There's me thinking Ms Feminist Witton would insist on Rowan having his last name (and dan too). She mentioned years ago that she has her mum's surname so I was always thinking she'd continue that.
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Quite unsettling that she is so blasé about family planning grief. I feel that’s the core of what people have an issue with re second baby. It’s more that the avenues of expression are inappropriate, rather than anyone having an issue with her wanting a second baby desperately. Especially with her medical history.
It’s a very millennial thing she does of disguising her vulnerability online in that twee ~little wins~ ~sharing for others out there~ ~de stigmatise~ way… like just say you’re upset and need support? Why the need for this shallow positivity and burying the lead in the sand?
Re Rowan online… agree that if she was sincere about protecting his privacy she would just keep him offline. There’s no reason anybody needs to know his childcare schedule, know what type of playgroups he attends and on what day, see his bedroom, all the clothes she buys him, everything he eats including weaning him from breastfeeding. This is all stuff she regularly uses as content, it’s quite sickening actually.
I felt her showing him wearing that dress was a clear case of engagement farming. Boys can wear dresses, ofc, who cares, and he is also a toddler and it’s plausible he regularly wears dresses. But she knows gender non conforming children are a controversial topic on the internet, even if it’s just people commenting positively. She will love that it scores her the woke feminist points she’s been fishing for online for a whole decade.
I just find it in bad taste.
It’s a very millennial thing she does of disguising her vulnerability online in that twee ~little wins~ ~sharing for others out there~ ~de stigmatise~ way… like just say you’re upset and need support? Why the need for this shallow positivity and burying the lead in the sand?
Re Rowan online… agree that if she was sincere about protecting his privacy she would just keep him offline. There’s no reason anybody needs to know his childcare schedule, know what type of playgroups he attends and on what day, see his bedroom, all the clothes she buys him, everything he eats including weaning him from breastfeeding. This is all stuff she regularly uses as content, it’s quite sickening actually.
I felt her showing him wearing that dress was a clear case of engagement farming. Boys can wear dresses, ofc, who cares, and he is also a toddler and it’s plausible he regularly wears dresses. But she knows gender non conforming children are a controversial topic on the internet, even if it’s just people commenting positively. She will love that it scores her the woke feminist points she’s been fishing for online for a whole decade.
I just find it in bad taste.
Her and Dan merged their surnames
Leadton? Witley?
So many influencers think they're protecting their children by not putting their full face on the internet and don't seem to have any concept that it's not keeping them safe to put every other detail of their life out there - what they wear, what toys they like, when they're ill, what school/clubs they go to. The trouble is that kid content gets ten times the attention anything else does, whether from fellow "mummas" (god, I hate that word) or mummas-to-be or from the weirdos or just from their adoring fans. I know people criticise Anna for often making it seem like her child doesn't exist but that's exactly what they should all be doing - Jane in Accounts doesn't bring her newborn to work and make her job all about him, why should influencers?
So many influencers think they're protecting their children by not putting their full face on the internet and don't seem to have any concept that it's not keeping them safe to put every other detail of their life out there - what they wear, what toys they like, when they're ill, what school/clubs they go to. The trouble is that kid content gets ten times the attention anything else does, whether from fellow "mummas" (god, I hate that word) or mummas-to-be or from the weirdos or just from their adoring fans. I know people criticise Anna for often making it seem like her child doesn't exist but that's exactly what they should all be doing - Jane in Accounts doesn't bring her newborn to work and make her job all about him, why should influencers?
Witley sounds so posh.
When did she reveal this?
I recall she ended her main channel, so seeing as she retitled her channels tells me she's gone back on her word.
When did she reveal this?
I recall she ended her main channel, so seeing as she retitled her channels tells me she's gone back on her word.
What a bizarre way to say “I had a check up about my health and it’s kinda nerve wracking because the results will decide if I’m gonna have another baby or not. So hopefully it goes well”
Why did she have to do the whole “
little wins!! 
” sctick?
It doesn’t even make sense - it’s a series about the small accomplishments you have? But in the video nothing was really accomplished other than she went to her appointment. And she mostly just talked about the process and what it means for her family planning.
I wish she’d just be candid and say how she feels without having to do the millennial goofball face all the time.
Why did she have to do the whole “
little wins!! ” sctick? It doesn’t even make sense - it’s a series about the small accomplishments you have? But in the video nothing was really accomplished other than she went to her appointment. And she mostly just talked about the process and what it means for her family planning.
I wish she’d just be candid and say how she feels without having to do the millennial goofball face all the time.
Well yeah, obviously, it sucks saying goodbye to a dream. But all we see online is her moaning about what she doesn't have rather than the fact she literally HAS a child!
Maybe I'd feel more sorry for her if she didn't just seem totally ignorant and obnoxious in general.
