Jessy Nelson - Odd One Out

[Pinkii]

Okay this is probably a really unpopular opinion but she is getting on my nerves, for someone who is insecure and has anxiety etc, she loves posing half naked in the media daily!!!!!!!! I’m sorry but to go from how she was in odd one out to now parading herself constantly in the media especially after her breakup just pisses me off!!! What kind of example is this to young girls!! I’m sorry but I have always thought she was just milking the trolling and making it sound worse than it was!! Either get the help you need or bore off with your endless soft porn selfies and empowering quotes

i was searching for her thread to write the same thing!!

She is so annoying now, I was liking her after the documentary but now she is just taking the piss,like she knows people won’t say anything or they will be thrown to the wolves.

Sick of her constantly posting pics of her showing off her ‘abs’ .. if you have to suck it in so much its not abs love

 

[KINGAA]

here are some of tweets for anyone interested::

 

[Jelly Bean]

So she pretty much let the trolls win by completely changing the way she looks to fit in with today’s (instagrams) idea of beauty. It’s ridiculous! She would have spread a much more powerful message if she had stayed the way she was and worked on her mental health issues (which were clearly there before she was on the X factor) it’s so sad because she’s basically telling young girls that to be accepted and happy you must be fillered up to death and look like every other wannabe on Instagram.

Yes yes yes. And she didn't even address the surgery did she? And it was sad that if she left things alone she would be looking like her Mum by now who I think was absolutely stunning and youthful in a very natural way. I agree with you in that looking back at that documentary it is being hailed as a positive thing but actually promotes a deeply unhealthy message. Change! Don't be slightly overweight! Get surgery! And this is a horrible thing to say but her face now is wierd. It wasn't before. Bloody surgeons preying on the insecure. Appalling.

 

[Deleted member]

Mm yes I felt awfully sorry for her but the resorting to obvious surgery was not a particularly hopeful message and one that was not addressed even in passing. I'm an old fogey but really was there never even an option to stay off social media? Easy to say I know.

This is it in a nutshell for me. In my late teens,I had major self esteem/body image issues. I thought I was the ugliest person ever, I literally would not go out unless it was to go to work.

I used it buy every glossy magazine and pore over all the models and celebs - back then it was the super models and celebs like Jennifer Anniston. I wouldn’t throw any of them out and would organise them in chronological order under my bed. I was referred to a psychologist who told me to throw them out which I did and I eventually learned to like myself and when I started going on nights out,even love myself and feel great.

The lyric from the Savage Garden song,Affirmation, “ I believe that beauty magazines promote low self esteem “ rings so true for me. I don’t care if it’s cringey,I loved that song and still do.

As a now 40 year old,Instagram and Facebook are to me what magazines were in the late 90s,early 00’s. Facebook depressed the shit out of me,I was constantly comparing mysejf and I deleted it 5 years ago. I only discovered Instagram,4 years ago - used it for a year and a half and then deactivated it for a year and a half. Now I dabble with it,I log on but don’t have the app as I literally feel my mental health deteriorate the more time I spend on it.

Obviously, Jesy’s is an extreme example and she has been the target of extreme abuse but her mental stare reminds me very much of my younger self. I agree with you that staying off social media would have been the healthiest thing for her to do but difficult because of what she does for a living.

 

[Horatio]

It’s true loads of celebrities avoid social media for the very reason of the trolling and bullshit thrown at them. I think she keeps it because like a typical victim of bullies, still craves validation from the same people that harassed her. Hence all the surgeries too. It’s a pretty sad life.

 

[Thetruth123]

In their new video she is the only one and repeat the only one whilst they are dressed as mermaids wearing no top!!!! She is covering her chest with her hair only Again the one claiming to be so full of anxiety and suffer panic attacks feels confident enough though to have millions of people watch a video with a few strands of hair covering her nips!!!!

 

[B91]

Okay this is probably a really unpopular opinion but she is getting on my nerves, for someone who is insecure and has anxiety etc, she loves posing half naked in the media daily!!!!!!!! I’m sorry but to go from how she was in odd one out to now parading herself constantly in the media especially after her breakup just pisses me off!!! What kind of example is this to young girls!! I’m sorry but I have always thought she was just milking the trolling and making it sound worse than it was!! Either get the help you need or bore off with your endless soft porn selfies and empowering quotes

Totally agree! She’s such a beg!

 

[Cantstandspanj]

I in no way condone what Jesy went through or the things people said to her. None of it was okay. How it made her feel and what it’s left behind are really sad.

But I agree with a lot of what was said above. The documentary in no way addressed the bigger picture of her being left with deep rooted mental health problems and some form of body dysmorphia.

I feel that she has a guard up so much now that it’s impossible to see the real her.

When she visited the family of the poor girl who was bullied to death her emotion didn’t seem real to me. Most likely it was but it’s like she’s wearing a mask now that she just doesn’t seem genuine.

The same when she was making them reshoot videos and re-record songs. Again I have no doubt that she genuinely wasn’t happy with what I am sure was a great performance but it came across in a bit of a diva like manner.

Therefore to me, addressing the bigger picture would have made the whole thing seem less dramatised.

Also - and this is just a side note. Is she aware she didn’t swim X factor as a sole contestant but as a group? Continually she said when I won X factor not WE.

I’m afraid the documentary did not have the desired affect on me. It’s not showing bullies/trolls the terrible real life effects they can have on people it’s focusing on one small part of it. Glossing over what is left! And it is purely giving ‘influencers’ and the like a band wagon to jump on. Sadly this documentary probably too a lot for Jesy to make, but it will unlikely change anything.

