petitspois
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Let's remember that men do a worse job at chores so they don't do them again!
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Yeah, he says that I should relax and chill, while the house is upside down. I know I've got high standards, but I'm raging when he games and I am working on growing a third arm, because two isn't enough!I hear ya, except I do all the cooking too. To be fair I am a chef and don't let him in the kitchen so it's entirely my fault. I do get annoyed picking up after him and the children. He just doesn't see the clutter. Also I like a clean house. It settles my mind. He doesn't so I suppose it's my fault entirely. Doesn't stop the rage though
I really, really feel for you. His behaviour is totally an utterly acceptable. He would be out on his arse if he was my husband... BUT I know that is WAY easier said than done. The problem is you'll just end up resenting him, I find resentment easily then manifests into hate. He has to want to change though. You should tell him just how bad he makes you feel when he does this. Try and talk to him when hes not expecting it. I find that when I am angry with my husband I end up ranting and he just doesnt take me seriously.I get off him I work hard I'm hardly here etc. My job its weird shift patterns I could be in all day but then be working 6pm till 2am or 8am till 6pm. He works 8 till 5 monday to Friday gets in from anything from 5 or 7 depending on where hes been sent works on a Saturday 8 till 3 and picks up most sundays 8 till 12. All because he has everything to pay out ie his kids (previous relationships)etc
I am honestly at breaking point that everything he does is for other people never thought if me made a joke last night he bought me some bold said happy valentine's!!
Say I'm not bothered about him buying me things etc but when his child gets spoilt every weekend and I get him saying he broke makes my piss boil
Plus hes seeing bowling for soup on valentine's day with his mate coz he didnt realise what day it was really clues in date
Think I'm only with him it feels as a servant I cant afford to buy him out his share of mortage deposit etc
Omg, this is so wrong. You need to talk to him. You'll build up resentment and eventually leave.My OH does fuck all getting to the point he doesn't even flush the toilet fully after a shit so when in come home from work the entire house smell of it. Drops chocolate bar wrappers where ever hes finishes then all round kitchen and living room. He works long hours but I'm doing 50plus hours this week. he left me a note and a key to his car to please Hoover it because he wont have time to before his fucking ex borrows it to take their child somewhere
This was exactly the issue with my ex - he'd never been expected to lift a finger (my ex MiL still says this now) so it was like living with a huge, messy, annoying, untrained third child. He never made a bed in all the time we were together, he never cleaned a toilet, put the hoover round, put a wash on. When we first met I had to explain to him how and why he needed to rinse the basin after he'd had a shave!My oh does sod all.
He may cook now and again. He wouldn’t know how to wipe his own arse if I didn’t pass him the loo roll.
I’ve made my boys start doing their own washing recently obviously I supervise but they can load and unload a washer and tumble, they can hoover and clean a loo which they hate but they have to learn
Whatever my mil taught my oh was ridiculous he has no idea.
Omg. I don't know how you deal with that. If my fiance was like that, I would have left him and it would drive me MAD.My partner does fuck all. He will feed the dog and change the bin bag if I ask him about 50 times beforehand.
I don't think he has ever offered to help with anything! Constant argument but I try and look past it.
You know that is not normal right? He needs a kick up the arse. That is disgusting. There is zero excuse to not flush the damn toilet. I am mad for you.My OH does fuck all getting to the point he doesn't even flush the toilet fully after a shit so when in come home from work the entire house smell of it. Drops chocolate bar wrappers where ever hes finishes then all round kitchen and living room. He works long hours but I'm doing 50plus hours this week. he left me a note and a key to his car to please Hoover it because he wont have time to before his fucking ex borrows it to take their child somewhere
I have asked my husband if he half asses stuff on purpose so I wouldn't ask him to do it again. He swears no but I am not buying itLet's remember that men do a worse job at chores so they don't do them again!