Yeah I'm a feminist, I like to support other women, I believe women unless given damn good evidence to the contrary, I am one! But I fucking hate this women can do no wrong narrative, it's just as toxic as internalised misogyny and just like internalised misogyny it really only harms women.
Children absolutely do not belong with their mothers if the mothers are neglectful or otherwise abusive! A vagina isn't a bloody get out of everything card ffs
IMO, part of supporting women is to hold them accountable for their behaviour. Calling them out when they are lying, telling them when their behaviour is unacceptable - that
is supporting women. One of the most anti-feminist things you can do is to allow women to say and do whatever they want with no repercussions
just because they are a woman. It's not a free pass. If I'm not doing the right thing, I want my friends to tell me, not enable me. 'Support' isn't always sweet and comforting. Sometimes it can be listening to things that are hard to hear.
On a side note, there's a middle ground between believing all women and saying they're lying. It's harder in this world of extremes we're living in where it feels like you either have to be calling someone a liar or defending them to the death, but it is possible, and wise,
and feminist, to say 'I hear your account but I wasn't there and don't feel comfortable making a judgment on what did or did not happen'.
Women do wrong, just like men. Women lie, just like men. Women can be toxic, just like men. Women cheat, just like men. And to acknowledge that is part of feminism. Men have always given other men a free pass for their behaviour, just because they're men - and look where that got us. It's toxic. Let's not do the same as women!
End rant! (also, that was my long-winded way of agreeing with you!)