Learning to drive #2

[Lollypad]

Like put me back with my nerves. I don’t know if I’m really bad at driving or not. I still make lots of mistakes. I sometimes forget to change back into first/second when turning for example. Or hesitate at a mini roundabout when I should have gone. Maybe the instructor is going slowly because I’m crap. Just don’t know.

You’re a learner - of course you make mistakes, and your instructor isn’t helping you. Please stop beating yourself up - hesitation is something a lot of us struggle with, you can’t really learn it, it’s just experience. I’m a lot more comfortable at roundabouts 3 months after passing than I was when I did my test, it really is just experience, and 19 hours is certainly nothing to be worrying about in terms of how you feel driving. I had 35 hours with my first instructor who said I was test ready (test got cancelled because lockdowns) then another 25 with my second instructor because I was not confident enough to be driving on my own

 

[JLXRD]

I have my test tomorrow. I am thinking I might try rescue remedy - anyone else tried it on a test? I used it on my wedding day and I don’t know if it helped or not.

I had a test mid December which I failed on something utterly stupid where I went too wide on a left turn it was because the bike lane to the left hand side was really big so I was trying to avoid to, but the examiner said I didn’t have control of my steering.

Hoping I do a bit better tomorrow but absolutely bricking it.

 

[LadyB65]

I have my test tomorrow. I am thinking I might try rescue remedy - anyone else tried it on a test? I used it on my wedding day and I don’t know if it helped or not.

I had a test mid December which I failed on something utterly stupid where I went too wide on a left turn it was because the bike lane to the left hand side was really big so I was trying to avoid to, but the examiner said I didn’t have control of my steering.

Hoping I do a bit better tomorrow but absolutely bricking it.

I used rescue remedy for the test which I passed, I have no idea if it actually helped or if it was more of a placebo effect, but I would say definitely worth a go! It sounds like a really minor thing that you failed on last time, so fingers and toes crossed that you’ll smash this one! Good luck

 

[Brianbadonde]

I have my test tomorrow. I am thinking I might try rescue remedy - anyone else tried it on a test? I used it on my wedding day and I don’t know if it helped or not.

I had a test mid December which I failed on something utterly stupid where I went too wide on a left turn it was because the bike lane to the left hand side was really big so I was trying to avoid to, but the examiner said I didn’t have control of my steering.

Hoping I do a bit better tomorrow but absolutely bricking it.

My daughter used kalms tablets the night before and rescue remedy on the morning and had a banana, said she felt it definitely helped
X

 

[Lollypad]

My daughter used kalms tablets the night before and rescue remedy on the morning and had a banana, said she felt it definitely helped
X

What is the banana thing? All the test advice websites say “eat something like a banana” - is it just something manageable to settle your blood sugars or are bananas magical?

 

[Brianbadonde]

What is the banana thing? All the test advice websites say “eat something like a banana” - is it just something manageable to settle your blood sugars or are bananas magical?

Bananas are filled with potassium, a mineral that can help reduce tension. Bananas are also great in pacifying and soothing the mind as they are rich in tryptophan, an amino acid which boosts the formation of serotonin (the feel-good hormone) So sort of magical I guess

 

[Lollypad]

Bananas are filled with potassium, a mineral that can help reduce tension. Bananas are also great in pacifying and soothing the mind as they are rich in tryptophan, an amino acid which boosts the formation of serotonin (the feel-good hormone) So sort of magical I guess

I had no idea, thank you!

 

[JLXRD]

I got some rescue remedy and have been using it this evening as I’m proper nervous.

Watching mock tests on YouTube all evening in an attempt to prep.

 

[JLXRD]

I passed guys I can’t believe it

I had the nicest examiner which definitely helped, I’m just so relieved I’ve finally done it.

 

[noseybirdxo]

I passed guys I can’t believe it

I had the nicest examiner which definitely helped, I’m just so relieved I’ve finally done it.

Waaahoooooo well done you! Enjoy this feeling, you deserve it xx

 

[JLXRD]

Waaahoooooo well done you! Enjoy this feeling, you deserve it xx

Thank you! I can’t believe it!

 

[Thank(space)you]

I passed guys I can’t believe it

I had the nicest examiner which definitely helped, I’m just so relieved I’ve finally done it.

Amazing, well done!!

 

[under the ivy]

I passed guys I can’t believe it

I had the nicest examiner which definitely helped, I’m just so relieved I’ve finally done it.

