I have friends who have had children around the same time as Fopperholic who are also older first time moms. There are similarities between all of them in that they expect their children to be a certain way and do certain things and they're not yet two. It annoys me so much because they over stimulate their children and have such set routines it's unbelievable. I'm an older mom but my approach is so much more relaxed with both of my children even under the current lockdown. I've had to say to one that the best stimulation for their child is to play with them rather than thinking of set things to do. Live a little and enjoy your babies because when they get older you're going to miss it terribly especially if you want another and you can't for whatever reason.
Yes! I’m late thirty’s and my little boy (ivf!!) is a couple of days older than the twins. We’ve spent lockdown taking each day as it comes, pottering in the garden, going for dog walks and pony rides. We’ve planted stuff in the veg plot and he’s enjoyed watering and looking at the sprouting seeds (and digging up the potatoes that we just planted
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Right now he’s on my lap breastfeeding as he was tired. Routine is entirely led by him - if he’s tired now he can have a little cuddle and nap. No one ever died because they napped at the wrong time/for the wrong amount of time.
Sometimes Fopps makes me feel like crap because she projects this weird life. But guess what, my little boy is growing and learning because he is living life rather than being trained like a bloody circus monkey. He knows how to express emotions and loves nothing more than cuddling me, my husband, or one of the cats. Her boys (especially the blond one) just look so dead behind the eyes, like there’s nothing there except the ability to watch tv, repeat words parrot-fashion and play on a tablet.