MAFS UK #10

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ReginaPhalange3

ReginaPhalange3

Continue on - please try to keep an open mind, be kind and for anyone who may need it, there's support available ❤

https://247sexualabusesupport.org.uk/
www.thebridgecanhelp.org.uk

The Bridge - Help after rape and sexual assault

The Bridge offers medical care, emotional and psychological support, and practical help to anyone who has been grape or sexually assaulted.
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www.helpguide.org

Recovering from Rape and Sexual Trauma

A guide to recovery after grape and sexual assault. Learn how to deal with the trauma and regain your sense of safety and trust.
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Link to the previous thread - https://tattle.life/threads/mafs-uk-9.51303/

And spoilers thread - https://tattle.life/threads/married-at-first-sight-2025-spoilers-1.50984/
 
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bigconspiracy

Someone commented about Ash and his nice guy thing. Not saying it’s him that did anything, however, in regards to nice guy acts - him being so butt hurt cos she wasn’t in the mood or didn’t find certain jokes funny always gave me bad vibes. It’s fair enough that he feel low key put out - but to make a whole song and dance about it the way he did - something disingenuous about him. I think the whole “I’m just a dumb guy” thing is a bit of an act.
 
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whyamihereagain

I am struggling to read this thread. It’s hits very hard for me. I had the same thing happen to me that happened to Shona with my abusive ex only I now have an 18 year old daughter. My daughter (her Sister) was only 6 months old when it happened so he knew I wouldn’t go through with a termination and happily told everyone we were expecting. I was devastated and had no support from my family, his family or my friends. Basically everyone believed him. I can’t explain the damage that has resulted. I couldn’t bond with my Daughter and suffered extreme post natal depression after a traumatic birth. I no longer speak to my family. I have moved away and started a new life with my new Partner who is the complete opposite of my ex and we now have a little boy who is the light of our life. The scars never go away though. There I said it. I feel like I will forever be hiding and running away from something I couldn’t control.
 
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Jelly Bean

Jelly Bean

bigconspiracy said:
Someone commented about Ash and his nice guy thing. Not saying it’s him that did anything, however, in regards to nice guy acts - him being so butt hurt cos she wasn’t in the mood or didn’t find certain jokes funny always gave me bad vibes. It’s fair enough that he feel low key put out - but to make a whole song and dance about it the way he did - something disingenuous about him. I think the whole “I’m just a dumb guy” thing is a bit of an act.
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I can't be a hypocrite and say I saw anything really wrong with Ash at the time because I didn't. However that could've been careful editing as we only saw Grace sometimes overreacting to what were relatively innocuous remarks from him.
The picking the bathroom lock was really wierd 😬
Didn't one of the women on Panorama say she was horrified when she saw the edit she'd been given?
 
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Plasmatic

The picking of the lock was SUCH an invasion of privacy and I’d be livid if my partner did it unless he was concerned about me. If it was someone I barely knew - ala Ashley/ Grace - I’d genuinely be quite scared
 
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JarvisCockerSpaniel

JarvisCockerSpaniel

Didn’t Ash say something like he was a handyman so picking a lock to him was just second nature and not odd at all? I thought the ‘experts’ would go to town on him for that but they didn’t. There’s not really a way to spin picking a lock on a female in the toilet, is there, other than that you’re being an abusive twit.
 
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raindropsroses

I've been trying to think of occasions where it might be justifiable to pick the bathroom lock when someone is in there. The only thing I can think of is if that person is passed out in there, or otherwise in immediate danger. For any other reason, it's a gross invasion of privacy, and he should have been raked across the coals for it.
 
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PrawnPurse

PrawnPurse

A lock should never be picked. I’ve been married 20 years and that would weird me out if my hubby started picking the lock.
 
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tazzy1998

it felt like ash never actually got called out for any of his actions. the lock picking should have been called out instantly. and the guilting grace for changing her mind about sex as well.
 
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Landslide

Landslide

raindropsroses said:
I've been trying to think of occasions where it might be justifiable to pick the bathroom lock when someone is in there. The only thing I can think of is if that person is passed out in there, or otherwise in immediate danger. For any other reason, it's a gross invasion of privacy, and he should have been raked across the coals for it.
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He did it multiple times
 
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Landslide

Landslide

tazzy1998 said:
it felt like ash never actually got called out for any of his actions. the lock picking should have been called out instantly. and the guilting grace for changing her mind about sex as well.
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The narrative was heavily focused on making Grace look ‘extreme’ and ‘difficult’. She wasn’t. I expect she put up with a lot of pressure from Ash throughout and it took a lot for her to reveal these things at commitment ceremonies. He was the dangerous one. Not Grace
 
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Landslide

Landslide

Someone mentioned in the previous thread about Grace ‘overreacting’ to ‘innocuous’ comments from Ash. If you’re talking about when Ash said ‘what do you expect when there’s a half naked good looking woman in front of me’ that wasn’t innocuous. It was belittling. And it was continuing the narrative that men do not have control over themselves around women. That it’s our responsibility to hide ourselves if we don’t want unwanted attention. He wasn’t talking about her and how his attraction to her was overwhelming because of her. It was just another opportunity to grab at her when she wasn’t up for it. Exactly like the description of the sheets being pulled off in panorama. She could’ve been anyone and how is he supposed to control his animalistic instincts? I expect Grace had a pretty difficult time but was being constantly gaslit with all the chat about Ash being lovely.
 
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