I’m really struggling with MIL at present. Baby is a few months. Parents in Law have been overwhelmingly excited. 2 rooms decorated in their house for baby (playroom and bedroom), constantly referring to baby as “our baby”, stating that they think of her as their own child. I’ve no need for babysitter at minute and baby will only bf, so babysitting is not possible at minute. Because baby is bf, we are only really in the begging stages of my partner being able to take her out to shops etc for his own for a few mins. MIL was constantly saying she would come over and take baby out for a few hours, meaning I had to keep reminding her that baby wouldn’t be able to feed as they won’t take a bottle. Then she commented that I don’t want to share baby. Most recently, MIL got in at me for choosing crèche care next year when I return to work and why I hadn’t chosen to leave baby full time with them. It was both my partner and my decision but it seems like as MIL disagrees, it’s just my fault. There are constant hints about wanting a regular slot to take baby swimming, to classes etc, but this is my first baby, and I haven’t had a chance to have these experiences with her myself! I now nearly feel guilty that baby and me have gone for a walk/trip to a cafe alone, because it feels like I should have to share this time. MIL comments on baby being the centre of their universe. I already feel so much pressure on this little baby to be their entire emotional world- they now isolate from family/friends if they think it will take a minute away from time with baby, turning down important family events for example. It’s not as if we withhold visits! We come weekly, they video call, get photos daily etc. Parents in Law don’t show any interest in talking to me or my partner anymore. They might ask “how are you” but then turn to baby and ignore any response. I feel like what was once a lovely relationship with them is just gone. They really don’t have any huge interest in how she feeds/sleeps/how she is feeling. Every visit is about her sitting on their knee and getting “fun” out of her, talking loudly in her face etc. I feel their expectation of her is huge. MIL already said she would like to be baby’s best friend. I feel guilty for getting annoyed at these things, and more like a horrible person with each occurrence. I thought it might die down over time but it’s just ramping up. MIL constantly looking for what “first” she can have next- wants to buy first shoes, wants to buy playhouse (baby is <6 months old!) etc.