Gem Lo Valentine

[Popcornshovel]

I very much doubt it....

Week 1: Primark haul
Week 2: ASOS haul
Week 3: Sorry guys, had loads going on and forgot to post.
Week 4: Guys, I just can't do this anymore. The social media pressure to be perfect is too much. I'm going to be taking some time away.

 

[Lahne]

I totally get that’s it’s difficult being a single mum (I am one myself), but it’s pretty poor form to not have regular social media work stuff ready to go when you’ve only been doing it full time for about 6 weeks. I mean…come on. Yes, she’s had flu and I’m sure she’s felt absolutely awful, but she’s had so much time to be making content that there should have been something ready to go. Or even if she didn’t have that, she has an Instagram - she could have easily cobbled together a post on…I don’t know, I’m not a fashion influencer…her favourite new in high street looks that week, or an expensive version and a cheap version of the same outfit, or a post focusing on a particular colour showing different items that are available in that colour at the moment. Whatever - she could have done it lying in bed in less than an hour, even in between looking after her son. Why doesn’t she just get a proper part time job and keep this as a hobby? It’s clearly not working.

 

[Overitnow2020]

This woman makes me so cross, for years she whittered on about body positivity and embracing your curves and got quite a large following ()because of this and the comments were always people trying to feel the same about themselves. Skip forward, she's clearly underweight and now those same followers are now commenting about being desperate to lose weight because she's such an inspiration & how amazing she looks and anyone dare call her out on it is jealous?!? She's an utter fraud and making people feel shit in the process! Why can't people see this?

Sorry know this is a rave thread

 

[Idntknow]

“Ive not uploaded because I’m a single mum”!?? Its literally your job, there are thousands of single mums who work and you can’t film a video in your own home. All she films is Primark hauls what exactly is there to be a perfectionist about?

 

[Queenie]

She banged on for so long on EVERY SINGLE VIDEO about loving her curves, loving her mum tum & cellulite & now even a size 12 looks too big on her.

 

[Lahne]

This is very sad, and it was obvious that she was feeling this way. It’s been painful to watch her lose so much weight and retreat further into her shell. I do think that what she needs at the moment is to either quit for good or to take a very long break to work on herself emotionally away from social media. Not because she isn’t good at it but because it isn’t good for her, her son or any of the impressionable people watching her for this to be happening. I do hope that her parents have her back. I want to give the poor girl and hug and a bloody big sandwich.

The irony is that she did perfectly well when she was a average size and had loads of loyal followers who found her likeable and relatable. I have no interest in watching an identikit skinny clone wearing tiny clothes and passing their eating disorder off as a healthy lifestyle or obsessively cleaning their house, but I quite happily watched a pretty, average sized single mum chatting about her son and her life and trying on clothes and looking damn good on most of them.

 

[emmer_moans]

She does seem to have issues which I can sympathize with but she has a cycle of disappearances, comebacks, disappearances, comebacks that she basically needs to call it a day and get a proper job. When you are having to post apologies and explanations every other month then maybe it's a sign.

I do hope she finds some happiness.

 

[Thatdontfly]

I wish she would say why she sprouted aloud of bull about how she embraces her "wobbly bits" and "mum tum".
Her personality has completely changed also and seems like she lost it along with the weight

 

[Lahne]

Really don’t know what she’s doing. No videos for ages, random gerbil stories content, a manic few stories about climate change and taking time out because she needs to make a difference to this, then…a new Primark haul. Wtf?? She’s all over the place. Also feels like she only did the video because someone offered her money to do a deodorant advert. I’m baffled.

 

[Kattykat10]

“Ive not uploaded because I’m a single mum”!?? Its literally your job, there are thousands of single mums who work and you can’t film a video in your own home. All she films is Primark hauls what exactly is there to be a perfectionist about?

I know and her son is at school. Ffs pity party for one. She does my head in.

