I get we’re all theorising on this discussion but surely saying a piece of evidence that’s been submitted to the courts could’ve been “someone mis remembering“ is a bit ridiculous.
I agree with you I don’t think what she said was particularly weird. If she’s innocent, she was probably just trying to remind let the mother know something about her child.
It normally means you don't remember anything, have moments where time is missing rather than inventing new memories though.
That’s not fact though. Some people forget stuff from traumatic events, some don’t. In my personal experience I have a very very clear memory of a traumatic event I went through.
Nah I agree, I think the armchair diagnosing is really pointless tbh.
I’ve had a lot of trauma and my memory is terrible. Without the scars / hospital records I wouldn’t be able to tell you the truth of it now. I can’t remember what actjallly happened now and what I’ve blocked out to protect myself. Sometimes I have nightmares and I think that’s the truth because of the fear that comes but thinking straight it’s like an out of body experience so I can kinda confirm your comment
The mother’s misinterpreted and now she’s misremembered.. are there no lengths people won’t go to! So disrespectful imo.
Not necessarily, it may just be that you're so traumatised and distressed that you're viewing everything through that lense. People talk about seeing nothing but happy smiling families after a loss, probably not the case but we don't always perceive things in the way we normally would.
This is how I saw it too. A comforting bit of information.
I am the same, I have years where I can't remember anything, don't know what age I was when things happened etc. but certain events are painfully crystal clear.
The programme could be relevant, because she would have seen the drama and high stakes adrenaline rush surrounding it. Which is very different than practising it on a dummy or in a controlled training environment. If she was a thrill/adrenaline seeker who wanted more excitement, this could have inspired her as an easy way to get it. Sometime you know things subconsciously, but don't think of it until you're watching it happen in front of you.
I disagree, it's normal to question things. The mothers will have obviously been incredibly distressed and if they're making a statement years later you'd question anyone's ability to remember specific details. That's not disrespectful it's what happens during a trial
I always think that's the problem with character witnesses and statements. Memory can become distorted. Sometimes we have a 'selective memory' and more importantly, at times of trauma, we can have a 'false memory'.
Could Lucy have realised after that maybe she was in the wrong about what happened during the bath. Realised the parents weren’t happy with what she did. So sent the card as a way to try and seem more sympathetic towards the situation and as an apology kind of thing. To try and change the parents opinion into thinking she didn’t mean to be like that during the bath? And she took a picture of the card in case anything came back on her for it or just to show someone to make sure they thought what she put was ok? I don’t usually write things in my job that go to clients but if I do then I get someone to check first
That's completely different though because the parents weren't the one accusing LL of the crime. Their statement would have been made after they'd been told of the allegations. So it would colour her judgement completely.
I get what you’re saying completely but I am a victim of grape and my memory is shot. I couldn’t tell you the truth now years on under oath because I cannot remember. Trauma does a lot to the body and mind.
Totally disrespectful.
