I’m so alone

[Makaraka]

It’s okay, recovery isn’t a linear journey there will always be ups and downs. This is a temporary down and you will get better, one step at a time. Are you in the rooms by any chance? There are 24/7 meetings, I am happy to help you find a meeting that’s on now?

With regards to lockdown - it’s hard, it’s really hard. Are you going out walking with your girls? Where abouts in the country are you my love, are there any parks nearby or fun outside play areas? xx

I’m not in any rooms, here where I am everything has stopped. I work in a supermarket and it’s been so stressful
I live about 2km from the beach so I’ve been running and running
I’m about 7m from the most easterly point of England

but it’s the night times I struggle.
I was drinking lots last lockdown but I’m t total now but I find I just urge for a beer or gin

 

[McNuggets]

The nighttime is definitely the worst for anxiety and dark thoughts to creep in. The nights can be lonely and long. We overthink at night. Which then means we can’t sleep!

I honestly really recommend having a cuddle with one of your littlies. Have a stare at their beautiful face.

You can do this xx

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

I’m not in any rooms, here where I am everything has stopped. I work in a supermarket and it’s been so stressful
I live about 2km from the beach so I’ve been running and running
I’m about 7m from the most easterly point of England

but it’s the night times I struggle.
I was drinking lots last lockdown but I’m t total now but I find I just urge for a beer or gin

I don’t want to tell you what to do or push you any which way, but you’ve mentioned drinking lots and being tee total - have you gone to any AA meetings before? They’re very calming and there’s absolutely no pressure to contribute, you can just go and sit and listen to people. You can Google AA meetings online, or if you’d like I can find you links, there are meetings that run 24/7 with lockdown so you can just dip in and out.

What foods do you love? Treat yourself to something that you absolutely love and makes you happy instead of a drink? xx

 

[Itsallaboutmememe]

Ive been where you are now-so low,the world on your shoulders and that damn black cloud over your head
please please please phone your gp
mine saved my life a few years ago
can you bubble up with friends?
I know mine where amazing when I felt like rit-having your kids is amazing too but sometimes they can drain the life out of you-I have 6 and sometimes I couldn’t face getting out of bed because they all needed me,but I had nothing left to give them
please just find the energy to phone your doctor-as I said to my mate the other day ‘all journeys start with the first step,which is often the hardest’
sending much love your way-my inbox is always open xxx

 

[Makaraka]

don’t apologise it’s fine, all of us are here listening! I’m relieved to hear you’ve got a support bubble nearby, I think because mental health is still a new-ish concept some parents can really struggle to understand it, but that doesn’t mean your feelings and experiences aren’t valid! Have you got a local GP? I’d really recommend ringing them tomorrow as they can help you SO much my love, even in lockdown they’re being amazing, I just finished some CBT through the NHS and it’s been life changing.

I agree wirh other girls here, have you got any friends who are more understanding? I’d honestly double bubble and see them too if you’re struggling, it’s a tit set of circumstances we’re all in but you need a bit more support right now and that’s fine. Please keep chatting to us x

I’ve done CBT was doing great
It’s hard because one of my closest Friends her husband works away for 2-3 weeks offshore and she thinks I’m belittling her or having ago when I say how much I’m struggling
I’m the type of person who doesn’t want to offend or fall out

I bottle it all up and then explode

 

[HenryHenchcliffe]

He’s in the Middle East. He’s in quarantine at the moment so we can kind of speak
But once he’s moved from quarantine it’s difficult.

it’s very a complicated situation.
He didn’t want to leave us and I begged him to stay but duty calls.

I just feel so sad and alone
My dad has PSTD so can’t speak to me about what I’m going through even though he would understand and my mum who is my childminder/support bubble seems to think that I’m dramatic even though she would understand how I feel if she just listened and didn’t dote on the grandkids!

