This isn't a great sign is it. Why lie about being on social media if there is nothing to hide? Apart from naked women of course...I've just found out my partner has been following a load of naked women on Instagram. He repeatedly stated he "doesn't do social media", so I never bothered looking for him on there. Saw notifications when I was borrowing his phone.
Now my mind is going into overdrive, thinking if he is interacting with these women, if he goes on only fans etc.
We are due to get married later this year.
I feel sick.
I'd be asking to see his phone and then I'd go through it with a fine tooth comb. If he refuses I think you've got your answers. Does he allow you access to bank statements? His PayPal? Apple pay or anything similar?
If he's on iphone go on the apple store to see what apps he's been downloading. If he's got instagram, he's probably got a Facebook somewhere
Find out which email address he used for the instagram and find out what other media he's on. Common ones for micro cheating are;
Snapchat
TikTok
Google pictures/chat
If you can get access to his emails, go on to only fans, put his email into the log in and click password reminder. If anything comes through he's on there.
There's loads of apps like cash app, WhatsApp, telegram etc. They use for this sort of thing. Also websites like Ashely Madison, Adult Friend Finder, Red Tube etc. Soda cam. Adult work, Adult Seek
This may sound extreme to some people but I think you need to be sure before you go ahead and marry someone who's hiding things from you. It may just be petty things, but always trust your gut. This is sadly so common these days
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