With all that being said about how obviously good it would be for the boys. As a woman, and mother, I would be genuinely mortified and quite ashamed of myself tbh. If i didn’t have a full time demanding job, where I had to and I mean had to put my kids in nursery then not a chance they’d be going. This is from a personal note so skip past if you’re bored easily ha, but I have put my career on hold for the last 11 years. I was determined I wasn’t putting them in nursery or on a nanny/childminder. I had too much of a pull. I hated even putting them in at 3 for the free hours and socialisation skills yadda yadda! I decided with my eldest i’d look after her to school age, then get back on the career ladder. Then I went and had three more children all 2/3 years apart. It is only now my youngest is starting school in Sept I will have the time to retrain (access course 1st then midwifery degree, then health visitor degree top up after some experience. Long road!!) I’ve put my dreams, and my life in work achievement levels on hold. Because I wanted a family, and I knew I had to take a back seat. Here’s her moaning about putting herself on hold for ten months. When she’s still been doing most of what she done before the kids, bar the team area work. She really does live in her own little world, and not the real one. I chose to be a mother. I’m no martyr, I’ve made mistakes and it’s bloody hard work being a parent. But I can honestly say I’ve totally put my kids first, before myself. It’s been totally demoralising at times, when I’ve often felt I wanted more. I’d look at my friends and long for the career development they’ve had, hell even the lack of Christmas work parties would make me feel so shit about myself. And a lot more besides. But I know that through all those mental battles and struggles ive done what I thought was right and the best for my children, not for me. But the one thing I think she fails to realise is that when you become a mum you have to make sacrifices, not just little ones like ooh I’ve missed the gym again, but real massive sacrifices. It’s clear from this she isn’t prepared to take the back seat for her boys. She wants her limelight. If she wanted a child as much as she said she did, she’d want to take the few years off to really absorb it all. She will never get these years back of them being this age, which is what I kept telling myself. Sadly though Fopperholic comes first, second and last.
I have a photo of me hoovering and him next to me with his own wee one and he’s delighted. Scary to think that my 1 year old was walking and pretending to hoover and hers aren’t even crawling. 
