Thank you ... I didn't post for sympathy, just wanted to convey that real abuse happens to many children, by others who are meant to nurture, protect and love .... on a daily basis ...... with my mother .... in front of others, she was the perfect mother, she put on a good show, behind closed doors it was a living hell ... she would switch instantly, it was quite scary to witness, how she went from warm, affectionate mother of the year, to cold nasty beast who terrorised me ` we see this quite clearly with pwwiccee ` to the outside world, she fakes a completely different persona, my mother did the same, the guests coming to our home, were impressed by this lovely woman, who would grab, kiss us gently, while smiling warmly at us, hugging me the tightest .. I now look back at photos with her, and in every pic, she is smiling for the camera, and I'm thoroughly miserable in every photo, standing next to her, again we see this with pwiccees children ... I was quite quite a shy sensitive child, made even worse by her behaviour ... my father loved all his children equally, he never laid a finger on us, he also suffered at his father's hands as a child ... he provided a good life, we never went without, he worked a lot so was not at home as much .... which meant she had to deal with 4 children herself, which was common in those times, the mother stayed at home, while the father was the breadwinner, that aspect I can understand, even though she hurt me, taking care of 4 children, with a husband working all the time, is no easy task .... as Ive matured I have looked at things from her side, to try and understand her behaviour and why ... she was a young woman, who was sheltered back home in Cyprus, living in a small village, very loving parents, 5 brothers who adored her, by all accounts quite spoiled, even though there was much poverty at the time .... My father saw her fell in love, she was a stunning beauty, in her photos, she looked like a Hollywood star ..... he asked her father and brothers for her hand in marriage, they refused, he was quite a rogue, wild, walked his own path, not a good match in their eyes, he left Cyprus came to London to make a life, and she eventually followed, it was love .... my father loved all his children, but protected me more, because I was always the quiet one, we shared and still do quite a close bond .... my mother was very needy, wanted all his attention, wanted him to herself, often there were big fights because of this, she would throw these hysterical tantrums, psychotic behaviour off the scale, like a 3yr old toddler, it was horrible to witness .... he wouldn't bow to her though .... she thought I was the favourite, in her mind I was getting the love she deserved, couldn't control him, hence took her anger out on me, in her mind ... his golden child ..... which was bollocks, he loved all his children .... he became immune to her orchestrated hysterics, if he was not working so much, and at home, my mother wouldn't have got away with so much, also as an abused child, you keep the `secret ` I only told him at 17, what she put me through, children usually remain very loyal to their mothers, even if abuse is present ..... I've mentioned all the above, because I see quite a bit of behaviour that mirrors my mother in ` pwiccee ` ... the face they put on in public, is a farce .... pwiccee mentioned on James English podcast, that she can adapt to any given situation on the spot .... and they do, my mother was an expert in putting on the fake persona, in order for people to see this loving earth mother, it was an act .... those with strong narc traits, view life as a game, and sadly the children as pawns ... again like pwiccceee she would often try to get my sisters to turn on me, they wouldnt, so she gave them the silent treatment, and made them do extra chores as a punishment, often choosing one over the other to praise ` we see this with pwiccee ` they get great enjoyment, watching the children turn on each other ... finally .... with this type of person ` pwwiccee ` my mother ... living with them, day in, day out is exhausting, because its a constant MINDFUCK 24/7, this is how they live their lives, it really is all about ` SELF ` ME ... ME ... ME and fuck whoever gets hurt in the crossfire ... sorry for long post, just sharing on what her children must go through living with her .... I see A LOT of my mother with ` pwicceess ` behaviour and ultimately, it's always the children who pay in the end