I feel like all this mopey stuff relates to how she feels deep down as a person. Her channel and content hasn’t upsized in the way she wanted it to since having H (in terms of how it did when G was a baby) and she’s feeling fed up because she doesn’t have a particular space that’s individual on social media. Everyone and their dog is plugging mum life nowadays as it’s an easy buck to make once you start monetising.
Homewithshan #5 Her man's left the army, but is nowhere in sight. Still solo-parenting, god her life's sh..
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It's taking all I have in me to not reply "but wait... didn't you just drop off your kids at your parents for the weekend so you could go abroad?". Grrr.. This topic really hit a nerve.View attachment 2759601
I didn't realise you're "promised" a village when you have a baby. Did she just expect this village to turn up to her house the minute she'd given birth?!
Also in the comments of that repeat someone's out she should start a platform ti help mums make friends. I kinda want to put "it exists already, it's called Peanut but Shan doesn't like it because it isn't all about her" but I don't want to get blocked as I've been blocked by another account I used to look at for lolz.
She's said numerous times she's a bit of a control freak so that's why the village she moved closer to probably don't seem to help much. If you want their help, you need to both compromise to make it work. She's never mentioned Ash's parents in helping or even visiting their grandchildren?! She also went on and on in her last vlog how it's the mum who usually sorts most childcare, sickness, packing bags etc and while she isn't entirely wrong, the only want to stop that stereotype is by actively changing it with the help of your partner. You'd never really know that Ash has even left the army with how she just seems to be doing everything. She's mentioned that she's had a meeting about her return to work and it gave me big vibes that I think she may only go back for 6 months (or however long her workplace policy states you have to work for after mat leave) and then leave her job to become a full time mum influencer.
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I dont know if I live in a bubble or my group of friends is very different to hers (not that she has any so maybe thats why?), but I see the stereotype of mum taking on all the childcare tasks as something majorly afflicting our parents generation, not ours. All of my close mum friends seem to have incredibly helpful partners that more than pull their weight. My own husband drops off and picks up the kids from nursery, walks& feeds the dog and makes us all breakfast every morning. So just because she has a useless husband it doesnt mean all of ours are as well.
I don't think she could maintain her current lifestyle with her influencer income - do you? I smell a demotion at work
Why does Halle spend so much time being held over a hob!? Why is George constantly watching tv? How does Shan seem to know so little about weaning? Why is Halle on the 0-6 formula when she's almost 8 months old?
Maybe sitting Halle in her high chair and eating some finger food WITH her and letting her explore the textures and tastes is worth a try. Instead she's in a bumbo on the table while Shan tries to shove a spoon of microwaved fruit pouch into her mouth.
Maybe sitting Halle in her high chair and eating some finger food WITH her and letting her explore the textures and tastes is worth a try. Instead she's in a bumbo on the table while Shan tries to shove a spoon of microwaved fruit pouch into her mouth.
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She can stay on the first stage formula all the way up to 12 months (and beyond) Stage 2 formula is just a marketing tactic as they aren’t legally allowed to advertise first stage formula. There is no difference between 0-6 month formula and the 6-12 month formula. Soo she isn’t doing anything wrong there by not moving Halle up to stage 2 at 7 months! Also holding her while cooking? Sometimes when a baby won’t be put down and the toddler is hungry, it’s the only way to get dinner made, I’m sure Shan is being careful while holding her. A lot of things that Shan does do annoy me, particularly how beggy she is but some people on here really do pick her apart for absolutely everything!
Thanks for the info re the formula.
I still don't think it's safe holding a child next to a hot pan with the handle sticking out towards her, but each to their own.
Edit: also worth mentioning she was making herself a kindly gifted AD lunch from Hello Fresh.
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I agree it isn’t exactly safe especially with the handle sticking out but I have a baby same age as Halle and a 3 year old and when my husband is working and my toddler is crying for dinner and the baby screams her head off every time I put her down, the only way to actually cook dinner is to hold her while cooking. I'm obviously very careful and make sure I stand as far back as possible and make sure all handles are facing away from us but I just don’t know how else to get around making dinner with a screaming baby? I find Shan actually really relatable for showing that side of things.
I absolutely agree with you but Shan was making herself a hot lunch for the Hello Fresh AD! Not saying she shouldn't eat or anything like that, but most people would just grab something cold or wait until the baby is asleep (and she loves talking about Halle's naps and Huckleberry working really well for them) if they're preparing a meal like that for themselves.
Not been on this thread for a little while. But her stories this morning she looks so incredibly old for her age. It’s quite shocking really. I’ve always had an issue with her holding Halle near the hob, I’ve never known anyone do it constantly. I mentioned it a few threads back and got a lot of negative comments. It’s not to offend other people we’re talking about Shan and her parenting.
