Miscarriage/Baby Loss

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Knew you’d all probably relate - I went back to work and I’m already sick of it. I keep having to deal with pregnant women, but there are loads with the same due date/ month as me. Each month that passes I feel like I hurt even more rather than get better 💔
I get it, it’s so hard isn’t it. My SIL is pregnant and is due the same month as I would have been. Two of my team members have announced pregnancies privately to me and then today one of my friends sent me scan pictures out of the blue. I’m so happy for them but so sad for me 💔
 
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I get it, it’s so hard isn’t it. My SIL is pregnant and is due the same month as I would have been. Two of my team members have announced pregnancies privately to me and then today one of my friends sent me scan pictures out of the blue. I’m so happy for them but so sad for me 💔
It’s such a very hard thing to go through and I didn’t ever truly feel healed from this and unaffected, until my rainbow baby arrived almost 2 years later. Happy for them but sad for you is a good place to be, and you’re doing amazing. I honestly was never happy for anybody but just bitter, I didn’t speak to my best friend for 9 months because my brain just couldn’t deal with what I had lost.
 
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Knew you’d all probably relate - I went back to work and I’m already sick of it. I keep having to deal with pregnant women, but there are loads with the same due date/ month as me. Each month that passes I feel like I hurt even more rather than get better 💔
I feel exactly the same. I won’t go into details but I have constant exact reminders all around me of what I would have had and I feel so upset, and so bitter.
I feel way worse than I did immediately during and after the miscarriages as now time has elapsed you realise exactly how far away from it you are.
I’m contemplating having grief counselling. Have you considered it? Xx
 
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I feel exactly the same. I won’t go into details but I have constant exact reminders all around me of what I would have had and I feel so upset, and so bitter.
I feel way worse than I did immediately during and after the miscarriages as now time has elapsed you realise exactly how far away from it you are.
I’m contemplating having grief counselling. Have you considered it? Xx
Sorry to jump on here; I’m really interested in the grief counselling. A friend said to me recently that my grief is ever present and just not diminishing whereas grief she experienced in her family situation gets slightly easier every day. It really made me think. I would be interested if anyone has had it and found it helpful. If nothing else, I think I just need someone to tell me it’s valid.
 
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Sorry to jump on here; I’m really interested in the grief counselling. A friend said to me recently that my grief is ever present and just not diminishing whereas grief she experienced in her family situation gets slightly easier every day. It really made me think. I would be interested if anyone has had it and found it helpful. If nothing else, I think I just need someone to tell me it’s valid.
I think that’s the issue. It’s like a snowball rolling down a hill. I’m not getting better, it’s bigger and bigger.
I was recommended it by a miscarriage specialist consultant I’m seeing on the NHS. Locally to me there are charitably funded grief counselling services. Try and give it a Google if you can. Nothing much to lose for us.
Sorry it’s tit for you too x
 
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I think that’s the issue. It’s like a snowball rolling down a hill. I’m not getting better, it’s bigger and bigger.
I was recommended it by a miscarriage specialist consultant I’m seeing on the NHS. Locally to me there are charitably funded grief counselling services. Try and give it a Google if you can. Nothing much to lose for us.
Sorry it’s tit for you too x
Thank you. Our recurrent loss clinic is pretty useless so haven’t ever received much support for anything and I think that’s why it didn’t cross my mind. Definitely going to have a look today. Sending a hug to you x
 
Petals is NHS funded by some Trusts - and they’re meant to be good for counselling but it depends where you are. They don’t accept referrals if your Trust doesn’t have a contract with them.

I’m also surrounded by new babies, but seem to be in a better place now the pregnancies are over. I feel like I’m getting my best friend back after all these months and I’m so grateful for that. There are other friends that I probably won’t be as close with again - of my boyfriends friends wives / gfs will have had a new baby by Summer of this year apart from us. I think I will be avoiding them for a while. But my best friend I’m so glad this hasn’t broken us for good and I love her new baby daughter.
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I’m also a team leader in the NHS and having to manage a colleague through her pregnancy, then one of my colleagues has just come back from mat leave 12 weeks pregnant! So there is really no escape. I’ve got an appointment at Tommys Cov, although not for a while yet and I’m starting accupuncture this cycle to help.