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whyamihereagain

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I am struggling to read this thread. It’s hits very hard for me. I had the same thing happen to me that happened to Shona with my abusive ex only I now have an 18 year old daughter. My daughter (her Sister) was only 6 months old when it happened so he knew I wouldn’t go through with a termination and happily told everyone we were expecting. I was devastated and had no support from my family, his family or my friends. Basically everyone believed him. I can’t explain the damage that has resulted. I couldn’t bond with my Daughter and suffered extreme post natal depression after a traumatic birth. I no longer speak to my family. I have moved away and started a new life with my new Partner who is the complete opposite of my ex and we now have a little boy who is the light of our life. The scars never go away though. There I said it. I feel like I will forever be hiding and running away from something I couldn’t control.
 
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ReginaPhalange3

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Continue on - please try to keep an open mind, be kind and for anyone who may need it, there's support available ❤

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Link to the previous thread - https://tattle.life/threads/mafs-uk-9.51303/

And spoilers thread - https://tattle.life/threads/married-at-first-sight-2025-spoilers-1.50984/
 
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Plasmatic

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The picking of the lock was SUCH an invasion of privacy and I’d be livid if my partner did it unless he was concerned about me. If it was someone I barely knew - ala Ashley/ Grace - I’d genuinely be quite scared
 
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Popcornshovel

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I think the language of MAFS could contribute to these issues. They say the cast has been 'matched by science' and it's 'a social experiment'. But it's bullshit - they've been matched for reality TV entertainment value.
 
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raindropsroses

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I've been trying to think of occasions where it might be justifiable to pick the bathroom lock when someone is in there. The only thing I can think of is if that person is passed out in there, or otherwise in immediate danger. For any other reason, it's a gross invasion of privacy, and he should have been raked across the coals for it.
 
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Landslide

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Someone mentioned in the previous thread about Grace ‘overreacting’ to ‘innocuous’ comments from Ash. If you’re talking about when Ash said ‘what do you expect when there’s a half naked good looking woman in front of me’ that wasn’t innocuous. It was belittling. And it was continuing the narrative that men do not have control over themselves around women. That it’s our responsibility to hide ourselves if we don’t want unwanted attention. He wasn’t talking about her and how his attraction to her was overwhelming because of her. It was just another opportunity to grab at her when she wasn’t up for it. Exactly like the description of the sheets being pulled off in panorama. She could’ve been anyone and how is he supposed to control his animalistic instincts? I expect Grace had a pretty difficult time but was being constantly gaslit with all the chat about Ash being lovely.
 
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bigconspiracy

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Someone commented about Ash and his nice guy thing. Not saying it’s him that did anything, however, in regards to nice guy acts - him being so butt hurt cos she wasn’t in the mood or didn’t find certain jokes funny always gave me bad vibes. It’s fair enough that he feel low key put out - but to make a whole song and dance about it the way he did - something disingenuous about him. I think the whole “I’m just a dumb guy” thing is a bit of an act.
 
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Spicyicy12

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Seen a few cast members jumping on the bandwagon to make videos/posts, anything for some attention. One thing I’m confused about though is Leigh has done a video to say the welfare team were great which I think is in ill taste given that not everyone’s experiences is the same and it also doesn’t add anything relevant except make the 3 that come forward probably feel like idiots…
 
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Didn’t Ash say something like he was a handyman so picking a lock to him was just second nature and not odd at all? I thought the ‘experts’ would go to town on him for that but they didn’t. There’s not really a way to spin picking a lock on a female in the toilet, is there, other than that you’re being an abusive twat.
 
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Jelly Bean

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I think the language of MAFS could contribute to these issues. They say the cast has been 'matched by science' and it's 'a social experiment'. But it's bullshit - they've been matched for reality TV entertainment value.
And sometimes they look like they've been wilfully mismatched to make good telly eg Adam/Polly and that other couple I've forgotten - 'love a wine, love a crisp' - where both men rightly or wrongly specified they preferred thin women. Putting them with curvier women was surely just so we could witness their dislike which wasn't fair to either party.
 
