First thing I thought when I seen that post was - has she been reading here?
But why should she ‘be kind’ to them after they’ve been crappy to her?She can do what she likes, I personally think it’s hypocritical to hashtag be kind when she is not being kind to them. I in no way think that they should be commenting those things to her but to play devils advocate, if all her followers now start sending these people abusive messages (and they know this will happen, it’s happened before when they have nastily commented back to people) then she is not being kind herself.
Unfortunately she has chosen to put herself and her life out there for everyone to see and have an opinion on and you are never going to only get nice comments.
It was in a comment someone put on her instagram, I have followed Kate for a while now and think shes so lovely, it seems like shes getting lots of support from family and friends though so thats good xThe "dead behind the eyes" comment is from here. I did not see thay anywhere on her posts on Insta. Correct me if I am wrong.
Hi Kate Hope you feel better soon. The newborn days do pass.She’s got every right to not blank out the names of those people who wrote crappy comments on her post. There was absolutely no need for them to post comments like that to her. They wrote it publicly so why should she have to blank out the names?
I am not Kate, but then again if I was I would say that, feel free to look at previous posts for evidence of my non Kate-nessHi Kate Hope you feel better soon. The newborn days do pass.
This was my first thought too.First thing I thought when I seen that post was - has she been reading here?
Same.This was my first thought too.
That's the trouble with Instagram though it's only half the picture, I was in exactly the same position as you and don't regret having my daughter for a second, even though it was hard and I was dreading it the whole pregnancy. It's worrying that Instagram can have such an influence as we need to be able to come to our own decisions! Not Kate in particular but the whole Mum brigade!I am not Kate, but then again if I was I would say that, feel free to look at previous posts for evidence of my non Kate-ness
I just think people who send crappy messages or write crappy comments that are made solely to upset are scummy people. There’s no need for it. Especially on a Mother’s Day post of all things.
Wee disclaimer though: I don’t think Instagram should be an echo chamber and folk should be able to comment their opinions etc on posts. But saying hurtful or nasty things that’s just been said to upset someone is out of order. There’s places like Tattle if they want to rant about someone.
I started following Kate when I heard about their podcast, we are in pretty much in exactly the same situation as them but just a few years younger and the fact my husband is on the fence with me. Seeing her struggle and all the other mums that have had babies in the last year or so is really really putting me off. They are all having a tit time of it and tbh I’m looking at the daily updates from them and thinking wtaf is anyone having kids at all as it looks like hell, like years and years of hell and clearly some of them regret having them.
Because she is the one telling people to be kind! That’s why she’s being a hypocrite.But why should she ‘be kind’ to them after they’ve been crappy to her?
if they were kind in the first place then they wouldn’t have left those comments so there wouldn’t be this situation in the first place. I hope they get crappy messages from kates fans and that their friends and colleagues might recognise their name and call them out on their crappy behaviour. Maybe then they’ll reflect and realise that maybe they shouldn’t be writing unkind things on peoples Instagram posts, especially when that person is clearly going through a tough time.
If they didn’t want their friends, family or colleagues to see them write nasty uncalled for comments, then maybe they shouldn’t write them on a public Instagram post????Because she is the one telling people to be kind! That’s why she’s being a hypocrite.
And if that person then took their own life because they couldn’t cope with the shame of all of their family, friends and colleagues knowing that they had been writing nasty comments, is that ok? Do they deserve that too? How does that fit in with #bekind?
With influencers be kind only goes one way.
Do you see every single comment that your friends, family, colleagues post on other people’s social media? I don’t. By Kate posting them publicly, they almost certainly will be seen. It’s not right that people leave nasty comments on her Instagram but I don’t think it’s right for Kate to post their names publicly like that either. We can disagree on that. You have your opinion and I have mine.If they didn’t want their friends, family or colleagues to see them write nasty uncalled for comments, then maybe they shouldn’t write them on a public Instagram post????
I wish I could like your comment a thousand times. Monetising your pregnancy and child is such a slippery slope, I do seriously wonder about the people that do it. I can't imagine why anyone who seems financially secure would do such a thing. I do feel for Kate but this clearly was not right for her. Getting off social media might go a long way with helping her if she does indeed have PND.The pregnancy and everything after was sold, hence the podcast, mtv show, ads etc etc. Out of thousands of comments they didn't expect a couple of people who thought differently? Really?! As for the argument that women need to be more honest, agree with this 100%. However, almost every single Insta mum is honest, I rarely see anyone hiding the difficulty of the early weeks. For many Insta mums it's become their niche - to discuss and monetize the hardships of being a mum, and it's very profitable.
It's important we see all sides, but they need to decide what they're willing to share to 250k strangers online, and if they do decide to share they have to expect some negativity. This is the online world, its awful and distressing but it comes with having a platform and monetizing your life. This is why most of us would never ever overshare online. It's just not worth the abuse or affect on mental health. Also, scary that people online recognised that she was struggling way before she made it public. Instagram is not all sunshine and money. It can be a dark place and take you to dark places if you're not careful.
Exactly. And other people will go to their profiles and directly abuse them too, which is directly because Kate has encouraged it. Yes the people shouldn’t write unkind comments in the first place, but that doesn’t mean they deserve everything they get after Kate has highlighted them to her hundreds of thousands of followers. What if they kill themselves? Is it only people who behave ‘perfectly’ online who deserve to be treated well, otherwise they deserve everything they get? Kate is a total hypocrite. She should just block them and rise above.Do you see every single comment that your friends, family, colleagues post on other people’s social media? I don’t. By Kate posting them publicly, they almost certainly will be seen. It’s not right that people leave nasty comments on her Instagram but I don’t think it’s right for Kate to post their names publicly like that either. We can disagree on that. You have your opinion and I have mine.