GoFundMe Scammers

[hotstepper]

Shoot me down if you will but I have to voice this.

they have been told categorically that that little boy is going to die. No saying when exactly, but he will. There is NO treatment options left. So what do they do with the last little time he’s got before he takes a massive decline and passes away, they force him through these fucking airy fairy treatments and make sure the last time he has left is hooking him up to more shite and make him fucking miserable!!! He clearly doesn’t like these holistic treatments and they are not going to save his life, let’s be honest ffs. It’s devastating that they are prolonging his upset and misery/suffering. All this time at these appointments being pumped with this vitamin and that vitamin, he could be playing at home with his sisters and his mother and father. That’s my opinion anyway. Poor little sod. I really do want to scoop him up and give him a fun final few months. But of course that wouldn’t make for good insta content

 

[Milktray]

Has there ever been a positive ending in these situations when the parents handed all the remaining cash over to a charity for example?

You just don't hear about it, do you?! And in addition, It shocks me how very little gratitude is given to those who donate.

Very rarely see a post, following on from a GFM, saying 'I would personally like to thank you all for donating...this is how we spent the money'.

No instead, their posts are aimed at 'trolls' who dare ask how the money will be spent.

I honestly think that these fundraising sites require more scrutiny. There's a lot of vulnerable people on Facebook who will donate. Family and friends feeling the pressure to donate.

GFM is not 'charitable' by any means. If it was, then they would completely stop this nonsense by paying straight into private bank accounts and allowing donations to go straight to a pot that can only be paid directly to a funeral company, for example.
If money is going directly to a private bank account, then there needs to be clear transparency made on GFM.

That one for Bella-Rae Birch annoyed me. The baby who was mauled by her parents dangerous dog. Bella-Raes mum was on GFM the same night of that attack wanting horse drawn carriages, doves and parties.
She now wants to start a charity .

 

[DipsyDoodle]

£40k worth of presents/vouchers for the "1 woman a month" that she helps

Don't forget the claim that her 18 year old daughter had been in an abusive relationship, and she handily took photos of her brand new trainers (from Footlocker) not long after the vouchers were begged for.

 

[gigilouxx]

Poor little baby putting the gofundme aside I hope his parents truly realise they did every single thing they could do, left no stone unturned.
Kids shouldn’t be suffering like this it’s a fucking sin

 

[Sunflower91]

Ooh this takes me back to a few years ago now to an Instagrammer who actually started out on blogspot. In her blogspot days she was clearly really Ill with an eating disorder (although never admitted it), she disappeared and came back with an Instagram and quickly amassed a tonne of followers in a short space of time. She was a healthier weight but garnering sympathy for cystic fibrosis. She’s post a tonne of pictures with breathing equipment, from hospital beds/ the wristbands and then came the go fund me’s so she could go to Disney land because her cf was so bad she’s not have long left and it was on her bucket list. A load of people donated before people started to twig something wasn’t right. People truly suffering with CF pointed out her medication was wrong, equipment was incorrect amongst other things. And then people realised some of the images of hospitals/ scans were taken from other people. Someone close to her in real life was contacted and said she did not have cf- the breathing apparatus was a relatives, images of her in hospital were from when she was admitted for her ED and she’d been scamming people. Then she disappeared again, accounts deleted and the go fund me (and the money) were gone.

 

[MNM]

Sad update from Amy Rambo and as awful as it is, it’s at that point where it’s inevitable. Any decent parent would put up the biggest fight but there’s fighting and then there’s putting your child through unnecessary treatments because you can’t handle what’s about to happen. It’s awful, I can’t even imagine but she needs some professional help, she needs to be able to enjoy this time with Dilly and let him be free to explore, soak up the precious moments. I don’t think he looks as poorly as when he was on chemo but he still looks so so poorly and I don’t think she sees that probably get slated for this but I think the go fund me is just ridiculous now, for many reasons, there’s lots of other children battling cancer who still have a chance that could use them donations. I also find it abit out of touch with reality that for a long time now, rather than downgrade from the Thames apartment and downgrade the g wagon, they just go straight in for go fund me donations. They appear to come from a rich circle of friends who I’m sure it would be a drop in the ocean for them to cover some bills. Regardless it’s awful, heartbreaking, such a cruel world.. I hope Dilly is pain free and can enjoy his time as a little boy exploring and loving life for as long as possible.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Be helpful if we had a list of “scammers” I will start with the king and queen of scamming Ashley Cain & Safiyya Vorajee

 

[Nayalove96]

Hate one for kids funerals, they are free, we had to have one. Not only that everywhere we went for the extras either did it free or at a massive discount l the lady who did our flowers charged 100, when we went to collect she gave us the little card to write on. Asked which one and I said daughter, she asked was it for my daughter and how old was she. I said stillborn and yes mine. She then said ok that’s £20, she ended up charging for just the few flowers she had to order in. All the flowers she had in stock and her time were free, the lady who did the speaking usually charged a couple of 100,. But she also did it free and said if we did pay her she would just donate it straight to a baby loss charity, and all said they would never want to profit from a child’s death.

Im so sorry you went through that

 

[Smv2287]

They’ve posted that poor boy at his most vulnerable. He’s “taken his clothes off in protest” about having to go an appointment. We did not need to see him looking upset with no clothes on. Poor poor boy being posted on social media like that. Of course he doesn’t want to go to another appointment. He’s a small child who doesn’t understand and it was very unfair to post him like that. Makes me sick

 

[Wellthisisinteresting]

It’s sick - the dad actually used a photo of Dilan to promote his company
“ if I can do it you can too”

I covered his face out as he looks sooo poorly

 

[icthruBS]

Shall post the rabbit hole for you all.. note that Disney was paid for ( amount they were asking for raised ) by the fundraiser on justgiving yet wasn’t closed for another 5 days . These are just some of the many many pages , platforms and events that were held by a multitude of people or the family . They also had PayPal which you can’t see the amount and the multiple Amazon wish lists throughout her illness . For Aria and her siblings . There was also the street party that raised lots of moola . Pic of Aria in her wheelchair proves they didn’t pay for that it was through the NHS. There were 3 other just giving pages being run also that I posted in the cash/Saf page too .