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Landslide

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it felt like ash never actually got called out for any of his actions. the lock picking should have been called out instantly. and the guilting grace for changing her mind about sex as well.
The narrative was heavily focused on making Grace look ‘extreme’ and ‘difficult’. She wasn’t. I expect she put up with a lot of pressure from Ash throughout and it took a lot for her to reveal these things at commitment ceremonies. He was the dangerous one. Not Grace
 
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HotDawg

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Seen a few cast members jumping on the bandwagon to make videos/posts, anything for some attention. One thing I’m confused about though is Leigh has done a video to say the welfare team were great which I think is in ill taste given that not everyone’s experiences is the same and it also doesn’t add anything relevant except make the 3 that come forward probably feel like idiots…
I saw the video and scrolled on by. She didn’t deserve the view. It is in very poor taste. I am deeply disappointed in people choosing this exact time to speak up about their positive experience. What purpose does that serve except to discredit those who have bravely come forward?
 
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tazzy1998

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it felt like ash never actually got called out for any of his actions. the lock picking should have been called out instantly. and the guilting grace for changing her mind about sex as well.
 
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mysecretself

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Saw this on Nathaniel’s insta. I’d be very suprised if they showed mafs uk on telly in the near future. I am
Sure this is just the tip of the iceberg.

I would love to be a fly on the wall at their marketing meeting wondering how they are going to flip this narrative now. There is no way they can recover at this stage.
 

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PrawnPurse

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A lock should never be picked. I’ve been married 20 years and that would weird me out if my hubby started picking the lock.
 
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AS she walked down the aisle, Amy Kenynon was really hoping she was about to meet the love of her life.

But within minutes, the 29-year-old knew she was embarking on anything but a fairytale romance. What followed, says Amy, was weeks of being sexually degraded on camera, and now, for the first time, she reveals what went on when shooting ended for the day.

She tells us: “Sexual harassment went on, and mine happened on camera. I just had to deal with it, and everybody was just laughing at it. It was making good TV, even if I did feel uncomfortable 80% of the time.

“I had a very, very, very difficult time on the show. And went through all that like sexual harassment publicly. I had to have therapy afterwards.”

Amy – who was working in sales when she applied for the show – was partnered with Luke Debono in 2024 as they entered the experiment as an ‘intruder’ couple, meaning they joined later than the original pairings.

Straight away, Amy tells us she knew something was off, and she burst into tears just moments after walking down the aisle.

She was asked if he was the kind of guy she would approach in a bar, and she told producers: “No, he’s a creepy guy I would avoid at the bar. I remember having to share a bed with him that evening. And I thought, oh my God, I can’t do this.

“But I put up pillows as a barrier to keep him away from me. You tell yourself, oh, it’s an experiment. This is how it’s meant to feel. This is how it’s meant to happen, but you can’t help but feel sometimes, is this right?”

Doubting her own feelings soon became the norm for Amy throughout the experience as she continued to tell herself it was just what she had signed up for.

She says Luke, who is from Malta, wasted no time in making his intentions clear.

Amy remembers: “It was uncomfortable, and it wasn’t nice. He was very sexually explicit and constantly making derogatory jokes. I’m not that sensitive, but it was the fact that I was asking him to stop, and he wouldn’t.

“It started straight away. When we went on the honeymoon, that’s when I said, look, you really make me feel uncomfortable. Can you tone it down a little bit?

“But as soon as he saw people laughing at things he was coming out with, it just got worse and worse and worse.”

Indeed, Luke would openly discuss their sex life in front of their fellow contestants and the advisors, leaving viewers disgusted.

In one of the sessions with the experts, Amy told them Luke had made her feel uncomfortable for taking off his shirt during a pottery session and telling her he wished the stool he was sitting on were her face.

At another point, he told her: “I wish I’d have got down on my knees while you were cooking in the kitchen and terrorised your b*****e.”

