Jess Redden

JUSTlolz · Dec 29, 2021

She has a serious ED it's so clear to see

she should not be influencing ANYBODY! She needs help to deal with issues she has around control/perfectionism!! She is sucking in her tummy here

for what?? It's so sad seeing someone so obviously in the grips of an ED and seemingly no one around her taking any action

rantingqueen · Dec 29, 2021

JUSTlolz said:
She has a serious ED it's so clear to see she should not be influencing ANYBODY! She needs help to deal with issues she has around control/perfectionism!! She is sucking in her tummy here for what?? It's so sad seeing someone so obviously in the grips of an ED and seemingly no one around her taking any action View attachment 948269

What action would you have them take?

Bippityboppityboop · Dec 29, 2021

rantingqueen said:
What action would you have them take?

Is there no way to get her off Instagram and into treatment? Everytime I see her i think of nikki Graham and how dangerous a path she is on. But I also think they have a responsibility to other people she is influencing, if she cant/won't get help they should stop supporting her online activity at least?

testingonetwothreefoiur · Dec 29, 2021

Jess is an adult woman. If she’s denying she has a problem and prolifically posting on SM, there’s absolutely nothing anyone can do to stop her. I feel for her because she’d had a lot of stress recently with the wedding, Covid outbreak and testing positive on honeymoon, Christmas without her dad etc. It’s the perfect storm for an ED to flare up as EDs are all about control in a world where you feel like you have none. It’s such a painful place to be.

But at the same time, I remember being a teenager and being absolutely influenced by photos of painfully thin models with their ribs on show and thinking that was what I needed to be. At my worst I still strived for this and even when my world was collapsing around my ED, thinking at least I was as thin as those poster models and had a sense of achievement and perfectionism that Jess is flaunting all over her insta. She’s incredibly triggering in her behaviours and unnatural thinness and I think it’s dangerous to a lot of young people who look up to her.

Bippityboppityboop · Dec 29, 2021

testingonetwothreefoiur said:
Jess is an adult woman. If she’s denying she has a problem and prolifically posting on SM, there’s absolutely nothing anyone can do to stop her. I feel for her because she’d had a lot of stress recently with the wedding, Covid outbreak and testing positive on honeymoon, Christmas without her dad etc. It’s the perfect storm for an ED to flare up as EDs are all about control in a world where you feel like you have none. It’s such a painful place to be.

But at the same time, I remember being a teenager and being absolutely influenced by photos of painfully thin models with their ribs on show and thinking that was what I needed to be. At my worst I still strived for this and even when my world was collapsing around my ED, thinking at least I was as thin as those poster models and had a sense of achievement and perfectionism that Jess is flaunting all over her insta. She’s incredibly triggering in her behaviours and unnatural thinness and I think it’s dangerous to a lot of young people who look up to her.

Im so sorry for what you have been thorough but thanks for sharing your experience because it really matters and could help someone else reading it

Clangers2 · Dec 29, 2021

testingonetwothreefoiur said:
Jess is an adult woman. If she’s denying she has a problem and prolifically posting on SM, there’s absolutely nothing anyone can do to stop her. I feel for her because she’d had a lot of stress recently with the wedding, Covid outbreak and testing positive on honeymoon, Christmas without her dad etc. It’s the perfect storm for an ED to flare up as EDs are all about control in a world where you feel like you have none. It’s such a painful place to be.

But at the same time, I remember being a teenager and being absolutely influenced by photos of painfully thin models with their ribs on show and thinking that was what I needed to be. At my worst I still strived for this and even when my world was collapsing around my ED, thinking at least I was as thin as those poster models and had a sense of achievement and perfectionism that Jess is flaunting all over her insta. She’s incredibly triggering in her behaviours and unnatural thinness and I think it’s dangerous to a lot of young people who look up to her.

I agree with her being extremely unhealthy all while promoting health its ironic and dangerous on easy influenced young people .... But the stress part nahhhh she's loaded she has no financial worries whatsoever, newly married to the love of her life, boo hoo she got covid while on her grossly expensive luxury honeymoon,after her luxury 5 star wedding... the country is on its knees, people are homeless, starving, can't buy a home, out of work, I'm sorry but I wouldn't give one sympathetic thought to someone of such privilege, difference with jess is if she does have this condition she can go seek any amount of private treatment, in Ireland or abroad as she has the means to do so, I'd feel more sorry for the poor souls in Ireland that aren't rich that are dying on waiting lists for non existent mental health services....

rantingqueen · Dec 29, 2021

Clangers2 said:
I agree with her being extremely unhealthy all while promoting health its ironic and dangerous on easy influenced young people .... But the stress part nahhhh she's loaded she has no financial worries whatsoever, newly married to the love of her life, boo hoo she got covid while on her grossly expensive luxury honeymoon,after her luxury 5 star wedding... the country is on its knees, people are homeless, starving, can't buy a home, out of work, I'm sorry but I wouldn't give one sympathetic thought to someone of such privilege, difference with jess is if she does have this condition she can go seek any amount of private treatment, in Ireland or abroad as she has the means to do so, I'd feel more sorry for the poor souls in Ireland that aren't rich that are dying on waiting lists for non existent mental health services....

