Grace Victory #3

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I completely agree. If any of my staff said anything like that there would be hell on.
It's really upset me (I've had a few Friday gins tbf)

Im a size 18, in the past 10 years I've been to the doctor only to get my birth control pill. I pay my taxes and NI. Yet posts like this make me feel almost guilty if I were to end up hospitalised? Am I not a soul worth saving as I weigh a few more stone than the nurses?

fatphobia has no place in healthcare.
 
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It's really upset me (I've had a few Friday gins tbf)

Im a size 18, in the past 10 years I've been to the doctor only to get my birth control pill. I pay my taxes and NI. Yet posts like this make me feel almost guilty if I were to end up hospitalised? Am I not a soul worth saving as I weigh a few more stone than the nurses?

fatphobia has no place in healthcare.
Our job is to care for everyone with respect and dignity no matter what. I’m not slim myself. Please don’t feel like you would be judged by everyone because that is definitely not the case. Yes graces health has clearly been compromised by her weight but I in know way judge her for it or hold it against her.
 
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I'm sorry but if this is true and you agree with the sentiment, fu. This is why overweight people are scared of going to the doctor's. People in hospitals shouldn't be looking down on 'fatties'. Honestly duck off, we're people too
I’d be mortified if I ever heard anything like that from my colleagues. Not in the right profession if you’re going to be judgemental!
 
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Our job is to care for everyone with respect and dignity no matter what. I’m not slim myself. Please don’t feel like you would be judged by everyone because that is definitely not the case. Yes graces health has clearly been compromised by her weight but I in know way judge her for it or hold it against her.
I'd like to think most people in healthcare think like this, I know I would.

I'm not denying the link between obesity and ill health but judging people in hospital won't help anything as it's not like you can drop to a healthy BMI through the power of judgement overnight! The thought of someone being angry at having to care for 'fatty' me with covid makes me cringe to no end 😬

Anyway. Judge grace all we like for the stuff she's spouting now but she was in no way less worthy of healthcare as she is overweight!
 
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It's really upset me (I've had a few Friday gins tbf)

Im a size 18, in the past 10 years I've been to the doctor only to get my birth control pill. I pay my taxes and NI. Yet posts like this make me feel almost guilty if I were to end up hospitalised? Am I not a soul worth saving as I weigh a few more stone than the nurses?

fatphobia has no place in healthcare.
Please do not think this is the norm! In the caring professions we are taught to care for all, in my opinion if you’re going to make terrible comments about other people you’re in the wrong profession. 99% of us focus on only caring for you and keeping you well. :)
 
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It's really upset me (I've had a few Friday gins tbf)

Im a size 18, in the past 10 years I've been to the doctor only to get my birth control pill. I pay my taxes and NI. Yet posts like this make me feel almost guilty if I were to end up hospitalised? Am I not a soul worth saving as I weigh a few more stone than the nurses?

fatphobia has no place in healthcare.
I agree. I’m bordering on underweight so I haven’t ever experienced fatphobia but I’ve had so many negative experiences in the past that I find it difficult enough to trust healthcare ‘professionals’ when it’s not a life or death situation.
I disagree with Grace’s interpretation of what happened (and it’s obviously hugely offensive) but it’s sort of understandable as a coping mechanism or trauma response for her to position herself as the hero of the story. People shouldn’t be validating it though!
 
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I don’t follow this person and I only know a little of her recent illness. A couple of people I follow on Twitter liked her tweet, and that’s how I saw it. The insensitivity is breathtaking.

my husband died of Covid nine weeks ago this evening and seeing a tweet like that actually made me feel physically sick. He didn’t fight hard enough? And all the others who lost their lives as well? Wtaf.
So sorry for your loss 💕
 
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I don’t follow this person and I only know a little of her recent illness. A couple of people I follow on Twitter liked her tweet, and that’s how I saw it. The insensitivity is breathtaking.

my husband died of Covid nine weeks ago this evening and seeing a tweet like that actually made me feel physically sick. He didn’t fight hard enough? And all the others who lost their lives as well? Wtaf.
I am so so sorry for the loss of your husband 💔xxxxx
 
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I actually think her tweet is so telling in terms of her psychology— like, she truly tells on herself there in a desperate attempt to assuage her ego.

In my opinion, it’s clear from her tweet that deep down, perhaps even subconsciously, she feels a shame over actually getting that sick, and to the point of being in a coma for months. This shame comes from the fact that her identity has been based on a mythology of her physical greatness, her absolute health, her defiance of popular expectation. Yet in the midst of proudly proving what a healthy and normal pregnant woman she is..... she actually becomes the opposite— she is a high risk patient, she catches COVID, and it does such damage to her that she is in the ICU in a coma and unable to be near her newborn baby, causing untold mental and physical trauma to her and her son.

So instead of reckoning with that, she has to publicly declare that in fact the whole thing was even MORE proof of how great, wondrous, defiant and, almost, healthy she truly is and always was! Getting sick isn’t the point, the point is that it is her and especially her that was able to beat the sickness, because that is who she is. The whole thing shows a girl who is desperately clinging to her identity that she needs to feel worthy, somehow. And also it reveals a problem with the HAES mentality, which is— is it okay if you’re not healthy? If you admit that you are sick... is there weakness in that?
 
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I actually think her tweet is so telling in terms of her psychology— like, she truly tells on herself there in a desperate attempt to assuage her ego.

