To be honest I can’t even go along with it to keep the peace. I literally don’t have the money. We’ve closed all our credit cards and removed our overdrafts as we’re trying to tackle our debts. I simply don’t have the option of paying for all of it.I feel really sorry for people who can’t afford all of this but feel they have to for the bride - it seems to be really common now. Being a guest at an all-day wedding is expensive enough by the time you factor in outfits, drinks, possible accommodation. But if you throw in a long weekend at Ocean Beach, a “home henny” and activities - and contributing to the bride’s share too - it’s a huge ask.
There’s no easy way around it but you have to be true to yourself….and someone needs to give her a few home truths, be it you alone or all the bridesmaids.
I was a bridesmaid a few years back and it was much lower key than this. But I had spent so much time helping the bride in the week before the wedding then she wanted me to do something with them the Monday after the wedding too - I was bloody exhausted and honestly sick of the sight of her by then!
I can’t even book anything for the hen do on the basis people will pay be back later on. Everyone needs to pay me up front. It’s going to be so awkward to have to demand money from everyone but we don’t have any spare cash. And she knows that which makes it even harder to confront her about it.