MaineCoonMama
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Finally back home after a long day of kittens, chickens and doggos.
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MaineCoonMama
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Thor's cute at the moment, he looks like a mini lion. He's all saggy, bless him.
ETA It looks like photoshop but it's not.
ETA It looks like photoshop but it's not.
Falkor
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On a scale of 1 to 10, how immature of me is it to have a little internal snigger every time my counsellor says 'self-love'?
I seem to remember a couple of people asking to know how I got on with it, so since I'm one away from finishing my initial set of six sessions, I thought I'd put some thoughts down.
Firstly, I got lucky with my counsellor. She's not a disordered eating specialist, but it is something she has a particular interest in. I wanted a woman, I wanted someone of an age to understand perimenopause, I wanted someone who understood the peculiar challenges of living in a remote bit of the Highlands and I wanted someone I could afford (a friend recommended her Surrey-based counsellor, but at £150 a session, no way!). That filtered me down to three on the BACP website and I connected with her photo the most, so tried her first, and it's worked out.
Secondly, I have not binged for a month now. I've overeaten a couple of times, but that's been in the context of enjoying a meal out or finishing Mr F's leftovers because there's only a little bit left, rather than slumped down in my car in a corner of the Tesco car park, inhaling double-stuff Oreos, totally oblivious to everything.
I knew before I started that my issues with food come from my childhood, we spent the whole of the first proper session (after a short introductory one to see if we got along with each other) talking about things that happened that I thought might be reasons for some of the things I was doing as an adult, then session two was looking at what set off binges as an adult. Session three was talking about feelings around food and starting to log what I ate, but rather than thinking about calories, looking at what emotions I was feeling when I ate, who I was with when I ate, where I was and so on - historically I don't get on with food diaries and I'm still not a fan, but I can just about do this as long as I think of it as recording observations rather than attaching judgements to it. Session four was looking at what I'd recorded and then session five today was some feedback on a few things she'd asked me to try related to that and what emotions that raised.
She's brought up some really interesting stuff - she's not telling me what to do and what not to do, like a dietician would, she's asking me the right questions to get me to make all the connections for myself, so she's not setting off the rebellious 'Fuck you, fuck the diet, I'm going to eat a load of sugar anyway' thing. Setting rules for myself or getting too restrictive with what I eat is a surefire way to set me off, so we're trying to avoid that at all costs, and I've been able to eat both bread and a very occasional sugary thing in the last three weeks without setting off a binge and without feeling guilty about it.
Still a work in progress and I think I'll probably need a couple more sessions over the initial six, but it's been so, so helpful and I feel like I'm getting on top of it for the first time in decades. Historically I'm absolutely rubbish at asking for help with things (also a childhood hangover), so I'm glad that I've managed to do it for this.
Firstly, I got lucky with my counsellor. She's not a disordered eating specialist, but it is something she has a particular interest in. I wanted a woman, I wanted someone of an age to understand perimenopause, I wanted someone who understood the peculiar challenges of living in a remote bit of the Highlands and I wanted someone I could afford (a friend recommended her Surrey-based counsellor, but at £150 a session, no way!). That filtered me down to three on the BACP website and I connected with her photo the most, so tried her first, and it's worked out.
Secondly, I have not binged for a month now. I've overeaten a couple of times, but that's been in the context of enjoying a meal out or finishing Mr F's leftovers because there's only a little bit left, rather than slumped down in my car in a corner of the Tesco car park, inhaling double-stuff Oreos, totally oblivious to everything.
I knew before I started that my issues with food come from my childhood, we spent the whole of the first proper session (after a short introductory one to see if we got along with each other) talking about things that happened that I thought might be reasons for some of the things I was doing as an adult, then session two was looking at what set off binges as an adult. Session three was talking about feelings around food and starting to log what I ate, but rather than thinking about calories, looking at what emotions I was feeling when I ate, who I was with when I ate, where I was and so on - historically I don't get on with food diaries and I'm still not a fan, but I can just about do this as long as I think of it as recording observations rather than attaching judgements to it. Session four was looking at what I'd recorded and then session five today was some feedback on a few things she'd asked me to try related to that and what emotions that raised.
She's brought up some really interesting stuff - she's not telling me what to do and what not to do, like a dietician would, she's asking me the right questions to get me to make all the connections for myself, so she's not setting off the rebellious 'Fuck you, fuck the diet, I'm going to eat a load of sugar anyway' thing. Setting rules for myself or getting too restrictive with what I eat is a surefire way to set me off, so we're trying to avoid that at all costs, and I've been able to eat both bread and a very occasional sugary thing in the last three weeks without setting off a binge and without feeling guilty about it.
