Loneliness

[BaileyMC]

@altgirl @BaileyMC have you looked at meetup? I've found a few groups near to me for 20/30s, 30/40s and one for a local town which do lots of things like bowling, murder mystery nights, curry nights, watching bands or just a walk. I can't make any of the meetups because of the kids

Thanks I will have a look at this now.

 

[Melissa25xo]

25 is a lonely age what’s everyone like doing? I’m on maternity leave so I spend an unhealthy amount of time on tiktok before the kids when I had more free time I always enjoyed make up and Xbox but don’t get the chance these days

I am on maternity leave too! I am sick of spending my days watching this morning and Dickinsons real deal I have been to one baby group but felt as if everyone else already knew each other or was mates so that wasn’t my cup of tea I’m looking for some other groups or things to do until I go back to work

 

[amb1505]

Your heartbreak is understandable, you put so much into this relationship and had high hopes of it working. Your pain and disappointment must be so raw as you moved away and were giving up everything for him. He doesn’t deserve you! Plain and simple. Know your worth and understand that you are so much better than how he has treated you. It seems really tough right now but dig deep and organize your life without him. You’ll feel so much better. Try things you know he’d hate. Exercise is important as a previous poster mentioned and you’ll feel better for the endorphins. You said you didn’t drive, down the months maybe think of learning to give you this independence. Try thinking of things to do and try that were different to what you had together, it will give you new interests, ideas and outlooks. When you have mended your broken heart you’ll look back and see he wasn’t the one for you because there’s nicer, kinder more thoughtful people out there. Big hugs and strength xxx

Thank you so much for your kind words. I agree, I did put a lot into it because I really thought he was the one. I have been learning to drive but I had my test cancelled about 3 times due to the lockdowns and I'm now going to have to reschedule it to the test centre near my parents house and find a new instructor. I just don't understand how all that can just come to nothing, a stupid drunken row and then him ignoring all of my texts when I've told him how upset I am and how sorry I am. Right now he isn't the person I knew and loved. Thank you xxx

I hope it’s ok for me to post. I’m also feeling really lonely.
I was sectioned and in hospital from November 2018 to November 2020. During that time I was obviously surrounded by people at all times and I lost touch or have become distanced from my friends.
family is a whole other issue, I only really have my dad.
Anyway, I have been home for 7 months and had very little support from the community team. I sometimes only see the people in the pharmacy and whoever I pass when I go shopping each week. The people I became very close to in hospital are spread out around the country so we don’t see each other.

I feel lost and I don’t know where my place is in the world anymore, the pandemic hasn’t helped either.

My mental health has started to decline. I’m depressed, my benefits haven’t been sorted still so I’m barely able to eat as I’m waiting for it to come through and so I’m not able to go to the gym or the workout classes, the isolation has meant my generalised and social anxiety has gotten worse and I’m practically a hermit.

I’m sorry I’m rambling, insomnia means I am still awake at 2:30am and I needed to vent.

sending my love to everyone

I'm so sorry to hear this, sending you so much love and so many cuddles. I know what you mean by sometimes not knowing where your place is and it's such a nasty, lost feeling. I suffer bad social anxiety too, which I didn't really get before the pandemic but a lot of people on here recommended to me to find some local Facebook groups like free walking groups just as a chance to socialise. How would you feel about trying to get a part time job or volunteering in a charity shop/something similar? I know the thought of going for an interview or going in for your first day may be so overwhelming but find that little bit of courage and drag yourself there and you'll meet so many people and get very comfortable very quickly. Sending you so much love, I wish we had a private message function on here xxx

 

[amb1505]

Im so sorry your going through this! Thinking of you and roll on Monday when you can get your life back and find yourself again. He sounds like a dickhead and one day you’ll feel a sense of relief that it all came out now rather than years down the line

xxxxxx

Thank you so much. I'm dreading having to go back to my parents house but I do hope I'll get that relief once I'm there.. Very true xxxx

 

[Hope96]

Ahh thanks everyone. Dad made other arrangements so is coming over next week now and my mum was out so I went to the beach and read some of my book before picking the kids up from school

That's a beautiful photo and I'm glad you were able to enjoy the view whilst reading some of your book. I hope you're getting on ok today. You've been in my thoughts so I'm glad you have posted. x

 

[boomska]

I was thinking about my loneliness tonight and this thread. And I want to ask a question which I hope might make us feel better? Anyway, what do you think will make us feel better about loneliness? Like, if someone said XYZ would make you feel better, what would your XYZ would be? Xx

 

[Jc456]

I don’t know how you do it, must be so difficult not having someone in the house with you to watch the kid/kids while you go shopping or something. Credit to you

Ahh thanks, this last year has been intense