Hello.
I have heard the term "gaslighting" used before and I am wondering if I am being "gaslit".
I was dating a guy for a bit. And after a date (we had been on a few before then) he fell off the radar for over a month in October until just recently. Like, he didn't even seem to be online even when I sent him a Whatsapp text message let alone read or responded.
He came back a few weeks ago and yesterday I mentioned that it hurt me when he stopped responding to my messages, and I wasn't sure if I wanted to continue seeing him because I don't want to date someone who disappears for weeks on end without any sort of explanation.
Instead of acknowledging it, he called me a liar. He said how did we go on a date if he was ignoring me (we did go on a date in early October, but about a week after he disappeared). He said I was accusing him of rubbish and he was tired of me always accusing him of something.
I don't know why he called me a liar. It was pretty obvious he disappeared. I was so frustrated with him calling me a liar I screenshotted the last whatsapp that was sent with the date, and then when he reappeared / responded and sent it to him. Maybe I am being overly strange I don't know, I just didn't want to be called a liar.
He then said it was very strange and stalkerish behaviour, and that after me accusing him of things he did not do, he no longer wanted to date me anymore. He said he'd look for others who didn't constantly accuse him of sh*t. He said I was monitoring him and it was "f'ed up behaviour". I wasn't monitoring him, but when someone you are dating disappears for a long time, you kind of notice you know. It took all of two seconds to see when the last reply was.
Is this gaslighting? I am not sure what to do. I blocked him but everything is now making me doubt myself.
I have heard the term "gaslighting" used before and I am wondering if I am being "gaslit".
I was dating a guy for a bit. And after a date (we had been on a few before then) he fell off the radar for over a month in October until just recently. Like, he didn't even seem to be online even when I sent him a Whatsapp text message let alone read or responded.
He came back a few weeks ago and yesterday I mentioned that it hurt me when he stopped responding to my messages, and I wasn't sure if I wanted to continue seeing him because I don't want to date someone who disappears for weeks on end without any sort of explanation.
Instead of acknowledging it, he called me a liar. He said how did we go on a date if he was ignoring me (we did go on a date in early October, but about a week after he disappeared). He said I was accusing him of rubbish and he was tired of me always accusing him of something.
I don't know why he called me a liar. It was pretty obvious he disappeared. I was so frustrated with him calling me a liar I screenshotted the last whatsapp that was sent with the date, and then when he reappeared / responded and sent it to him. Maybe I am being overly strange I don't know, I just didn't want to be called a liar.
He then said it was very strange and stalkerish behaviour, and that after me accusing him of things he did not do, he no longer wanted to date me anymore. He said he'd look for others who didn't constantly accuse him of sh*t. He said I was monitoring him and it was "f'ed up behaviour". I wasn't monitoring him, but when someone you are dating disappears for a long time, you kind of notice you know. It took all of two seconds to see when the last reply was.
Is this gaslighting? I am not sure what to do. I blocked him but everything is now making me doubt myself.