Yes, exactly why I walked away from a social group. Kept coming home after seeing them thinking “what was the bleeping point?”
I’m convinced that some people are just dickheads who love the sound of their own voices and aren’t thinking about how they make others feel. I promise not every group is like that but ugggghhh, some are and you don’t have to put up with it.
I’ve been reading this thread with interest and this post pretty much sums up my feelings at the moment.
I’m used to being an afterthought - I’m quiet natured and that’s the price you pay for it, I suppose.
But I’m tired of feeling a bit rubbish about myself every time we’ve got together, because a date for the next meet up has already been planned, and it’s a date everyone else has agreed on, leaving me to come if I’m free.
Or the feeling that no one is remotely interested in anything I may have done; sometimes it’s a challenge to get a sentence in amongst everyone else talking about themselves.
We last met up just before Christmas, and I watched the person in the group that I thought I was closest to, hand out fancy cards to everyone and give me one of those afterthought ones that you grab from a cheap box when you realise you’ve forgotten someone
So this year I plan to step away. Not rudely or anything, and in fact I doubt they’ll notice or bother much, but I’d prefer not to feel drained by such a superficial “friendship”