I'm miserable

[WilmaHun]

Sorry to hear you're feeling this way Watermelon! I love seeing your posts, so I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling down.

As Betty has said, please speak to your GP and do not let them fob you off. My GP surgery has a form you can fill out on their website and you can put on there that you want a call back within 24 hours - is this something your surgery offers? It's not always easy talking over the phone so if you can at least explain it in writing in a form first it might be a bit easier!

Hope you feel better soon xxx

 

[Annie101]

husband his addiction, alcohol, weed = why i feel like this

 

[Saddlesoap]

Bear with the Sertraline. You might feel worse in the short term. xx

 

[Tilly3]

Aaaw @watermelon sugar i feel sad that you’re feeling this way, you always seem so upbeat, I hope you’re feeling better than you were on Sunday, if I lived near you I would be round like a flash to help you out.
Relationships are really hard especially when children are so young as most blokes don’t get what it’s like for us Mum’s sometimes when they’re at work and getting to see people, other than looking at four walls every day it may seem hard now but I can assure you it will get better and you’ll look back on it and think well maybe it wasn’t that bad and the little fella will soon be over the teething stage, big hugs to you sweetie xxx

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Thanks everyone

I agree with all you're saying! I'm feeling a lot better today and me and him aren't getting on eachothers nerves as much

I dont think I can dm anyone I've been a naughty girl and had some warnings so think that luxury has been taken away from me!

Good to see you in good spirits today. It's a long hard journey, but we're with you along the way

(Nice to know you've been a "naughty girl" )

 

[Kindred]

So our talk didn't go well

Just gone to bed feeling even more unhappy than I did this morning. You know it's bad when you'd rather talk to strangers over the Internet than your own boyfriend

I feel so alone

Talking about hard subjects can be tough on both parties! you feel misunderstood and unsupported, he feels attacked as he thought all was fine and he was fine doing the minimum and now this... I say sleep on it, brush it off and address it tomorrow morning (unless he addresses it this evening) with a fresh mind. tell him you don't want it to be an argument, you just need for you both to be on the same page and the same team to be best mummy and daddy and if you argue or don't fill each others love tanks then no one is happy.

having children helps bring out the "kinks" in a relationship an ironing said kinks out is a craft in itself! it's also a hard job to learn to argue respectfully and to let the other person win/figure out what hill is worth dying on (this one is, lol) Hopefully after a nights sleep your bf can understand a bit better where you're coming from.
deep breath, try again tomorrow. just remember all is well, you are ok, your son is safe and loved and resting, you're a good mum and you are loved.

 

[Saddlesoap]

So sorry to hear you are feeling so down.

I don't have kids, so cannot appreciate what you are experiencing, but my friend/colleague has an absolute mare with her little boy not sleeping and being on the go all the time. She considers work a break. I assume you aren't working at the moment - is that maternity leave or otherwise?

Also sorry your boyfriend isn't being more supportive. Could he possibly take a holiday to get some catch up time at home with you and baby?

Not excusing his behaviour, but lockdown is hard. Is he really exhausted, or just emotionally? I'm tired all the time with no good reason!

Are you getting plenty of daylight? It's a bad time of the year for feeling blue/run down.

 

[Milliehaha123]

Hope you're ok!!

Have you managed to speak to your GP? I don't know much about PND but I do have anxiety and it sounds like you're really suffering. They can do lots to help and you shouldn't have to feel miserable so often. I asked my GP for propranolol and they were happy to give it - it's honestly changed my life xx

+1 Betty who got there slightly before me! Don't suffer alone - utilise the health service as much as you can. They are there to help and a good doc will listen to you xx

 

[watermelon sugar]

Hi everyone I rang my gp but was told to ring back at 8am... I said it was urgent and was feeling low and the receptionist was like 'there's a lot of urgencies right now' but yeah I have rang my HV and left a message. Hopefully she gets back to me, I like my HV

My boyfriend has took the baby out with the pram, luckily he can hobble well I've gone for a lie down. I probably should tidy up but ive got a stress headache and I'm tired

Thank you for all your lovely messages xx

 

[Saddlesoap]

Yeah she said it won't kick in till 4-6 weeks and I'll feel worse for a bit first

Glad she mentioned it. I was so close to quoting cos my GP did not make it clear enough to me, but I felt better after about a week. Mornings were definitely worse for me, probably cos I took it at night.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Can you sit down with your partner and just explain how you feel? Tell him you need him to help- around the house/with the baby. It’s all as much his responsibility as yours and it’s not fair that he does next to nothing. Does he have any idea how you feel??

I've tried
If I say I'm tired he's 'tired as well' 'well I work' which i know and that's fair enough
He always goes on about "we're a team" until it gets tough and he gets frustrated then goes
I got a bit upset after trying to get the baby to sleep for 40 minutes before when he was clearly exhausted and I walked past him and he just went 'you alright?' And I said not really. He just told me to get a shower
His stance on things seem to be, well it's hard for you, it's hard for me as well

And yeah I did think he could be teething. I've tried the calpol & teething powder but don't wanna give him too much just in case it's not that. According to my wonder weeks app he's in a 'leap' but I've spent so long thinking leaps aren't real so im on the fence with that

 

[Definitelyme]

No words of advice to offer above what’s already been said but sending you heaps of love. My kids have all been bad sleepers, no2 was particularly awful, and the exhaustion is just so overwhelming.

Hard at the moment, but I always found being out of the house actually makes me feel better. Days when I wanted to just stay in as I’m so knackered are the days I needed out most. So limiting with lockdown atm, but even getting out for a walk each day may help clear your head a bit.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Try mind matters you can self refer you don’t need to go through gp. I think anyway. Think it will be quicker for you. Hope you’re ok sending love. Men and baby’s are hard work sometimes

I just googled Mind Matters and it's not my area! I'm just outside of Lancashire as well

 

[Flossy2019]

I just googled Mind Matters and it's not my area! I'm just outside of Lancashire as well

I didn’t realise it was a Lancashire thing

 

[Misbehaving]

So our talk didn't go well

Just gone to bed feeling even more unhappy than I did this morning. You know it's bad when you'd rather talk to strangers over the Internet than your own boyfriend

I feel so alone

Oh i'm so sorry thats not fair please turn to us here anytime you feel alone or need support we are here for you.

 

[Annie101]

You need urgent help and support and you need it now - today. Please contact either your GP or the Samaritans.
I know this is hard but your family and your friends love you and will absolutely be there to support you. I’d urge you to confide in them. You can’t shoulder this alone anymore.
I know he is your husband and you love him but this is a situation out with either of your control now and you need outside help.

i do go to Al-Alnon and it does make me feel better at times. But i dont always agree with the stance that i am a co dependent when i expect more from my husband.

 

[calmyourritas]

I hope you managed to get some help today @watermelon sugar

 

[Imonlyme]

i dont want to die, but i no longer want to breath

What's wrong? I really hope you're okay?

 

[WilmaHun]

No advice from me as I don't have any children (though I can relate on the partner being a bit of an arsehole bit! )

Sending love and hoping you got a better night sleep last night!

 

[ClockworkDolly]

I can’t give you any parenting advice as I don’t have children.

But, just to say I hope your fella steps up a bit and helps you around the house a bit more, eases some of the pressure off of you. I hope things improve for you all.