Amy felt they were encouraged to not only speak about sex, but also have sex on the show.

She says: “When you sit on the couch, in front of the experts, they ask, ‘Have you been intimate?’ And if you’re saying you like each other and blah, blah, blah, it’s like, well, why haven’t we been intimate? And it’s like, oh, my God, should I be being intimate?
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“Usually, I would want to know someone for a few weeks before doing stuff like that, you know? The experiment is fast-paced, and you have to move at a faster pace. Looking back now, I wish I hadn’t.”

Once they started having sex, Amy says she asked Luke not to share certain details on camera.

“I said, ‘I’m not speaking about that on television’. I really do not want to do it. Please don’t humiliate me. I want my dad to be able to watch this. I want to watch it with my family.

“Anyway, he promised me he wouldn’t. And then he spoke about it to another groom, and the scene was included. And I didn’t know until like the week that they rang me and said, just to let you know, this is going to happen. And he was speaking about parking the car in the garage, which sounds disgusting.”

While a lot of Luke’s comments did make it on camera, Amy claims a lot happened when the cameras stopped rolling.

She says: “If I’m honest, that’s not even the bit that I struggled with most. Honestly, some of the things he would say to me off camera, I didn’t know if he was trying to gaslight me, to get a reaction or if he was telling the truth.”

She recalls one horrifying story where he claimed to have killed his mum’s dog.

Amy remembers: “I freaked out, and he was telling me this whole story about how it happened. He had an argument with his mum, and he took it out on the dog. And obviously I’ve got a dog – I just went really stiff and really scared. I didn’t know if he was telling the truth.”

A lot of what Amy claims Luke said is not printable, but she tells us it was “weird, sick things”.

She adds: “On camera, he was obsessed with me. He was doting on me. But when we were, say, for example, in bed together, he’d just say like, just like really weird, sick things. I feel like he was trying to really play with my emotions.”

Once the series aired, Amy really struggled watching it, explaining: “I started questioning myself, because I got trolled so bad off the back of the show, and I thought, why do people not see that the way he’s being is wrong?

“Having to watch it back was even worse. I felt humiliated.

“I’m standing up for myself and telling him to stop speaking a certain way to me.

“I have standards, and I would never want my daughter to be spoken to like that by a man, to be sexually degraded. I think he’s the most vile human being I’ve ever met.”

The pair called it quits during the final vow ceremony.

Things became even more disturbing after the experience ended, and she says she received a call from someone who claimed they used to date Luke and also had a difficult experience.

More claims were made, and the decision was made by Channel 4 not to allow Luke back to film the reunion show.

Amy adds: “I had a lucky escape.”

Amazingly, Amy doesn’t lay any of the blame on the broadcaster and believes they undertook all the necessary checks.

“It is so thorough. But for me, the guy I was with, he was from Malta,” she says. “So if you’re doing a DBS screening on him in the UK, it’s not going to come up, is it?”

“They might have done things, and they haven’t been reported. So it doesn’t mean they’re still not crazy. With regards to screening and picking people, you just never know what someone’s really like.”

Amy believes the only way for MAFS to continue is to have 24-hour CCTV in those apartments.

She says: “They need that surveillance in the apartments. Because they can vet the people, but you don’t truly know who somebody is. So there is the risk.

“From my experience, if anybody has ever brought anything to light, especially on my season, there were a few instances where they just got removed from the show completely.

“It’s not like they were being told and then they didn’t act. People want to stay in the experiment because it’s exciting and it’s fun, and they tend to stay quiet about what’s really happening in the relationships.

“I only really put myself to blame for actually putting up with it.”

Luke has been contacted for comment.


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This doesn't add up though. She complained on the show that he wouldn't finish inside her and then also went on Ex on the Beach when there's a very good chance they would pick Luke. I just don't think you'd take that risk of someone made you feel so deeply uncomfortable. She's then gone on to do interviews where she is sexually degrading him.

He definitely was over the top with comments and I could definitely see him harassing her but there's stuff here not adding up too.
 
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