The sheer ignorance of this.

Bippityboppityboop said:
Is there no way to get her off Instagram and into treatment? Everytime I see her i think of nikki Graham and how dangerous a path she is on. But I also think they have a responsibility to other people she is influencing, if she cant/won't get help they should stop supporting her online activity at least?

That’s not how treatment works unfortunately. You can’t force anyone to accept help, or even accept that there’s an issue.

I think maybe as things settle for her, she’ll be ok. She has a good group of friends and a loving family around her. It’s very easy to see how a build up of everything has manifested
into this. She’s past the tough exams, wedding stress over etc so maybe now she can relax.

Influencing is not a job · Dec 29, 2021

Clangers2 said:
I agree with her being extremely unhealthy all while promoting health its ironic and dangerous on easy influenced young people .... But the stress part nahhhh she's loaded she has no financial worries whatsoever, newly married to the love of her life, boo hoo she got covid while on her grossly expensive luxury honeymoon,after her luxury 5 star wedding... the country is on its knees, people are homeless, starving, can't buy a home, out of work, I'm sorry but I wouldn't give one sympathetic thought to someone of such privilege, difference with jess is if she does have this condition she can go seek any amount of private treatment, in Ireland or abroad as she has the means to do so, I'd feel more sorry for the poor souls in Ireland that aren't rich that are dying on waiting lists for non existent mental health services....

Eating disorders are extremely hard to fix, it is both a mental and a physical disorder. Throwing money at it won't help. She had to be ready to accept help, and no amount of money can put someone in right mental frame of mind to accept that help! Very insulting post!!!

rantingqueen · Dec 29, 2021

Influencing is not a job said:
Eating disorders are extremely hard to fix, it is both a mental and a physical disorder. Throwing money at it won't help. She had to be ready to accept help, and no amount of money can put someone in right mental frame of mind to accept that help! Very insulting post!!!

Agree. I’ve a beautiful home, fantastic husband and great friends, health insurance and funds to pay for treatment. But... to me, nothing is worse than gaining weight and the smaller I am, the better I feel...even if that means constant fainting, palpitations, being told I’m high risk of a heart attack and unable to sustain a pregnancy. No amount of money fixes something that I don’t truly want to fix. Not being in control is even scarier to me than all of that.

Amy.Coyne81 · Dec 29, 2021

Question: do you think those around her read these posts? I only ask because I don't believe she would for obvious reasons - if people close to her are reading them why don't they gently raise it? You have to be very careful approaching the topic of an ED with someone because it can make them more secretive/isolated which is possibly why family are afraid to but yes, it's clear she's gone beyond thin and her body is now just trying to function at a basic level. Coming through an ED takes years, it's a long process, so there's no point in people acting ignorant (I use that word kindly) and hoping she'll "come through it" herself. It will go the opposite way, it's how EDs work. The more it's allowed to linger the tougher a hold it has on you.

testingonetwothreefoiur · Dec 29, 2021

EDs are complicated and most people aren’t knowledgeable enough and although well-intentioned, can end up making someone’s situation worse. EG as mentioned above, they feel attacked and become more secretive. I had a doctor tell me I looked “great” whilst in the same sentence, inadvertently giving me “tips” for dropping weight quickly. (“Have you been....” and mentioned some really dangerous behaviours common amongst those with anorexia). So I feel for her family as even if they are worried, this is just such a minefield. Even having been through this myself, I’d be reluctant to approach someone who I thought was struggling because the risk is too high of making things worse.

And Jess is the perfect storm for an ED, with her very visual insta world focused entirely on looks, constantly in the spotlight because of Rob, tendency towards high achievement and perfectionism, and having gone through recent loss of a family member. There’s no doubt she’s getting a semblance of control with the food restriction and exercise and that’s probably reinforced by the negative attention around how skinny she is.

Clangers2 · Dec 29, 2021

Influencing is not a job said:
Eating disorders are extremely hard to fix, it is both a mental and a physical disorder. Throwing money at it won't help. She had to be ready to accept help, and no amount of money can put someone in right mental frame of mind to accept that help! Very insulting post!!!