I seem to be in a lone situation amongst my friends who think I’m being dramatic.
but it’s so hard to explain how alone and afraid I feel to anyone

sorry for rambling

Ive not experienced the going away part with my partner just yet but I know its coming. I joke about enjoying it but Im scared. We may all be "stramgers" but we are people behind these screens and messages and we want to help you.
I know its not in person but keep talking to us. Block the monster on social media.
Im a pretty good insomniac so I'll be here xxx

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

I’ve done CBT was doing great
It’s hard because one of my closest Friends her husband works away for 2-3 weeks offshore and she thinks I’m belittling her or having ago when I say how much I’m struggling
I’m the type of person who doesn’t want to offend or fall out

I bottle it all up and then explode

It might be worth having another convo with your friend & telling her what you’re telling us, exactly how difficult you’re finding things as I can’t imagine she’d still feel that way. Every single person in your life loves you lots and wants you to feel well, no one is going to berate you for struggling cos it’s an entirely normal part of life.

have you got any other friends? Are there any support groups online for wives whose partners work away you could reach out to?

 

[calmyourritas]

Ring your GP in the morning and request to continue with your CBT please, most places are doing sessions over the phone and can offer you support even with covid.

What kinds of things do you like to do in the evening once the children are asleep? Xx

 

[Makaraka]

So many of you responding and giving advice
It’s so appreciated, more than you’ll ever know!
I’m going to make an appointment with my therapist and also just try explaining to my husband how I feel like I have here tonight

thank you
You’ve talked me off the ledge xxx

 

[Justreading]

I'm so sorry that you're having a really difficult time. Please dont ever feel alone.
As much as this forum gets a bad rep we're all nice people deep down, keep chatting here to keep yourself busy.

How old are your children? I've found some of the best support in speaking to mums at school, I was told you make friends through your children and its helped me in recent times. Is that an option for you at all? You mention running, are you able to go for a run with a friend.

Parents and the older generation do find it very difficult to understand, I've experienced that myself. Are you able to speak to your mum without the children around so she can't be distracted by them and can really listen to you?

Look at the replies here, you're not alone

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

So many of you responding and giving advice
It’s so appreciated, more than you’ll ever know!
I’m going to make an appointment with my therapist and also just try explaining to my husband how I feel like I have here tonight

thank you
You’ve talked me off the ledge xxx

this sounds like an amazing idea, also I know it’s hard but a good nights sleep does help especially if you’re in shock or emotionally exhausted. Please could you check in with us when you wake up? Would be nice to hear how things go xx

 

[HenryHenchcliffe]

Have you heard of or tried the app "headspace" I swear by it for my really anxious days. My depressive days I sleep. Or have bath. Or walk the dog. Or sleep.
If the two hit simultaneously Im a wreck. The fact you're reaching out to us "trolls"is a step.
Those children of yours will be waking up in a few hours wanting to see and hug and kiss their mum. They'll want to tell you all about their dreams last night and what they did in school but most importantly they will love you unconditionallly for being their mum.
Find something in your home now to occupy your mind. Even if its nattering to us xxx

 

[Makaraka]

I need a hovb

this sounds like an amazing idea, also I know it’s hard but a good nights sleep does help especially if you’re in shock or emotionally exhausted. Please could you check in with us when you wake up? Would be nice to hear how things go xx

thank you for tonight.
honestly it means so much to me.

I’ll be sure to message in the morning x

Thank you so much everyone

 

[Ginger drink]

I need a hovb

thank you for tonight.
honestly it means so much to me.

I’ll be sure to message in the morning x

Thank you so much everyone

Sleep well and sweet dreams

 

[McNuggets]

Sleep well darling.

Check in with us tomorrow xxx

 

[What's the craic Jack]

You poor thing it's awful to feel so alone but just know you're not on your own. There's always people here to chat to. You've probably already seen this but this NHS link has some advice and contact information for any struggling during lockdown. Mind yourself and your beautiful little girls

6 tips to tackle working from home - Every Mind Matters

Read our 6 simple tips to help you manage working from home and look after your mental wellbeing.

www.nhs.uk

 

[HenryHenchcliffe]

Awkward Yeti. Forever knowing my feelings. Forever coming up trumps to support others x

 

[Lauz666]

We're all here for you. I'm also going through some bad MH stuff at the moment and I'm finding tattle really does help, everyone is so lovely. Just keep chatting. It helps.

If you need to talk to a trained person https://giveusashout.org/

It is free to text Shout 85258 from all major mobile networks in the UK

 

[LaurieLaurie]

You’ll get through it. Life is hard atm, I’m in my own with my daughter and feeling down but we will come through it.

 

[or JusRollWithIt]

sleep well. check in with us if you feel the need Xx