In my opinion, it’s clear from her tweet that deep down, perhaps even subconsciously, she feels a shame over actually getting that sick, and to the point of being in a coma for months. This shame comes from the fact that her identity has been based on a mythology of her physical greatness, her absolute health, her defiance of popular expectation. Yet in the midst of proudly proving what a healthy and normal pregnant woman she is..... she actually becomes the opposite— she is a high risk patient, she catches COVID, and it does such damage to her that she is in the ICU in a coma and unable to be near her newborn baby, causing untold mental and physical trauma to her and her son.

So instead of reckoning with that, she has to publicly declare that in fact the whole thing was even MORE proof of how great, wondrous, defiant and, almost, healthy she truly is and always was! Getting sick isn’t the point, the point is that it is her and especially her that was able to beat the sickness, because that is who she is. The whole thing shows a girl who is desperately clinging to her identity that she needs to feel worthy, somehow. And also it reveals a problem with the HAES mentality, which is— is it okay if you’re not healthy? If you admit that you are sick... is there weakness in that?
Damn. Nailed it.
 
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Return of Asia/Lek twit of a baby dad....
He is away in Carribean and he said he don't miss his family....this man is a straight up narcissist!
Those kids won’t be allowed into any decent nursery (not that I imagine they’ll need to, flogging lube isn’t a full time job lol), I don’t know what schools do about these poor children.
 
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F you Grace.
My friend had a higher percentage chance of surviving COVID but was also placed in an induced coma. She’s slightly older than you but not overweight and is now registered disabled. She can barely get a full sentence out without having to take a break, she is having to learn to walk again, and has been told she needs a lung transplant but isn’t strong enough for one so isn’t even being considered.
Wanna look her in the eye and tell her it’s because she’s not Grace F Victory?
 
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All the stories I’m reading on here are heartbreaking, so sorry if anyone has had to go through anything awful through covid 💔 I think at this point, Grace needs to apologise publicly just to acknowledge that her tweet may have come across as insensitive, or at the very least, clarify what she meant by the tweet. However we all know she won’t do that as clearly her ego is huge!

I can see her doing a video about being in a coma and talking about some rit about spirits that told her to manifest getting better while she was unconscious instead of educating people on covid and thanking the amazing staff that saved her life. Sorry if I sound like a witch but she’s pissed me off! Didn’t like her before, felt genuinely concerned for her and her little boy when she got poorly and was so happy for her when she came out of her coma! But I reckon I still don’t like her now and this experience hasn’t humbled her lol.
 
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I actually think her tweet is so telling in terms of her psychology— like, she truly tells on herself there in a desperate attempt to assuage her ego.

In my opinion, it’s clear from her tweet that deep down, perhaps even subconsciously, she feels a shame over actually getting that sick, and to the point of being in a coma for months. This shame comes from the fact that her identity has been based on a mythology of her physical greatness, her absolute health, her defiance of popular expectation. Yet in the midst of proudly proving what a healthy and normal pregnant woman she is..... she actually becomes the opposite— she is a high risk patient, she catches COVID, and it does such damage to her that she is in the ICU in a coma and unable to be near her newborn baby, causing untold mental and physical trauma to her and her son.

So instead of reckoning with that, she has to publicly declare that in fact the whole thing was even MORE proof of how great, wondrous, defiant and, almost, healthy she truly is and always was! Getting sick isn’t the point, the point is that it is her and especially her that was able to beat the sickness, because that is who she is. The whole thing shows a girl who is desperately clinging to her identity that she needs to feel worthy, somehow. And also it reveals a problem with the HAES mentality, which is— is it okay if you’re not healthy? If you admit that you are sick... is there weakness in that?
This is perfect, tbh.

“Beat the sickness” will 100% be the narrative going forward, the focus will wholly be on Covid. She’ll never mention the fact her heart rate was 140 and she was in hospital on and off for the 3 weeks prior to the awful covid & birth. She was delusional about that too, offended she was seeing a consultant and saying the nurses prescribed a huge burger - if your heart is ducked surely red meat is the last thing you need?!

Saying all of this I really hope she’s in a better place physically post covid, which I know is an oxymoron lol. But she’s been out of breath for years so hopefully the weight loss and intense physio can help with that.
 
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It appears she’s lost a lot of weight then
Shes gonna put it all back on when shes home

Sad it took her getting ill to lose weight, she really doesnt care about her health and will still not admit how her weight put her life on the line
 
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She will have lost loads whilst being in a coma as well as a lot of muscle wastage. But it's ok because it is Grace guys so she will breeze recovery and be discharged the bionic woman 🙃👀 I am assuming she will be rehabilitating on a ward for quite some time. It would be interesting to see what nonsense she will spout about what she is given to eat whilst an inpatient and see how having normal, portion controlled meals is.
 
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Grace lacks self awareness on a level that makes her come across incredibly egotistical and simply delusional in about anything she says or does. She has a lot of trauma and I work for a family violence and homeless organization. People who go through trauma especially when they're young, can become very self serving in most, if not all decisions they make. They feel even more entitled that the world and others should 'give, give' to them because of what they have been through. Some turn inwards and become incredibly compassionate and giving to levels that is actually not healthy too.
 
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Imagine being put into a medically induced coma for months after having your premature baby delivered and cared for by countless staff and then thanking YOURSELF over those who saved both your lives lol. Grace is even more loathsome now than she was before.

ETA - I am fairly certain she has been awake alot longer than when she first announced it. By doing that she’s able to make it appear as though he recovery has been really quick and that is all down to her and now strong she is when in reality she’s probably begun the rehabilitation process some time ago.
 
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