Miscarriage/Baby Loss

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I am due blood tests Wednesday morning. I met with the GP and explained I had miscarriages in April and August and he said to have blood tests. Any idea what they’ll check for and how long results will take?
 
I am due blood tests Wednesday morning. I met with the GP and explained I had miscarriages in April and August and he said to have blood tests. Any idea what they’ll check for and how long results will take?
I’ve had some done recently, some private and some through my GP. The ones my GP did are vitamin D and thyroid levels. Once I got my letter to book my blood test it took about 2 weeks to get an appointment and then they said results should be back with my GP in 3 working days.
 
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I am due blood tests Wednesday morning. I met with the GP and explained I had miscarriages in April and August and he said to have blood tests. Any idea what they’ll check for and how long results will take?
Hi Londonsays ❤ I had thyroid but also had tests to detect antiphospholipid syndrome. Definitely ask whenever you’re feeling unsure. Through my journey I’ve found you have to be your own advocate. Thinking of you.
 
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Hi Ladies,

I got a text from the GP about the blood tests I did yesterday and the text said under active thyroid and I was to book another test which I did for mid October.

I asked for a phone consultation to explain what this means. They refused and sent me this text which I find even more confusing!

a) that your brain is working harder to stimulate the thyorid gland to produce the hormone thyroxine - this is called TSH. This level is slightly raised
b) the amount of thyroid hormone circulating is actually normal (this is represented by T4 on the results).
This combination is called 'sub clinical' .. . hence the need for a re test but we need to leave it some weeks
Please contact us after you have had this second test

Does anyone know what this means and can I do anything at home to help? Such as vitamins etc?

Thank you xx
 
Hi Ladies,

I got a text from the GP about the blood tests I did yesterday and the text said under active thyroid and I was to book another test which I did for mid October.

I asked for a phone consultation to explain what this means. They refused and sent me this text which I find even more confusing!

a) that your brain is working harder to stimulate the thyorid gland to produce the hormone thyroxine - this is called TSH. This level is slightly raised
b) the amount of thyroid hormone circulating is actually normal (this is represented by T4 on the results).
This combination is called 'sub clinical' .. . hence the need for a re test but we need to leave it some weeks
Please contact us after you have had this second test

Does anyone know what this means and can I do anything at home to help? Such as vitamins etc?

Thank you xx
I’d have a google and see what you can find, but first advice would be don’t panic, as these tests can fluctuate day by day and month by month, which is why they’ve asked you to do a re-test. I had bloods done in December and then early Feb and the results went from abnormal to totally textbook.
 
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Hi Ladies,

I got a text from the GP about the blood tests I did yesterday and the text said under active thyroid and I was to book another test which I did for mid October.

I asked for a phone consultation to explain what this means. They refused and sent me this text which I find even more confusing!

a) that your brain is working harder to stimulate the thyorid gland to produce the hormone thyroxine - this is called TSH. This level is slightly raised
b) the amount of thyroid hormone circulating is actually normal (this is represented by T4 on the results).
This combination is called 'sub clinical' .. . hence the need for a re test but we need to leave it some weeks
Please contact us after you have had this second test

Does anyone know what this means and can I do anything at home to help? Such as vitamins etc?

Thank you xx
subclinical hypothyroidism means the thyroid stimulating hormone is elevated but the free T4 (thyroxine) is normal - as this is normal it’s not always required to treat with synthetic thyroxine(unless it’s causing you symptoms) Subclinical basically means it is not severe enough to treat.
your repeat test may show that your T4 is normal next time or it may show a ful diagnosis of hypothyroidism but either way in regards to its effect on fertility can be discussed with GP!
 
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Hey im under the care of the recurring miscarriage unit and had my bloods taken in July. I was amazed at how many tests they did.

I’m not sure if the GP will test all of the below but this might help…. I’m back next month to have more tests and to discuss my results….
Beta 2 Glycoprotein 1 (IgM) Antibody
vitamin D test
TSH
Total Homocysteine
Thyroid Peroxidase Antibody
Protein c activity
Lupus
HBA1C
Free Protein S Antigen
Cardiolipin (IgG/IgM) Antibody
Apc Sensitivity Ratio
Antithrombin

Anti Nuclear Antibody (Hep 2)
 
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Awww, that's so lovely - I've thought about you lots too and JXLRD!! How are you getting on?