Congrats! X

 

[boobear191]

Posted this on the wrong thread but earlier today
I came off the worst driving lesson I’ve ever had, cried my eyes out (proper ugly crying, couldn’t speak) .. he was alright the first 3/4 lessons actually was quite calm & reasonable/understanding but the last 2 I’ve had (last one was mid December before he broke up for xmas, and had one today) he’s literally speaking to me like crap, sighing & making little remarks despite the fact I did mention I am VERY nervous & have extreme anxiety. I took 40mg propranolol for anxiety before my lesson to calm me & I actually felt good, despite not being on the road for about 4/5 weeks I genuinely thought I was doing well.

but apparently I’m crap & I’m doing absolutely everything wrong in my power, just one of 70 things he picked at me about was that I didn’t pull out infront of a massive lorry when I could of.. imagine if I’d stalled though? Like I get what he’s saying I could of but I didn’t want to - i felt safer to wait then go once the lorry had.
Long story short I feel so sh*t now, embarrassed & everything cos I hate crying infront of anyone (even my mum.) but today, I couldn’t help but to. I’m shy at the best of times & I don’t like to kind of ‘hit back’ at him or say something so I’m just like ‘okay’ ‘sorry’.. am I being stupid here?

I’m also over paying him, he states his lessons are £27 I give him £30 (20 note & 10 note) & he never gives me the change back. I duno if I’m being petty here. Sorry for jumping on here randomly but I have no pals, I’ve cried to my mum as I walked in with mascara all over my face & a bubbling mess. Just really needed to vent. It’s been hours since I’ve been back home from the lesson & im still on/off crying. He seemed quite shocked when I started crying I think it’s because I act as if I’ve got quite thick skin/I’m ok, but yeh.. today really sucked

 

[JLXRD]

Posted this on the wrong thread but earlier today
I came off the worst driving lesson I’ve ever had, cried my eyes out (proper ugly crying, couldn’t speak) .. he was alright the first 3/4 lessons actually was quite calm & reasonable/understanding but the last 2 I’ve had (last one was mid December before he broke up for xmas, and had one today) he’s literally speaking to me like crap, sighing & making little remarks despite the fact I did mention I am VERY nervous & have extreme anxiety. I took 40mg propranolol for anxiety before my lesson to calm me & I actually felt good, despite not being on the road for about 4/5 weeks I genuinely thought I was doing well.

but apparently I’m crap & I’m doing absolutely everything wrong in my power, just one of 70 things he picked at me about was that I didn’t pull out infront of a massive lorry when I could of.. imagine if I’d stalled though? Like I get what he’s saying I could of but I didn’t want to - i felt safer to wait then go once the lorry had.
Long story short I feel so sh*t now, embarrassed & everything cos I hate crying infront of anyone (even my mum.) but today, I couldn’t help but to. I’m shy at the best of times & I don’t like to kind of ‘hit back’ at him or say something so I’m just like ‘okay’ ‘sorry’.. am I being stupid here?

I’m also over paying him, he states his lessons are £27 I give him £30 (20 note & 10 note) & he never gives me the change back. I duno if I’m being petty here. Sorry for jumping on here randomly but I have no pals, I’ve cried to my mum as I walked in with mascara all over my face & a bubbling mess. Just really needed to vent. It’s been hours since I’ve been back home from the lesson & im still on/off crying. He seemed quite shocked when I started crying I think it’s because I act as if I’ve got quite thick skin/I’m ok, but yeh.. today really sucked

I’m sorry you had such a horrible couple of lessons

I would look for another instructor. I regularly cried on my driving lessons until I found my (fifth) instructor. I ended up going to a driving school who specialised in nervous drivers and never cried once in my final instructors car other than when I failed my first test (and earlier today when I passed.)

You are paying this person to teach you to drive, not to be spoken to rudely. If it’s not the right fit, I’d move on asap before it hurts your confidence.

I also think he should be giving you change. Over 5 lessons, that’s over an extra half an hour of driving you should have gotten for your money.

 

[LadyB65]

Posted this on the wrong thread but earlier today
I came off the worst driving lesson I’ve ever had, cried my eyes out (proper ugly crying, couldn’t speak) .. he was alright the first 3/4 lessons actually was quite calm & reasonable/understanding but the last 2 I’ve had (last one was mid December before he broke up for xmas, and had one today) he’s literally speaking to me like crap, sighing & making little remarks despite the fact I did mention I am VERY nervous & have extreme anxiety. I took 40mg propranolol for anxiety before my lesson to calm me & I actually felt good, despite not being on the road for about 4/5 weeks I genuinely thought I was doing well.

but apparently I’m crap & I’m doing absolutely everything wrong in my power, just one of 70 things he picked at me about was that I didn’t pull out infront of a massive lorry when I could of.. imagine if I’d stalled though? Like I get what he’s saying I could of but I didn’t want to - i felt safer to wait then go once the lorry had.
Long story short I feel so sh*t now, embarrassed & everything cos I hate crying infront of anyone (even my mum.) but today, I couldn’t help but to. I’m shy at the best of times & I don’t like to kind of ‘hit back’ at him or say something so I’m just like ‘okay’ ‘sorry’.. am I being stupid here?