 

[Noxy nono]

She has just shared a story on Instagram being sorry that she hasn't been posting, could hardly hear her with music in her car. I think it's really sad actually, she needs to stop with Instagram now, enough is enough. It isn't for her.

 

[Miss_noseyparker67]

She really needs to give up trying to be an 'influencer/YouTuber' & get a proper job!
What exactly is she channelling? She could be showing how she copes as a single mum (as she reminds us in every video), she could show how she does her makeup, her day to day life, etc. And there's always an excuse when she doesn't post cos she's 'so busy'. Busy at what?

 

[Noxy nono]

I just saw her latest You Tube vid i watched like 1 min and had enough. This really isn't for her this You Tube full time nonsense. I think she generally has a few issues going on which is really sad.

 

[Lahne]

Everyone saying in the comments "you look stunnong" is just enabling her obviously unhealthy lifestyle. You do not go from a size 14 to a size 8 in a few months with just extra walking

I hate this as a thing in general. When someone loses weight everyone rushes to tell them how great they look without any thought as to why it has happened and whether it’s helpful to that person psychologically. Half the time they are congratulating the person on having an eating disorder which just makes it even harder for them to admit that they need help. Other times the person has lost weight because of a bereavement or another form of stress or due to illness. People can look good without losing weight. They say “you look amazing”. They mean “you look like you’ve lost weight”. It would be better not to say anything to them at all. Most of the comments on that last video are saying how amazing she looks after the weight loss. How ignorant are those people? She looks tired and unhappy, her personality is coming across completely differently, she is flat and seems depressed, she is stick thing and her hair looks dull and brittle. Maybe they should have taken those things as signs that all is not well and think twice before spunking their weight loss, diet culture obsessed congratulations all over the comments.

 

[Popcornshovel]

She's finally done a YouTube video after 4 weeks away. It's less than 5 mins, she looks really down in it and the only reason she's done it is to do a half hearted ad for a handbag brand. In surprised she was gifted the bag tbh with the lack of activity on her channel. She needs to stop with the YouTube, being given ads must just increase the pressure on her to film a video when she's really not up to it.

 

[CasinoRoyal]

Layers?? Its clear that her latest pic is to show us she’s skinny again. The poor girl needs to get away from social media and get help

 

[Lahne]

She’s definitely looking a lot healthier in her new video. I’m glad she seems to have clawed her way out of the ED before she became too entrenched in it. It’s also good that she’s embracing the body positive message again.

However...it seems like overkill. She has literally spent the past year starving herself and promoting calorie counting and fitting in tiny sizes then has a few months off, comes back and it’s all “I love my mum tum” again. I used to believe her until she started starving herself to get rid of it. The cynic inside me is wondering if she’s now doing and saying this stuff because she lost followers. But I feel a massive bitch for saying that because I really am genuinely relieved and happy for her that she’s eating properly and looking and sounding happier. I just hope it’s genuine this time.

 

[emmer_moans]

Today she has posted stories saying she has anxiety and that she wants to be back to the old days on influencing. I think she needs to stay offline and focus on herself and her son.

 

[lola_goss]

I don’t know how I feel about all this. On the one hand I do honestly think someone’s weight is no one else’s business and if she’s happy then good for her (although I do question whether anyone who is trying to maintain a 30lb weight loss can be truly happy but I’m not getting into that now ). But I also feel a little disappointed because one of the reasons I liked her videos was because she wasn’t a stick thin carbon copy of every other influencer out there. I thought she had great style and knew how to flatter her shape but also was able to pull off wearing things outside of her comfort zone so I’m sorry to see that content go.

I haven’t watched the video as I know it will be a massive trigger for me, but I really hope she is okay and is sensible with maintaining this weight loss because it really can fuck you up (speaking from experience lolz)

 

[Lahne]

Layers?? Its clear that her latest pic is to show us she’s skinny again. The poor girl needs to get away from social media and get help

I thought exactly the same. She’s got some serious issues.