I didn't have the best time postpartum, but after a couple of months we got there hence why I disappeared - couldn't keep up with anything
Fishsticks! I was just reading this thread after a long time not being on here and saw this, so lovely reading you have a 2 year old now ❤ very happy for you and wishing you lots of baby dust for baby number 2 xx
 
Hi everyone,

I had my 10 week scan this morning, the baby died at 8 weeks. Don't feel sad for me, I'm 45, so she only had a 47% chance of survival anyway.

I'd just like some help with the next bit. I can sit around and wait. My son is off school next week, so that might ruin things. I could get the drugs but they are only 85%?? effective anyway and €40.

I'm hoping now that I know, my body will start to miscarry. Will I be able to function? My kid is 7 so it won't kill him to watch a lot of rubbish and Roblox!
 
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Hey, I know you said don’t feel sad for you, but I am sorry and hope you’re ok ❤

I’ve had 3 miscarriages that all started naturally. I was around 6 weeks each time and they were all totally different experiences.

In your situation I’d be inclined to take the drugs.
 
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Hi everyone,

I had my 10 week scan this morning, the baby died at 8 weeks. Don't feel sad for me, I'm 45, so she only had a 47% chance of survival anyway.

I'd just like some help with the next bit. I can sit around and wait. My son is off school next week, so that might ruin things. I could get the drugs but they are only 85%?? effective anyway and €40.

I'm hoping now that I know, my body will start to miscarry. Will I be able to function? My kid is 7 so it won't kill him to watch a lot of rubbish and Roblox!
I had surgical management which was booked in the day after our loss was confirmed, I went in at 8am and was home by 3pm, minimal bleeding and no pain. It’s not for everyone but it was over and done with so fast which was nice after about 2 weeks since we’d found out baby had gone, I could start to actually move on. I’d also recommend intervention rather than waiting it out
 
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I had surgical management which was booked in the day after our loss was confirmed, I went in at 8am and was home by 3pm, minimal bleeding and no pain. It’s not for everyone but it was over and done with so fast which was nice after about 2 weeks since we’d found out baby had gone, I could start to actually move on. I’d also recommend intervention rather than waiting it out
I’m so sorry @Jaybob ❤

I also had this procedure done too, and for me, it was right too. I wanted it ‘over and done with’ and ‘closure’ and part of that was to not have any waiting around and for it to be controlled as possible. It took a while for my body to go back to normal and the HCG/ hormones to drop so the surgery really helped with that, without it I think I would have been waiting a long time
 
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Hi everyone,

I had my 10 week scan this morning, the baby died at 8 weeks. Don't feel sad for me, I'm 45, so she only had a 47% chance of survival anyway.

I'd just like some help with the next bit. I can sit around and wait. My son is off school next week, so that might ruin things. I could get the drugs but they are only 85%?? effective anyway and €40.

I'm hoping now that I know, my body will start to miscarry. Will I be able to function? My kid is 7 so it won't kill him to watch a lot of rubbish and Roblox!
I had the medication - I’ve actually had it twice now - at a similar gestation to you, worked as expected a couple of hours after taking.
It’s a rough few hours actually passing the pregnancy - quite painful and I couldn’t leave the bathroom, but I think perhaps to give you a time limit I took the medication around 4pm, had cramps started about 6/7pm, by 10pm absolute latest the worst was over. Some cramps for the next 2-3days but nothing worse than a period.
I’m sorry for your loss 🩷
 
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I had surgical management which was booked in the day after our loss was confirmed, I went in at 8am and was home by 3pm, minimal bleeding and no pain. It’s not for everyone but it was over and done with so fast which was nice after about 2 weeks since we’d found out baby had gone, I could start to actually move on. I’d also recommend intervention rather than waiting it out
I second this
in week 11 found out baby miscarried week 9 so went for surgical intervention as body didn’t naturally miscarry. Cycle back in 4 weeks and in/out hospital in 6 hours.
Wishing you all the best whatever your decision x
 
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I’m sorry for your loss. I also had surgical management and would recommend to anyone faced with this. It was quick, pain free (a bit uncomfortable) and I was very well looked after in the hospital. Take care of yourself xxx
 
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I’m sorry for your loss. I also had surgical management and would recommend to anyone faced with this. It was quick, pain free (a bit uncomfortable) and I was very well looked after in the hospital. Take care of yourself xxx
A midwife called me today and I asked about surgery, apparently they don't advise it as "it might make it difficult to get pregnant afterwards". 🤣🤣Ummm, it took me 7 years to get pregnant and as I'm 45, there's not much danger of that!