I’m also over paying him, he states his lessons are £27 I give him £30 (20 note & 10 note) & he never gives me the change back. I duno if I’m being petty here. Sorry for jumping on here randomly but I have no pals, I’ve cried to my mum as I walked in with mascara all over my face & a bubbling mess. Just really needed to vent. It’s been hours since I’ve been back home from the lesson & im still on/off crying. He seemed quite shocked when I started crying I think it’s because I act as if I’ve got quite thick skin/I’m ok, but yeh.. today really sucked

Oh no you should never leave a lesson feeling like this, even if you are a crap driver just now (you are learning after all) you should never be made to feel like that, lessons should offer constructive criticism, and advice, but should always end on a positive note, with advice on how to improve. Regarding the lorry, you were the one in the driver seat, so only right that you made the decision, he may have pulled out in front but a thousand people wouldn’t have, and you could have stalled, especially if you thought the pressure was on, so do not let him make you feel bad about that.

I don’t think you’re being stupid at all, instructors should know how to deal with nervous people and anxious drivers, and it doesn’t sound like he is very good at it to say the least.
I would recommend looking for a new instructor who is particularly good with anxious drivers? It took me a few attempts to find the perfect instructor for me, and honestly it was the best thing I ever did.
I know you have said you don’t like speaking out, but have you asked him what he recommends you do since he seems so intent on picking up your faults?
Just remember that we all have bad days, even people who have passed their test and we all make silly mistakes, you’re not alone in that. So try and not let one lesson get you down

 

[BettyCrockerr]

Posted this on the wrong thread but earlier today
I came off the worst driving lesson I’ve ever had, cried my eyes out (proper ugly crying, couldn’t speak) .. he was alright the first 3/4 lessons actually was quite calm & reasonable/understanding but the last 2 I’ve had (last one was mid December before he broke up for xmas, and had one today) he’s literally speaking to me like crap, sighing & making little remarks despite the fact I did mention I am VERY nervous & have extreme anxiety. I took 40mg propranolol for anxiety before my lesson to calm me & I actually felt good, despite not being on the road for about 4/5 weeks I genuinely thought I was doing well.

but apparently I’m crap & I’m doing absolutely everything wrong in my power, just one of 70 things he picked at me about was that I didn’t pull out infront of a massive lorry when I could of.. imagine if I’d stalled though? Like I get what he’s saying I could of but I didn’t want to - i felt safer to wait then go once the lorry had.
Long story short I feel so sh*t now, embarrassed & everything cos I hate crying infront of anyone (even my mum.) but today, I couldn’t help but to. I’m shy at the best of times & I don’t like to kind of ‘hit back’ at him or say something so I’m just like ‘okay’ ‘sorry’.. am I being stupid here?

I’m also over paying him, he states his lessons are £27 I give him £30 (20 note & 10 note) & he never gives me the change back. I duno if I’m being petty here. Sorry for jumping on here randomly but I have no pals, I’ve cried to my mum as I walked in with mascara all over my face & a bubbling mess. Just really needed to vent. It’s been hours since I’ve been back home from the lesson & im still on/off crying. He seemed quite shocked when I started crying I think it’s because I act as if I’ve got quite thick skin/I’m ok, but yeh.. today really sucked

Your instructor is a head. Ditch him and get someone else

 

[Grejaha]

I failed my test lmao and I’m so annoyed bc I slowed down before the crossroad but apparently it was too late that the examiner had to slam on his breaks (bit excessive in my opinion).
I’m slightly put off by the whole experience but at the same time I want my licence. It was sooo nerve wracking.
My instructor said not to book him until a week before my next test day as he knows I can drive (I’m also paying to be on my grandmas insurance) and doesn’t want me to waste my money.
I know it’s 10 days until I can next book a test, but how long would you guys wait?

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I failed my test lmao and I’m so annoyed bc I slowed down before the crossroad but apparently it was too late that the examiner had to slam on his breaks (bit excessive in my opinion).
I’m slightly put off by the whole experience but at the same time I want my licence. It was sooo nerve wracking.
My instructor said not to book him until a week before my next test day as he knows I can drive (I’m also paying to be on my grandmas insurance) and doesn’t want me to waste my money.
I know it’s 10 days until I can next book a test, but how long would you guys wait?

Book it as soon as you can. You can drive, it’s just bad luck today. Get another test booked ASAP

 

[Kim Mild]

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I failed my test lmao and I’m so annoyed bc I slowed down before the crossroad but apparently it was too late that the examiner had to slam on his breaks (bit excessive in my opinion).
I’m slightly put off by the whole experience but at the same time I want my licence. It was sooo nerve wracking.
My instructor said not to book him until a week before my next test day as he knows I can drive (I’m also paying to be on my grandmas insurance) and doesn’t want me to waste my money.
I know it’s 10 days until I can next book a test, but how long would you guys wait?

Soon as you can, there may be a lot of demand for tests in your area