Her eyebrows are just awful 
and yes she is looking very old considering she's only mid 20s. I wouldn't hold a baby that close to the hob either, the steam etc could really hurt a baby's sensitive skin it's just not something I would risk personally
and yes she is looking very old considering she's only mid 20s. I wouldn't hold a baby that close to the hob either, the steam etc could really hurt a baby's sensitive skin it's just not something I would risk personallyI came here to say the same thing, and I don't normally like putting other women down based on their looks - we get it from everywhere else as it is. But she is bloody advertising face cream!!Her eyebrows are just awful
If a cream makes me look like that in my mid 20s I would personally ask for my money back.
I would also never hold a small baby while cooking. I have 2 under 2 (for another month at least!) and I have never felt the need to do it. I dont even like my 2 year old playing anywhere near the cooker when Im cooking so I will either make sandwiches/cold food, or a snack and try a bit later.
While I understand and I know how difficult it is to try cook a hot meal with a clingy baby and many of us will have done it. I'm fairly confident in saying we are all being careful, probably Shan too. But unlike Shan, we are highly unlikely to also be vlogging the process and fixated in making sure we get the right shots of us juggling everything we are trying to do. 
However, I remember up until my toddler was maybe 1, I would basically make a packed lunch for myself the night before so I had food to grab along with maybe a soup I could zap in the microwave, rather than fussing and trying to make food just before eating.
However, I remember up until my toddler was maybe 1, I would basically make a packed lunch for myself the night before so I had food to grab along with maybe a soup I could zap in the microwave, rather than fussing and trying to make food just before eating.
I just eat when my baby is asleep. Wild I know but there you go. 
But when do you edit your 40 min vlogs where you repeat yourself about 5 times?I just eat when my baby is asleep. Wild I know but there you go.
I would do this too but what about when your toddler is hungry and you want to cook them a hot meal? She’d probs get called out if she just fed George a Sandwich for tea every night because Halle won’t be put down long enough for her to cook him a meal or if she made him wait until Halle was asleep or even if she just let Halle scream and scream so she could cook without holding her. She can’t win either way. In an ideal world, batch cooking would be the way to go but not everyone always has time to do that.I just eat when my baby is asleep. Wild I know but there you go.
I just eat when my baby is asleep. Wild I know but there you go.
Win what exactly? No one here is criticising your own parenting skills. You also probably don't exhibit then all over social media to make a quick buck - I hope?
That being said, have you noticed the title of this forum? If you are looking for a forum praising Shan, maybe look elsewhere.
Of course nobody is perfect. I am sure that if all of us publicly exposed our day to day of parenting there would be tons of stuff for others to critique. But the difference is, we don't. When you use social media as a method to make money and 'sell' your life along the way, you expose yoursel to critique. That has happened to everyone in the public eye for a gazillion years.
Nothing we ever say here is about anyone else nor it should be taken personally. This is a forum about Shan. Some may dislike something about her, some may dislike something else, but that's the topic. That is what most of Tattle is about.
I attempted to watch some of her vlog the other day where she took Halle to be re-assessed at the tongue tie place but I had to turn off after she just repeated the exact same long ass 5 min monologue, once in the car when she came out and then again when she got home.. like.. does she genuinely have short term memory loss or something? Also it was ridiculous because she was saying how she was just gonna chill out with the weaning, not put any pressure on Halle, not obsess about it and then a minute later she is back to obsessing and being like guyyyyssss I don't know what I'm doing wrong.
STOP IT. The specialist said that Halle isn't even completely ready since she's not sitting up independently etc. you just keep repeating the same bleeping thing. How on earth does she still have people willing to watch her vlogs. You watch one and you've watched them all.
STOP IT. The specialist said that Halle isn't even completely ready since she's not sitting up independently etc. you just keep repeating the same bleeping thing. How on earth does she still have people willing to watch her vlogs. You watch one and you've watched them all.
But halle wasn't screaming when she was cooking. And she was just cooking for herself so it's a moot point.
Convinced she just picked Halle up for the blog tbh (also George was at nursery).
I knowthere’s been chat on here about how she speaks about George, but my god the way she speaksTO him in that last blog!!!
like basically wanting him to turn round and say oh you’re the best mummy ever! Quizzing him in his lunch, going through his lunchbox when he’s hom, more quizzing on food.
can you imagine being a tired hungry toddler and your mum shoving a camera in your face, banging on about packed lunches and how long you have to get ready, saying don’t make a mess.
no wonder the boy is overstimulated!!
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I also can’t cope with her trying to be “cheeky” and “relatable mum” taking a bite of George’s food as if she’s just rushed off her feet, when she set up her camera to film her making a latte BEFORE sorting George’s breakfast
I knowthere’s been chat on here about how she speaks about George, but my god the way she speaksTO him in that last blog!!!
like basically wanting him to turn round and say oh you’re the best mummy ever! Quizzing him in his lunch, going through his lunchbox when he’s hom, more quizzing on food.
can you imagine being a tired hungry toddler and your mum shoving a camera in your face, banging on about packed lunches and how long you have to get ready, saying don’t make a mess.
no wonder the boy is overstimulated!!
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I also can’t cope with her trying to be “cheeky” and “relatable mum” taking a bite of George’s food as if she’s just rushed off her feet, when she set up her camera to film her making a latte BEFORE sorting George’s breakfast
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