 

[Sunburntcheese]

I haven't contributed to this thread previously but I'm a paediatric oncology nurse and seeing how this little boy is being hauled around breaks my heart. I understand as a Mother you want to do everything in your power for your children, but there comes a time when it needs to stop. His body will be so fragile from the chemo and steroids and everything will be like a marathon for him. It's the equivalent of insisting on CPR on a elderly relative because you don't want them to die. It's cruel and causes unnecessary trauma.
The idea of anyone doing gofundme really doesn't sit right. They have been given so much money/gifts etc because they look like the conventional perfect family. Beautiful parents and children and a lush home. I can guarantee that if they were a rough council estate couple, they wouldn't get anywhere near what they have.

I agree with your last sentence. I have a friend whose daughter has neuroblastoma. She's a single parent. Her daughter is 5, like Dilly. My friend is Polish, but has lived here since she was 8. They've had a really traumatic journey which culminated in them having to seek treatment in Poland as her concerns weren't taken seriously by their doctor here (hence why I mentioned she's Polish, in case I seem xenophobic). She found out her daughter has stage 4 neuroblastoma, and then found out recently that Car T therapy is her only remaining treatment and they're really struggling to raise the funds. She's been treated in Poland because for various reasons it wasn't possible to bring her home to treat her post diagnosis. They've lost their house, her school, their entire life. They managed to get back to the UK for 2 weeks between treatment recently because things are looking quite dire at the moment. My friend isn't rough, but she's certainly not a millionaire. It breaks my heart seeing the difference in funding between two similar cases. Even more so because the family getting the funding doesn't actually seem to need it.
Obviously my heart breaks for Amy, Dilly and family.... But I just wish that all children had the ability to access the resources needed to have a chance at winning their battle.

 

[lili2020]

I’ve been reading these threads a lot recently because deep down I’ve often been shocked at what people are asking for whilst their child is literally on their death bed. I get times are hard but sound people are relentless, the hustle never stops!
I follow a page from a family in America I think who sadly lost their beautiful daughter in March this year, they used to ask for a lot towards personal costs when she was still here. I swear, today I was talking about this subject with my husband and mentioned the American page then the second I went in my Instagram I seen a post, they were asking for help towards living costs, and set up a go fund me for $30,000!!!!! I was bloody gobsmacked. People had commented criticising them, comments were swiftly deleted and she posted a story ranting about it. But honestly, the lengths people go to for money, exploiting their own dead child, shocks me so much to my core. It shouldn’t shock me in the world we live in but it does, how do people sleep at night i really do wonder.

 

[penny1992]

A GoFundMe was set up for life of Monique for cancer treatment that she never received because she was too ill. She died about a month ago and the gfm is still open with over 80,000 raised... The last donations were yesterday. An absolute disgrace.

Someone I knows child passed recently and one of the step parents took it upon themselves to set up a gfm the day after without the mom's permission!!! The gfm was posted all over FB and some family members found out about the death through that.

 

[Queeniebee]

It's when she gives the address out where to send presents too! Imagine being another parent on the ward and your child sees all these presents getting delivered to one little boy. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve them but maybe dish them out. One child doesn't need that many figures!

 

[bonvoyage]

Imagine having the money for a car like that but won’t spend twenty quid on travel insurance .

I refuse to chip in for things like this.

Their mistake but want everyone else to pay for it . Not for me .

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

I personally think that there is a long overdue need for a law to protect children from parents doing this when they are so ill.

The child benefits in no way whatsoever.

 

[DipsyDoodle]

You just don't hear about it, do you?! And in addition, It shocks me how very little gratitude is given to those who donate.

Very rarely see a post, following on from a GFM, saying 'I would personally like to thank you all for donating...this is how we spent the money'.

No instead, their posts are aimed at 'trolls' who dare ask how the money will be spent.

I honestly think that these fundraising sites require more scrutiny. There's a lot of vulnerable people on Facebook who will donate. Family and friends feeling the pressure to donate.

GFM is not 'charitable' by any means. If it was, then they would completely stop this nonsense by paying straight into private bank accounts and allowing donations to go straight to a pot that can only be paid directly to a funeral company, for example.
If money is going directly to a private bank account, then there needs to be clear transparency made on GFM.

That one for Bella-Rae Birch annoyed me. The baby who was mauled by her parents dangerous dog. Bella-Raes mum was on GFM the same night of that attack wanting horse drawn carriages, doves and parties.
She now wants to start a charity .

I don't donate to GFM for this reason. I have donated to Just Giving, because the money has to be paid directly to a registered charity, Go Fund Me can go to anyone and there's no comeback if any donor feels that the money hasn't gone where they thought it would.

 

[im_like_an_adult_cat]

What about Jack Towers, the slimming world chap?? Lost a load of weight, someone set up a GFM and raised thousands for his loose skin op. I'm sure he had the weight loss surgery on the cheap and spent the rest on holidays and clothes? And food, judging by the size of him again now!

 

[itsmelilly]

He loves his house and being home, he has constant panic attacks leaving the house, yet he’s been dragged to sleep at the zoo. Make it make sense.