This is a sensitive question, I can't be bothered to work out how to do a spoiler alert, as we're on a miscarriage thread, I'm going to go ahead. What do I do with the baby? It feels mean to flush her away, or bin her. Is it weird to maybe plant her under a rose bush with some of my mum's ashes? Is it weird to want to see her? Then I don't want to be one of those weirdos who keep their foetus in the deep freeze, or something crazy. My husband was horrified so I don't know what to do
 
A midwife called me today and I asked about surgery, apparently they don't advise it as "it might make it difficult to get pregnant afterwards". 🤣🤣Ummm, it took me 7 years to get pregnant and as I'm 45, there's not much danger of that!

This is a sensitive question, I can't be bothered to work out how to do a spoiler alert, as we're on a miscarriage thread, I'm going to go ahead. What do I do with the baby? It feels mean to flush her away, or bin her. Is it weird to maybe plant her under a rose bush with some of my mum's ashes? Is it weird to want to see her? Then I don't want to be one of those weirdos who keep their foetus in the deep freeze, or something crazy. My husband was horrified so I don't know what to do
Id be interested in other people’s responses so I’m pleased you asked. I “retrieved” one of mine and wrapped it up but then freaked out. I think the rose bush idea is lovely
 
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Sorry for your loss.

I had a missed miscarraige almost 10 years ago. Found out at 9 weeks. Baby stopped developing at 6. I waited. Then when I couldn't wait anymore I did the medication. It failed so I ended up having surgery at 16 weeks. The surgery was so straight forward and easy I wished I'd done it straight away.

I had another missed miscarriage a couple of years later, demanded surgery and had the procedure the next day. Same experience.

In my only successful pregnancy after those I did have placenta previa and often wonder if it was linked to the surgery. Either way my daughter arrived safely.
 
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A midwife called me today and I asked about surgery, apparently they don't advise it as "it might make it difficult to get pregnant afterwards". 🤣🤣Ummm, it took me 7 years to get pregnant and as I'm 45, there's not much danger of that!

This is a sensitive question, I can't be bothered to work out how to do a spoiler alert, as we're on a miscarriage thread, I'm going to go ahead. What do I do with the baby? It feels mean to flush her away, or bin her. Is it weird to maybe plant her under a rose bush with some of my mum's ashes? Is it weird to want to see her? Then I don't want to be one of those weirdos who keep their foetus in the deep freeze, or something crazy. My husband was horrified so I don't know what to do
It can lead to scarring but it isn’t likely- I conceived again 3 months later and I have a whole host of fertility issues and was just about to start the IVF route

Do what you feel is right- I don’t think wanting to see her is weird at all. Some people I know placed their babies in plant pots or under rose bushes. I personally went for cremation- it’s awful to phrase it this way, but hospitals do bulk cremations of babies lost at this gestation and our local one took care of this and did a memorial service. It sounds horrible but they do it very sensitively and in a dignified way and I like to think of it as all the loved and wanted babies being together.. they scattered the ashes of our little one in a local cemetery by a memorial so we have somewhere to visit if we wanted. Some funeral directors will also do private cremations but (I hate writing this) not every one will as you get very little by way of ashes back as the baby is so tiny
 
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Id be interested in other people’s responses so I’m pleased you asked. I “retrieved” one of mine and wrapped it up but then freaked out. I think the rose bush idea is lovely
I read all about it on their website at the beginning, I've bought a sieve 😬😬😬
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Sorry for your loss.

I had a missed miscarraige almost 10 years ago. Found out at 9 weeks. Baby stopped developing at 6. I waited. Then when I couldn't wait anymore I did the medication. It failed so I ended up having surgery at 16 weeks. The surgery was so straight forward and easy I wished I'd done it straight away.

I had another missed miscarriage a couple of years later, demanded surgery and had the procedure the next day. Same experience.

In my only successful pregnancy after those I did have placenta previa and often wonder if it was linked to the surgery. Either way my daughter arrived safely.
I'm so pleased it worked out for you. A gynaecologist offered to remove the uterine lining in May, but I couldn't bring myself to agree. It's possible that I could do it now but I still have mixed feelings about being pregnant again, I couldn't even bring myself to take the pill, hence I ended up with a surprise pregnancy. I loved every day of my short pregnancy 💞 thanks for your reassurance
 
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