I'm a member of a couple of sober living/sober curious type groups on fb. At the start of October a guy showed up in one of these groups, posting about his intent to do sober October. What followed after were daily (multiple) long posts from him, always with selfies, often with pictures of his kids and wife. We know the wife and kids' names and in-between these showy, insta-ready posts of him and his family, he'd also post complaining about his wife, about finding it hard when she'd wanted an alcoholic drink for example, framing her as a bit of an unsupportive villain and seeking sympathy from the group. I then realised he was also in the other group I was in, making all the exact same posts, and lapping up the attention he got in each group. It has got to the point now where his posts have been dominating the groups, and anyone that dare raise an eyebrow (at the massive obvious bleeping narc red flags) and call him out on anything, is swiftly jumped on by a large majority of the group, accused of bullying and told to 'be kind' etc etc.
A couple of very brave and astute members have spoken out and told him they see straight through him. After the increase in dissenting comments, today we get vague posts with hospital selfies. His caption on the first one was just 'pray for me'. Again, anyone that dare be anti about this man are called all sorts, and damned for picking on him particularly 'when he's ill'.
It has caused such disruption to these groups which have many vulnerable members seeking support. So many arguments and huge division. I found out today from another member he's actually posting in at least 4 different sobriety groups, a captive audience in each.
Anyway, I’ve been watching all this unfold over the last month, watching the penny slowly drop for (some) people, as he got more and more attention seeking. Watching the band of defenders round on anyone speaking against him. His passive aggressive faux-pleasant replies to criticism. The way he's been able to manipulate the majority of people. The similarities between him and Jack are huge, and it's really given me a lot of time to ponder how she must be in addiction support groups, and how much disruption she causes in them. I bet she's bloody awful and ends up gaslighting anyone that doesn't dance to her tune, framing them as the bad guy and pushing them out. Just as this person has done. These people are so bleeping malignant.
I wish I could point you lads to the groups and his posts, as you'd clock the flags straight away! If anyone here is in either of the groups I am though, you'll know exactly who I'm talking about, can't have missed him for the last month.
Ugh. These groups are rich pickings for narcs and abusers - it's no surprise Russell Brand went around picking up vulnerable women in AA/NA and other charity groups (I'm sure even ones that he set up himself). The smaller and 'nicer' the group, the more vulnerable it is to narc takeover as nobody want to be the twit to call it out. I've been in a similar-but-different situation on another forum, and I'm still viewed as an evil hag for telling someone she was being a total bleeping mentalist and needed to stop monopolising the entire board with endless posts about the guy who dumped her 18 months ago
banana skin in a cake on MasterChef! Jackie must be raging.. . another of her peeling ideas poached 
). In the kindest possible way, I just want to slap them round the head with the Book of Narcs and shake them into the light! But, if you say anything - you're the bad person 
. So I don't say anything. I just quietly cheer on those brave enough.
Not even grunked, sorry to say.
. In fact this week I have been wrangling him away from a soggy rotten pumpkin that has been mouldering in a neighbour's garden, the mucky little 
🤌 Mamma mia