I’m so alone

[Flossy2019]

I want a dog so badly
But with my husband away and me working 10/12 hour shifts I’m worried

although I know my mother in law would rather look after a dog than my girls

Ahh I know it isn’t fair but is there a dog walker in your area? Or get a cat or a house rabbit

 

[Makaraka]

Yes of course! It’s an important life lesson that even if you feel like tit, you don’t bring other people down! ‘Treat people how you would like to be treated’! I know they’re only children so don’t always understand the power of words but I was bullied at school and never got over some of the cruel things said to me, so I sympathise

I don’t have kids but my partner works away every week which I know isnt quite the same as your situation at we see eachother at weekends, although at the moment he’s away for a three week stretch, so I understand how lonely you must feel It’s taken 2 years of living alone in his house and I’m still not totally used to it!

I’m a military daughter so I understand the process and feelings of not having your dad there and how it feels.
my husband always says I’m harsh because I don’t sympathise to our girls as I should, which isn’t true I know how much they must hurt and struggle but we at least know that he will be home sometime but I grew up not knowing if my dad would return. If people said nasty things I’d just shrug it off! It’s only really now as an adult and a mum I’ve really struggled with nasty comments and horrible feelings so I feel like I’m taking on my daughters too!
She’s an amazing little girl, she’s kind, funny and very sassy and so beautiful (IMO) I can’t stand the thought that she’s being bullied at school

 

[MaxieMoo]

Anyone who’s there or listening...

does anyone watch the crown?
My little girls, god love them, have been so bad this evening!
I think my eldest is being bullied at school she’s kind of touched on what’s going on but I don’t know what to do

Not watched the crown but love anything royal / historical. I might give it a go.

Felt a bit crap on Monday so watched Pride and Prejudice to cheer me up.

 

[or JusRollWithIt]

I’ve watched all but the most recent series of the Crown. Loved it so far but worried about what’s being said about the most recent ones. Saving it for when I’m in the mood for it.

Your dear kiddo. Mine are a bit older now, so a different set of worries. But I remember the time well, when parenting seemed like you’re part therapist to them, part advocate for them, all while trying not to throttle other people’s children for hurting yours (I don’t condone violence, but I felt mama rage often).. keeping my reactions in check helped keep the dialogue going with my kids. It’s so so hard sometimes. Big hugs.

 

[Say What]

I’d recommend a cat if you’re a shift worker because a lot of dogs don’t like to be left a long time and it can be detrimental to them. Cats on the other hand don’t care and will still come for food and attention

 

[calmyourritas]

@Makaraka i hope you’re feeling better !?

 

[Makaraka]

@Makaraka i hope you’re feeling better !?

Hey.
I’m feeling quite good. I’ve been back at work so really busy with that and also I’ve had my girls off school as they had to isolate so I’ve had them here with me doing school work etc. Which I’ve loved!

So I’m feeling good at the moment, looking forward to getting back into the gym and having some me time this week.
I’m hoping that this Happy me can stay over Christmas but we’ll see!
X

 

[Holymotherofgod]

Hi there, I'm struggling a bit with loneliness during these lockdowns, it's the first time being an only child as an adult has affected me really bad, my 'friends' don't really check up on me and I always feel like I'm bothering them when I message first... I don't have any first cousins and my closest cousins have isolated me due to all being in relationships and I'm just out of one... I was wondering if anybody wanted to or could create a thread if anybody else wanted to chat about something similar?

 

[petra23]

Hi there, I'm struggling a bit with loneliness during these lockdowns, it's the first time being an only child as an adult has affected me really bad, my 'friends' don't really check up on me and I always feel like I'm bothering them when I message first... I don't have any first cousins and my closest cousins have isolated me due to all being in relationships and I'm just out of one... I was wondering if anybody wanted to or could create a thread if anybody else wanted to chat about something similar?

I am in a similar position to you. It's horrible watching people together and having fun. It makes me want to cry! If you create a thread I'd like to know what people do to keep themselves busy. I have never been great at enjoying my own company

 

[LucilleBluth]

Sending hugs there’s a good thread about lockdown coping strategies that you might like. Lots of ideas about how to fill the time.

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

Hi there, I'm struggling a bit with loneliness during these lockdowns, it's the first time being an only child as an adult has affected me really bad, my 'friends' don't really check up on me and I always feel like I'm bothering them when I message first... I don't have any first cousins and my closest cousins have isolated me due to all being in relationships and I'm just out of one... I was wondering if anybody wanted to or could create a thread if anybody else wanted to chat about something similar?

