting to be involved in everything and I’d made plans to go look at some prams with my mum but then my mil made plans for my now sister in law to go with me to look at some when I just wanted to do everything my way and with my family but she never liked that. She was a mardy bitch when I was at the hospital as I gave birth quite late into the evening and they didn’t allow visitors but I was only allowed one in the end so I obviously chose my mum and my mil obviously wasn’t very happy as they’d drove all the way to the hospital to be turned away basically and my mum told me when she went back downstairs to my dad and my partners family and showed them pictures she had taken on her phone of our baby she didn’t say anything and was just in a mood even though they could visit the next day which they did! I was bed ridden after having a third degree tear and had a catheter attached and my partner was out like a light during most their visit which was just awful and my mil basically changed our baby out of her sleepsuit even though she was fast asleep and swapped it for one she liked and then carried her to the window on the ward and was walking around with her. I will never ever forget that, she barely asked me anything about the birth and how I was feeling, all she wanted was my baby in her arms and it only got worse after that, I could write a book, a trilogy of books on everything she’s done that has been manipulative, controlling and jealous behaviour. We moved into our own place when our baby was 6 months old and then after they visited us at home after our second baby a couple years later, she did even more things to piss me off in my already hormonal teary state I sent her the longest message telling her everything id had bottled up from the past two years that I daren’t ever say to her face and I did regret it for a while but then she did tone ‘some’ stuff down after that. She’s still annoying and controlling but I’m grateful lockdown happened so she wouldn’t worm her way in with our second baby like she did with our first, she was super OTT when they were allowed to visit though but she doesn’t have the bond with my second like she does with our first and that might make me sound so horrible when some families would love their mils to be more involved but it was absolute hell with my first baby when it should be the most wonderful time in your life as a family. Now I’m pregnant with my third I do get nervous thinking what she’s going to be like again as it’s always when they’re teeny babies but luckily they only visit on a weekend now.
It’s so sad because we got on so well but the second she was a grandparent something just switched
So glad you have your room back!!!Hey! She went home about 2 weeks ago and I have a new mattress and my room back
She’s quite unwell atm and in hospital but everything is finally in place at hers so when discharged there will be no issues with her going home x
I could have written this myself! My own mum always says “I’ll never ask to cuddle your baby. If you want me to have/hold him, then you’ll ask me to” - she also never asks to come and see us on a weekend as she says she understands that’s our time as a family. Never gives advice unless asked etc, and is generally just incredibly happy when she has time with my son and wants for nothing! How can they be so different?!It’s crazy! My mum is the most ideal grandparent I could ever want and I’m so grateful for that. My partner even hates all the things his own mum has done and said and he prefers how laid back my mums approach is. She doesn’t hover round, she doesn’t grab the kids physically off my body for a cuddle, she actually lets us be parents and praises us on our parenting unlike my mil who has never done anything of the sort.
Wow my mum says literally the exact same. She knows the weekends are our family time as that’s when my partner has his days off, she’ll even say I don’t expect you to text me or whatever because she knows it’s our time together. Then I’ve got my mil messaging me every day ‘hi xx’I could have written this myself! My own mum always says “I’ll never ask to cuddle your baby. If you want me to have/hold him, then you’ll ask me to” - she also never asks to come and see us on a weekend as she says she understands that’s our time as a family. Never gives advice unless asked etc, and is generally just incredibly happy when she has time with my son and wants for nothing! How can they be so different?!
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