There are things we agree on. I am aware that self harm can be used to manipulate. The person who was violent to me used threats of harm and attempted suicide twice. The latter of the two was nearly successful. I don't doubt that although he wanted to gain my attention, he was also mentally unwell.Well look she admitted whacking him over the head that night, with what still remains unclear. She says phone, he said lamp. Yes she self harmed that night but self harming in front of someone is also a form of mental abuse and manipulation. I feel she was a very damaged girl who had a history of volatile relationships, she was someone who had a lot of issues and unfortunately felt she had no other way out. There was clearly enough evidence that an assault took place in order for CPS to press charges. I don’t understand why they were vilified for doing their job and she was beatified for committing assault. There seems to be no balance to it all anymore, the minute she died her offence was forgotten and her death was blamed solely on trolls. It was literally stated at her inquest that she took her own life as she had spiralled to such a degree that the thoughts of the body cam footage being made public was causing her such turmoil. Whatever was on there would likely have been career ending. Anyway I feel a bit ick still discussing it to this day because the girl is gone. But the airbrushing on social media and the be kind nonsense is baffling. Yes be kind of course, but also be critical, question things and don’t take tit from people. Her actions deserved to be investigated.
I also agree that the police were doing there job and should not have faced the criticism they did. The ability for the police to press charges without victim consent was long fought for and has good, sound sense behind it.
Where we disagree is that we shouldn't discuss it. Only by discussing things can these topics be kept in the light. Whilst we may not agree on some stuff, I presume we agree that she was unwell. Not all mental health concerns are palatable. In the right context a discussion about mental ill health, what can be learnt and how to help people should always be on the table.