Did she change the name of the video from wednesday?
I'm enjoying her video about budgeting but I don't understand why she keeps attributing the loss of her income to having had a baby. A temporary loss is understandable as she was on mat leave, but then she went on to have a massive career change that so far has not paid off. Also she keeps mentioning the gender dynamics at play in her relationship now and it's clearly bothering her, but, again, she kinda dug herself in that hole.
It just reminds me of my father who claimed that having children hurt his career and that's why he didn't advance as much as he could have. Meanwhile, my mother – in the same field – ended up outearning him massively while doing most of the parenting as well haha. It's not the children, it's lack of planning and ambition.
Not saying Hannah is not ambitious, but she had no clear idea of what she wanted to do after the sex ed content. Constantly saying it's because of the baby though is not entirely accurate.
It just reminds me of my father who claimed that having children hurt his career and that's why he didn't advance as much as he could have. Meanwhile, my mother – in the same field – ended up outearning him massively while doing most of the parenting as well haha. It's not the children, it's lack of planning and ambition.
Not saying Hannah is not ambitious, but she had no clear idea of what she wanted to do after the sex ed content. Constantly saying it's because of the baby though is not entirely accurate.
Also she doesn't mention that she only "works" 20 hours a week... that's part time hours!
She also desperately wants to be able to complain about being an oppressed woman. She says they actively try to avoid the gendered dynamics in their relationship, but where/when have they done this? She got pregnant, she breastfed, she took the longer parental leave (maternity/paternity), she now works part time, she does the majority of the childcare/housework, they could have easily made the decision that Dan was going to do more of those things.
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I haven't watched her content in ages, but is this more of a thing to give some of the 'women's' household chores to someone else rather than Hannah taking on more than she sees as equal? Because, yeah. When I had a small flat it would take me about two hours a week to do a full clean down, not worth outsourcing that.I’m sorry … they have a cleaner coming to that tiny flat WEEKLY ?!
What the duck Hannah, you work 20hrs a week and you can’t manage to keep your two bedroom flat clean yourselves? That is wild
Just watching the finance video and the way she started the recap with "I think in 2020 I was earning more than Dan..." is so patronising. You were in charge of the finances so I think you know!!
A “How to avoid burnout” workshop given by someone who works 20hrs a week….
These days, I'd definitely say "works" 20 hours a week - there's a fuckton of stuff she seems to consider work that might technically be work for her but for the rest of us, doing a paint by numbers or reading a book definitely isn't work.
Really annoying to hear her complain about how her life is following the classic hetero script even though she tries not to let it. What has she actually done to try and counter that? She proposed to Dan which is a nice change to see. But she was earning more than him and still decided to stay home for 3 months with their child and then only go back to part time work after? If you don't want to do the household labour you should work more and financially contribute. If you aren't working as much as your partner you should do more household labour. If you don't want to be put in the classic female role of doing the household stuff then why cut your working hours so much??
As a lesbian my relationships just don't follow those same prescribed patterns so maybe I'm missing something but it's just annoying to hear the complaining when I don't even know what she's done to actually counter these expectations?
As a lesbian my relationships just don't follow those same prescribed patterns so maybe I'm missing something but it's just annoying to hear the complaining when I don't even know what she's done to actually counter these expectations?
I think it's the cognitive dissonance from having done sex-positive, feminist content for a decade and then suddenly abandoning that part of her life to be a wife and mother. Nothing wrong with that and you can still be a feminist and politically conscious in those roles as well but she seems torn between that side of herself and her new role in the family.
The thing is motherhood is necessarily unequal. As the mother, at least in a hetero relationship, you will be doing more work physically and emotionally just from the fact that you carried and birthed a human that is dependent on you for pure survival. A good partner will support you and make your life easier, but it will never be 50-50 again.
I don't know how Dan's thoughts, but I would be feeling a bit weird if my partner was online blasting our relationship dynamic and looking resentful that I earn or work more, especially since it is for the whole family in the end.
Exactly, especially when one parent can work less and one is ina full time job
She also ended up doing more from the start as she just breast fed, I don’t think she expressed either so that’s how she then ended up sleeping in Rowan’s bed with him etc as she didn’t want to give up the boob!
so what is Dan supposed to do?
she seems to just be paying lip service to a non problem! Like if you are unhappy with the roles Hannah, do something about it, if not, just say that’s your family dynamic… nothing wrong with it, especially given she works barely any hours!
i can't see crusty old Dan doing anything that resembles cleaning tbhI’m sorry … they have a cleaner coming to that tiny flat WEEKLY ?!
What the duck Hannah, you work 20hrs a week yet you can’t manage to keep your two bedroom flat clean yourselves? That is wild