The pal and sweetheart and mate stuff is cos she’s trying to be all tough and street innit. Pal Jack always makes me think she’s trying on a Glaswegian persona
I do think OH is a man, and I get the sense that she’s feeling a bit coy and embarrassed about that fact, which she shouldn’t, of course. Anyone that makes her happy and helps her get her head screwed on a bit better is a Good Thing. It’s like when she stopped being vegan, that wasn’t the problem in itself, I have massive respect for vegans because I think it must be quite a challenging choice in many ways and you’d need to have really strong principles to pull it off. The problem was that she became vegan, was suddenly the Most Veganliest Vegan in All the World for about two weeks, and then stopped but tried to hide it. It’s the constant reverse ferrets and extreme defensiveness that make me roll my eyes because it’s just so teenage.