Throwing money at it CAN help, I find it actually mad that a person could actually not see that someone with money and every private resource at their fingertips doesn't have a very big head start to recovery, the Rutland centre for example do a 12 week inpatient programme for Ed it costs in excess of 25k
Whereas the average person who can't afford health insurance is left with an option of going to a general hospital A+E who don't have a clue about mental health disorders and put on a never ending wait list.....for services that aren't there!!!!
There are amazing programmes in the UK also
Why do you think Nikki Grahams family were fundraising for her to get life saving treatment in a centre at the cost of 50k??

rantingqueen said:
The sheer ignorance of this.

That’s not how treatment works unfortunately. You can’t force anyone to accept help, or even accept that there’s an issue.

I think maybe as things settle for her, she’ll be ok. She has a good group of friends and a loving family around her. It’s very easy to see how a build up of everything has manifested
into this. She’s past the tough exams, wedding stress over etc so maybe now she can relax.

But if you have money you can access the only treatment out there
People are clueless honestly
I have alot of knowledge and experience with ED and there are little to no treatments in this country without money
So no i don't feel sorry for her with her wedding stress and her honeymoon stress

Influencing is not a job · Dec 29, 2021

Clangers2 said:
Throwing money at it CAN help, I find it actually mad that a person could actually not see that someone with money and every private resource at their fingertips doesn't have a very big head start to recovery, the Rutland centre for example do a 12 week inpatient programme for Ed it costs in excess of 25k
Whereas the average person who can't afford health insurance is left with an option of going to a general hospital A+E who don't have a clue about mental health disorders and put on a never ending wait list.....for services that aren't there!!!!
There are amazing programmes in the UK also
Why do you think Nikki Grahams family were fundraising for her to get life saving treatment in a centre at the cost of 50k??

But if you have money you can access the only treatment out there
People are clueless honestly
I have alot of knowledge and experience with ED and there are little to no treatments in this country without money
So no i don't feel sorry for her with her wedding stress and her honeymoon stress

The phrase "your health is your wealth" comes to mind. I stand by my original point, no amount of throwing money at a mental health problem can fix it, unless the person is ready and willing to accept help! coming from a person with mental health problems!

I think it's fair to say from Jess' instagram page she doesn't seem ready to accept that yet!

I got up at 5am · Dec 29, 2021

Money definitely helps. Wasn’t there a fundraiser recently for a girl who needed 40k as a last resort for treatment?

Influencing is not a job · Dec 29, 2021

I got up at 5am said:
Money definitely helps. Wasn’t there a fundraiser recently for a girl who needed 40k as a last resort for treatment?

Yes money can help, once somebody is ready to accept help. If they aren't, money is useless!

I got up at 5am · Dec 29, 2021

Influencing is not a job said:
Yes money can help, once somebody is ready to accept help. If they aren't, money is useless!

That’s true. Hopefully she can see the state she is in before long. She looks so ill

Clangers2 · Dec 29, 2021

Influencing is not a job said:
The phrase "your health is your wealth" comes to mind. I stand by my original point, no amount of throwing money at a mental health problem can fix it, unless the person is ready and willing to accept help! coming from a person with mental health problems!

I think it's fair to say from Jess' instagram page she doesn't seem ready to accept that yet!

Someone like jess is in a much better position to access the only treatment available in this country. There are thousands alot worse off than her....

Bippityboppityboop · Dec 29, 2021

I get really frustrated with her sometimes too, she is so privileged and was so fortunate to be able to go to oz after her dad passed to recoup, no one gets that break. Her family are wealthy so there was no concern about money which is a worry for so many after a loss. I don't think it's fair to shame her for being wealthy, but her lack of ant semblance of how triggering her behaviour can be for normal people annoys me a lot. She also was very thin way before her dad passed I remember when she modelled people were passing comment on her and that was years ago

emmysue · Dec 31, 2021

Although she seems like a nice girl I’d say she’s quite uptight as well because of the control element. Like obviously not that everyone should drink (I don’t drink loads either) but u just know she’s the type to pretend she had this mad night out but she actually sipped the same vodka soda for the whole thing!

People’s personalities can be majorly affected with an Ed because they can’t just let their hair down

Clangers2 said:
Someone like jess is in a much better position to access the only treatment available in this country. There are thousands alot worse off than her....

She clearly doesn’t want to get the help or she wouldn’t be posting bikini pics every second

Helly123ie · Dec 31, 2021

I think if you are engaged to and now married to a famoys handsome rugby star then you have to live up to a certain look

Most are v thin attractive girls... no overweight plain Jane's

She is obviously taking it to the extreme but i bet he doesn't see it .
Only sees a hot thing wearing size 4 or 6 tiny clothes....

Very sad to be that obsessed with your looks