We had special tickets, not unlike raffle tickets and a separate queue for our FSM. Very conspicuous and choice was lacking as we went last. I hated it. I'm glad it's different now, children have anonymity. At my eldests's high school everyone is issued with a lunch card and only the pastoral staff know who is FSM, even the canteen staff don't know. Jack has no idea or sympathy. She was more concerned with her glory than she was about starving children in 2021.
We have more issues with the kids whose parents 'forget' to put lunch money on ParentPay than with FSM issues - the kids come and see us if they've been told there's nothing on their account (so nobody can tell they're FSM or not). We usually say 'Do you want me to call Mum/whoever to ask her to put some money in?' and the answer usually gives us a clue whether there might be a problem. Whatever happens, the next thing we do is say something like 'Ah, there's probably a glitch in the system, let's pop down to the kitchen so we can make sure you get some lunch' - the kitchen manager knows that a 'glitch in the system' means 'Please feed this child' and will also frequently bring them down if she's seen somebody not getting food or a friend buying it for them more than twice, saying 'Hi, Miss, I think there might be a glitch in the system with Jessica's account, can you check please?'
(tappity-tap-tap)
'Oh, yes, looks like there might be. Could she have lunches whilst we sort it out, please?'. So they always get fed.
We also occasionally get calls asking why an account has gone down so quickly - when we look at what's been bought, it's pretty easy to work out what's going on 'Um, could she be buying food for somebody else as well? It's a very kind thing to do if she is, but we'd like to see if one of her friends needs some help, so maybe you could ask her tonight and let us know in the morning?' Nobody's ever been angry about that - we do check if they've been spoken to the next day - and it's helped us pick up family financial issues quickly. It's all done very privately, other than the breezy 'Oh, it'll be a glitch'.
It's many miles (and years) away from the crap we had to deal with at school.