SkinkaareFan
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I don't understand why you would say something like this? I've been clear that it's not my thing and I'm struggling with this. Did you just come here to be insensitive??You should all just shag
I don't understand why you would say something like this? I've been clear that it's not my thing and I'm struggling with this. Did you just come here to be insensitive??You should all just shag
Wanting to explore his sexuality with men is absolutely no different to wanting to explore any other aspect of his sexuality that doesn’t involve you. Cheating is cheating, and the potential gay aspect doesn’t make that any more justified.I have no idea how he'd feel if it was the other way around. He makes jokes about me and other women so I think he'd want some part of it?
We were both each others first everything. Ive been thinking I made him marry me when he didn't want to? What if he went along with it to not hurt me?
I don't want to give up on us but at the same time I don't want to stop him doing what he wants just not cheating. It's confusing and frustrating all in one. If he's gay or wants to explore that then i absolutely don't want to stop that as its not fair for someone not able to be themselves but I don't want to accept cheating and don't think I should have to but at the same time I don't feel strong enough to let go.
Thank you for all you replies. I think in th next few days I will have to have a conversation with him and see where we're at and what he wants going forward but I dread to think this is the end of our marriage.
I don't know. I think he needs to figure out if he's attracted to men and if he wants to be with me but if it's something that he goes ahead with I don't think I'd be able to stay. Luckily we don't have any children but as he's my first relationship then I don't know if I'd be able to let go? The thought absolutely terrifies me.Sounds to me (from what you’ve said) like he wants to have his cake and eat it. Your husband wants to have a threesome with two other men, without you? Sounds like he wants permission to cheat and also there is some question of his sexuality. It absolutely has everything to do with you, it all depends on what you think of it all. What are your thoughts?
I have no idea how he'd feel if it was the other way around. He makes jokes about me and other women so I think he'd want some part of it?
We were both each others first everything. Ive been thinking I made him marry me when he didn't want to? What if he went along with it to not hurt me?
I don't want to give up on us but at the same time I don't want to stop him doing what he wants just not cheating. It's confusing and frustrating all in one. If he's gay or wants to explore that then i absolutely don't want to stop that as its not fair for someone not able to be themselves but I don't want to accept cheating and don't think I should have to but at the same time I don't feel strong enough to let go.
Thank you for all you replies. I think in th next few days I will have to have a conversation with him and see where we're at and what he wants going forward but I dread to think this is the end of our marriage.
I'm sorry to hear this. I know that threesomones can cause problems in some cases and it's not something I've ever wanted or thought about. You're amazing because I don't think I'd cope with it all in any way!
That would be the same for me- if my partner wanted a sexual experience without me I would be gutted, and I would be extremely uncomfortable about it. I really feel for you because your head must be everywhere right now.To be honest the thing that would upset me more would be that he wanted a threesome without me. That's for me an unacceptable line.
Also please don't blame yourself for not doing a sex act you didn't feel comfortable with. We all have our boundaries and our partners should respect those without any resentment. You are not responsible for his behaviour.
I hope you get it sorted x
Would be want you to be there as well? Or just him and the two other men?
I've not noticed any changes, everything is literally the same. I don't know if just wanting an experience or what? But he doesn't even want me there so whether I say no or not it's not really down to me? Or is it? I don't even know. I had hoped he was going to tell me he was joking but he still hasn't and I don't want to mention it again and hope it's forgotten about but I feel like it's not something I can just ignore? Like, it'll always be in my head now that he'd rather be with men and what does that say about me?Personally I'd be there stripped and waiting before my husband finished the sentence
But if that's not your thing, your worried or just don't feel right with it, say no. Does seem a bit odd for him to suddenly want this, anything else changed?