I think I was spoilt with my ex boyfriends mum. She was so warm and understanding. We still meet up now and she is just the kindest woman. My new boyfriends mum is… cold as ice 90% of the time. We have a son together, a few months old. I’ve tried so hard to involve her as much as possible. My mum lives far away so I really try to have a good relationship with his mum. We go to her house almost every Sunday. God forbid we miss one because we’re doing our own thing though! And if we ever dare ask her to come to our house instead… oh what a stress that is for her and don’t we hear about it! Anyway, weekend just gone we were shattered, she had to come to us. Said she would arrive at 5.30 after a massive palava about how stressful it would be for her to make the time to come, put baby down for nap at 4.30… she arrived 2 mins later! Of course the baby is now having cuddles and kisses and is overtired 30 mins later. Starts screaming.. I say ah I should put him down for a sleep otherwise bed time will be tricky (bare in mind bedtime is already being pushed back now to accommodate her which she is well aware of). She just starts talking to my boyfriend, ignoring me, “shall we give him his dummy” - I said, I only give it to him when he’s going to sleep, so if I can go and put him for a nap I’ll give it to him - to my boyfriend ignoring me “let’s give him his dummy” - no!! she always does little things like this.. ignores me and acts like my boyfriend is the only parent. Often if my son stirs “do you want your daddy? You want daddy don’t you?” And will only ever hand my son back to him, never me, even if I am stood there and my boyfriend is busy. She is now off work for 6 weeks. I said “I can pop round during the weekdays now to see you more, which is easier to fit in than on the weekends” her reply “I’ve got a lot on in the holidays. I always tell you to come around, Im not sure why you don’t bother” - like??? You work full time?? I see you every Sunday?? When else am I supposed to see you when the baby is in bed at 7pm every night! I just find her so uninviting and she makes me feel like I am just a vessel that carried her grandson. Of course my boyfriend is a massive mummy’s boy so you can’t say a word about it. I send her videos and photos of my son saying he can’t wait to see you etc etc, she will ignore them but ring my boyfriend every sodding day saying “oh I saw the photos you sent” - no he didn’t send them, I did! You’d never get updates on your grandson if I didn’t bloody send them so you could at least acknowledge that I’m trying!
She’s also one of those who makes it painfully obvious she loved his ex girlfriend (even though she cheated on him!)
I don’t miss my ex boyfriend one bit, but my god I miss his mum SO much!! She is also better with my son than current boyfriends mum (not that he knows my ex mil cuddles him when I meet up with her
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Wow this is much longer than I realised. I guess I really needed to get it off my chest