Can i Join.. I feel very much the same x

 

[Holymotherofgod]

I am in a similar position to you. It's horrible watching people together and having fun. It makes me want to cry! If you create a thread I'd like to know what people do to keep themselves busy. I have never been great at enjoying my own company

I know, I've generally been grateful for my own space at home but no, this is too much... I'm quite new here so I'm not able to make a thread, if somebody who can could I'd be grateful x

 

[Makaraka]

Hello you lovely lot!
Christmas Day is fast approaching. My best friend at work is on her own and we’ve decided to have Christmas Day together before we enter tier 4 on Boxing Day..

recently I’d said on the Hinch thread where I spend most of my time that I’d made the decision to not see my parents/grandparents to keep them safe and now with tier 4 happening i know I’ve made the right decision and I see my bestie everyday at work anyway and we have a support bubble going on!

so pros and cons. I’ve been feeling low and tit but tonight I suddenly had this burst of energy and life again.
I’m happy I’m healthy and have a happy and have a somewhat mostly healthy family!

Merry Christmas to you all, here’s to a hopefully happy and healthy and a much needed new year! I hope your all okay

 

[Hereiam44]

Hi there, I'm struggling a bit with loneliness during these lockdowns, it's the first time being an only child as an adult has affected me really bad, my 'friends' don't really check up on me and I always feel like I'm bothering them when I message first... I don't have any first cousins and my closest cousins have isolated me due to all being in relationships and I'm just out of one... I was wondering if anybody wanted to or could create a thread if anybody else wanted to chat about something similar?

This really resonates with me. I actually found myself quite emotional reading that. I started seeing a therapist after the first lockdown and we had some really interesting ‘only child’ chats, where my friends normally just roll their eyes if I bring it up! I’d definitely be interested in chatting more often

 

[Ef27]

I just stumbled across this thread, I hope you are feeling better and just remember you are so loved and important, you’re also very brave for speaking about it it’s very tough with new lockdown measures especially at Christmas this year has been very challenging and sometimes it feels as if the light at the tunnel is very far away but we’ll get through it sending positivity and love to everyone Merry Christmas

 

[Makaraka]

I know, I've generally been grateful for my own space at home but no, this is too much... I'm quite new here so I'm not able to make a thread, if somebody who can could I'd be grateful x

I’m also an only child! Please feel free to use this thread to talk to us!
Do you live alone? Do you have any hobbies? xx

 

[Holymotherofgod]

I’m also an only child! Please feel free to use this thread to talk to us!
Do you live alone? Do you have any hobbies? xx

Thanks a million I'm back liveling with my parents since the pandemic started back in March.. I'm back to work one day a week doing what I love thank god and weightlifting is my main hobby along with mountain climbing, my heart sinks at the thoughts of the gyms closing again I have to say, I've been prescribed melatonin in the last week for sleep and getting a good night's sleep is definitely helping with my thought process and motivation to do something during the day

 

[Makaraka]

Thanks a million I'm back liveling with my parents since the pandemic started back in March.. I'm back to work one day a week doing what I love thank god and weightlifting is my main hobby along with mountain climbing, my heart sinks at the thoughts of the gyms closing again I have to say, I've been prescribed melatonin in the last week for sleep and getting a good night's sleep is definitely helping with my thought process and motivation to do something during the day

Aw at least you’re there with your parents, although I know how hard it is to be back in a space with them! I’ve found myself so sad that the gyms are closing again! It was my thing for me!
id love if you could share with me some home workouts or something?
I was feeling so lonely and alone but my daughters went into isolation from school and because I was doing homework with them and keeping them occupied I really found a bond with my eldest who really hated me and I can see it now because I wasn’t the person I needed to be which has helped and also me and my mum have gotten really close again doing different things together like going for a walk or me just popping round for my dad to teach me how to sow properly...
Is there a common ground you can find with your parents for something to keep you busy whilst feeling like they aren’t your parents? If that makes sense

 

[CosmicCreepers]

Sorry to butt in but I'm an only child too! I'm at home at the mo with my Mum but I'm usually in a shared house for uni. Things got very lonely during lockdown even though I lived with others, I hid away. I was too scared at that time. I'm so glad things have gotten better, reading your earlier post touched my heart. A lot of my anxiety lately is about thinking about the future, and how the fact I'm not in a relationship means when my parents pass I'll be alone (no siblings). So many scary thoughts. Stay strong

 

[Holymotherofgod]

Sorry to butt in but I'm an only child too! I'm at home at the mo with my Mum but I'm usually in a shared house for uni. Things got very lonely during lockdown even though I lived with others, I hid away. I was too scared at that time. I'm so glad things have gotten better, reading your earlier post touched my heart. A lot of my anxiety lately is about thinking about the future, and how the fact I'm not in a relationship means when my parents pass I'll be alone (no siblings). So many scary thoughts. Stay strong

I'm having these exact thoughts lately, It gets so overwhelming... I'm only out of a relationship and even when I was in it had that sense of when they're gone I'll really be all alone and nobody with share the same emotions of losing them with me... I know it won't be today or tomorrow but some days during this pandemic it's just consumed me... It is a comfort knowing I'm not alone in these thoughts hope it is to you as well