I've been lurking on these threads for a while but just un-lurking from a few pages back having seen the video of the lawyer having a meltdown to say how absolutely ridiculous that she claims to be a man but as soon as she feels vulnerable she starts yelling (shrieking) for a female officer.
Also, thank you all for the insight and the open discussion. For the longest time I tried to be a "trans ally" (for reasons I cant explain), then at work we did an lgbtq course and the lgb was mostly missing.
It was all about trans and I was made to feel absolutely tit for asking any questions (perfectly reasonable ones) and made to feel like I was some kind of threat. Even though I was trying to be supportive, I either wasnt supportive enough or the right kind of supportive, who knows. But the more I listened the more I realised that I had just been almost brain washed into a way of thinking that actually didnt align with my own values and beliefs and I felt like a fool. Not only that but I couldn't really speak up about the way I feel and to some degree I still don't fully feel I can which makes me feel like a coward.
So thank you for this little space where I can come and feel like Im not going mad, that there are so many of us and slowly giving me the confidence to speak at least here