Which podcast is this?I just can’t feel sorry for Millie. In the podcast she said she is going to have a nanny for 24 hours a day. One to do the night and one for the day. From two weeks old!! Which clearly means she isn’t going to have the baby in her room (a massive prevention measure for SIDS). On the days the nanny is not there for the night, the baby won’t have someone stood over watching it.
She is going to be giving her children anxiety. They need a stable primary caregiver to develop secure attachment. Don’t have children too close in age if it means you won’t be able to actual parent them. The more you are there for your kids in that first year the easier it is in the future.
I have been the nanny of middle class kids
before. You have four year olds self harming because they so desperately just want their parents. I have spoken to many other nannies and this is more common than you think. The child is not able to cope when their parents leave the house. Often from birth these children have been placed with nannies. These nannies tend to change frequently. Your child is constantly worrying that people will disappear from their life and never come back.
I once looked after a pair of 3.5 year old twins and I was their 10th nanny!!! The twins were terribly behaved (missing their parents), so everyone kept leaving them.. it was heartbreaking.
If I was rich i would definitely have help. But in the form of a cook, a cleaner, a driver! I wouldn’t dump my 2 week old with a stranger.
I feel like if you have a child and cannot cope then of course you need to get help. But she hasn’t even had the child yet and she already knows she can’t cope. So why have two under two? Just wait...