This is just tragic. Does your husband have an idea of what his brother would want to run away from? For him to think he’s potentially in prison indicates he’s got a chaotic backstory. So sorry to hear your husband has mental health issues and sure this situation and potentially what’s led to it must have impacted in some way. Hope you all find some peace and answers x
Thank you for your kind words
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There was some childhood issues around their parents split, we only got married in 2020 as husband always said he never wanted to get married due to what happened with his parents. But when my beloved dad was dying he suddenly changed his mind and we got married just in time (my dad died five days after the wedding)
My hubby had a breakdown in 2006 which was caused by overwork- he was working very long shifts with very little time off and his body just had enough. It left him with a long term mental illness. He still works full time in the same job but with dramatically reduced hours, he works day shift now and only 4 days per week of normal length shifts, whereas before he worked 6 night shifts of 12 hours per week with only one day off which often he would work as overtime so he was regularly working 90-100 hour weeks. And he did that for some years.
I’ve been with my husband for 17 years and he’s still a bit guarded about his childhood. He’s told me bits and pieces here and there but I know very little about his brother and what he was like. I know things were difficult for them as they were growing up, he did say his brother couldn’t settle in a job and was very flighty. Husband left school at 16 and went straight into a cadetship scheme in the job he still does, 36 years later, and saved like mad to buy a house, which is now our marital home. His brother is a few years older and I can only imagine that he was more badly affected by what happened as my husband was only a toddler when it all went off and doesn’t much remember the initial split.
All I can guess is that he wants to distance himself which I understand. My husband doesn’t really speak to his family much either; his dad remarried and his new wife wasn’t bothered about him or his brother, especially when his stepbrother was born. And he is very much the golden child.