 

[Rose91]

I feel a lot of the problem was how they styled her on the X Factor and even in the early days of Little Mix. She was never fat to begin with but compared to the other three, who are slim, she would look bigger and she didn’t wear clothes to suit her body shape.

I think this showed you can have all the plastic surgery in the world and loose weight, but there is still a deep routed issue mentally which needs addressing.

 

[Orange Creme]

I have suffered with body dismorphia since about the age of 9 due to facial scars and being an overweight child. Well Ive always struggled to know if its actually body dismorphia when I'm actually ugly rather than perceived but anyway..

I think the documentary was ok but not as good as others make out and I would have liked some more advice given out/ more time spent with the therapist lady.

We heard Jesy's story, I was so sad for her but there was never really a conclusion. I also think the real issue here is the fact that people called her names as well as trolling. Kids will always get called names but unfortunately that now takes place online so there's less of an escape.

Posh spice was always picked on as being the one who cant sing but there was no social media....

I would have liked the documentary to include advice such as:

What does one do when we are being told we are fat and ugly?

How can we stop comparing ourselves to airbrushed images?

How can we have such amazing confidence that we dont care what others think.

It would be good to see Jesy be able to work on this and improve her self image.

 

[Hinchhater1442]

I’m so glad someone else said it. Not to take away from what happened to her and how it must have made her feel, and I’m sure people will be sticking up for her like she’s gained confidence blah blah.. but I think it was all made very OTT for attention tbh.

 

[Flossy2020]

I know there’s another thread since this one and no one has posted on this one in a while but just reading through it and wondered what you guys think now?
After Jesy has left the band and claimed for MH reasons and being in a girl band, to plastering herself all over Instagram, skimpy outfits, same outfits, same poses, face full of make up and to some people’s opinion, edited ‘abs’.
And making it sound like she needed time away from it all, now jumped head first into the studio to make solo music.
The comment she made about being a solo artist will be easier than being compared to the other 3 girls in the band is a very misguided thought process, now she’s on her own she’ll be the soul focus of good and bad press, she’ll be compared to every single female solo artist and still the other 3 girls.

There’s a feeling of maybe she wants to be the soul focus, if you look at her Instagram grid do you see what I mean?

 

[little green ant]

On iPlayer for anyone who missed it.
I know its a bit controversial posting about it on this site but would be interested to hear what others thought. I believe she was incredibly brave to open up.

The part with the family of the teenager who killed herself after online bullying was incredibly sad.

 

[Deepsigh2018]

Ive always had a soft spot for jesy and never understood why she was called the 'fat' one. She was shaped similar to Beyonce. At times ive felt they styled her completely wrong for her body type. I think she is lucky in the sense that little mix genuinely seem like friends so she always had a good support system there. I hope shes happier with herself now.

 

[KINGAA]

Well that's eye opening

The man of her dreams there everyone, and the girls love him.... so much for being LGBT allies. I guarantee he is not a changed man

 

[La_frenchie]

Sick of her constantly posting pics of her showing off her ‘abs’ .. if you have to suck it in so much its not abs love

She definitely uses make up for the "abs"

 

[Deleted member]

What? How on earth do you come to that conclusion? She was happy to accept herself until the trolls pushed her to breaking point. She's so damaged by the abuse that she's clearly in a mindset where she feels that to be happy she has to lose weight. To top it off, the UK media even got in on the act. She was treated appallingly and it's no wonder she ended up trying to kill herself.

I actually can't believe some of the stuff I'm reading on this thread. YOU try receiving personal abuse about your appearance and casually just saying 'fuck you' whilst living in the public eye.

It is absolutely horrendous what she endured but I think she still needs a lot of therapy to overcome how she feels about herself and to heal from her experience. I feel they were premature in making the documentary because to me,it’s as if she accepts that what was said was true so she’s had to change when it’s the people who said those vile things that need to be fixed.
I wholeheartedly understand why she did that (lost weight/has clearly had her lips done) but I don’t think it’s the best message to deliver to young people who may be watching.

 

[bubbletea123]

I remember when Little Mix first came around and people would make vile comments about Jessy. It is a real shame, as I thought she was pretty. She had a cute unique face and really soft features which suited her. Now she looks like every other Instagram model.

I do think that what people were messaging her had a HUGE impact on her and I couldn't imagine getting that type of abuse every day. But I do think she also has body image problems, such as dysmorphia considering she still says she looks "fat." I felt bad for her mum. It must be so hard to see your child hate the way she looks the way that Jesy does.

Her bandmates seem to be supportive of her which is good but I am sure it is hard on them too. I felt sad when Jesy was terribly upset. I got bullied for all of high school and it was horrible. I do wish she had opened up about having work done but I did quite like the documentary.

 

[Opalfruit8]

What I don’t get is that she would have seen celebrities before she became one. She may have noticed britney shave her head in 2007. This isn’t news. The difference that it’s online instead of in the magazines all the time. She’s now changed her face she looks like all the TOWIE/Geordie Shore girls - even her bandmate what’s her face, jade(??) she is a carbon copy of her.

It’s sad she went that far but none of it is new.

 

[KINGAA]

I follow little mix, I think Jesy is a user, when she broke up with her last bf she had her “BFF” hair stylist James Silk come and live with her for months until Chris came into the picture and James disappeared off the face of the earth / her life. Now Chris is out she’s got a new “BFF” Charlotte her Lashes lady living with her like James did and they’ve only known each other a year or so.... Charlotte did a post about a dream come true to do eye lashes for Jesy from little mix..... wonder how long it’ll be until Charlotte is kicked to the curb!?