Still a work in progress and I think I'll probably need a couple more sessions over the initial six, but it's been so, so helpful and I feel like I'm getting on top of it for the first time in decades. Historically I'm absolutely rubbish at asking for help with things (also a childhood hangover), so I'm glad that I've managed to do it for this.
traumatised sideboard
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Obviously I really am a sideboard. I keep wanting to ask for a name change on the NO NAME CHANGES EVER AGAIN thread because it's my real name as a joke but then I worry that a bored mischievous mod will take me seriously and they'll rename me something (even more) daft, like Bum Mints.
Anyway, if you're all knobs you're doing a very good job of hiding it so I won't be too upset with myself for not twigging. I do still live in the hope that one of you is the taxi driver though.
Anyway, if you're all knobs you're doing a very good job of hiding it so I won't be too upset with myself for not twigging. I do still live in the hope that one of you is the taxi driver though.
traumatised sideboard
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Who's joining me for hot cross buns in the spite orangery? They're lapsang souchong-infused prune flavour. Joking, I'm not <tom cruise.gif>. I did go a little bit rogue and used dried cherries instead of sultanas and half of them have chocolate chunks. The crosses look like I had some equine assistance but I'm just being harsh on myself because they're not perfect.
Marmalade Atkins
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I laid it all out lovely and everything. Motherfucker.
Emmapism
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Oh Silver. You do what you need to lovely. My heart hurts that anyone anywhere could be horrible to you. I hope that you will stick around and continue to post but this is just a very silly forum on the internet and none of it matters really 
Just know we will all miss you and your funny posts terribly and the thread will be lesser without you xx
Just know we will all miss you and your funny posts terribly and the thread will be lesser without you xx
OwlRightsReserved
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No, you made a coconut Venn diagram when in a very boring Zoom meeting.
traumatised sideboard
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Apols to the sheepos, how could I forget sheepos! Lovely to see a goato and otteros too. Just going save time and climb into a coffin now as spite bedding has nearly finished me.
Here's a pretzel cat. Good luck working out what's going on here. I'm not fully convinced she has all the bones she ought to have.
Here's a pretzel cat. Good luck working out what's going on here. I'm not fully convinced she has all the bones she ought to have.
OwlRightsReserved
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I feel a bit like I've got shellshock from the MT, so it's nice to be back in the soothing realm of F&D.
It was dry and warm enough to sit in the garden and have my lunch today, and it felt like we might actually be having spring. Scraggy Dog was looking unwashed (as per usual).
It was dry and warm enough to sit in the garden and have my lunch today, and it felt like we might actually be having spring. Scraggy Dog was looking unwashed (as per usual).
Alansbigplate
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The hilarious thing is he never left to fight the good fight on Twitter as he’d have people believe. Within days he was back as Montrachet. After that he came back again and is currently posting among us like he has done constantly under a new name, that’s blatantly obvious once you recognise the onerous over-wrought desperate for likes style
. Absolute bored little incel!To add you’ll perhaps have noticed he tried this with me as well for some reason, no idea why maybe it’s when people - nay, women - seem popular? I just feel sorry for someone for whom online bullying passes for a hobby tbh!
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traumatised sideboard
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Not to toot toot my own horn but my mum and grandma declared the hot cross buns the best ever after hoofing the lot. Recipe coming soon!
Sad to see you go Silver, was there some sort of disagreement on the MT that we missed? I just can't imagine any of us would feel that way about you/want you to feel that way about yourself. Thankyou x for your services to the cabal, you know you're always welcome back should you want to return.
Sad to see you go Silver, was there some sort of disagreement on the MT that we missed? I just can't imagine any of us would feel that way about you/want you to feel that way about yourself. Thankyou x for your services to the cabal, you know you're always welcome back should you want to return.
traumatised sideboard
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Pets are proper little dickheads for making you worry about them and then they turn out to be absolutely fine, usually after you've made them an emergency vet appointment. I don't know how those of you with smol children cope, I'd be having at least six heart attacks a day.
Sideboard Cat's favourite thing at the moment is simultaneously toasting and blinding herself on the windowsill while she's waiting for me to get up in the morning.
Sideboard Cat's favourite thing at the moment is simultaneously toasting and blinding herself on the windowsill while she's waiting for me to get up in the morning.
LavaFlake
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Dodger is gorgeous @Suffolkmum! This is my little minxie. She's currently keeping me company while I work late - finishing off a very dry annual report and rewarding myself with a cheeky tattle browse for every paragraph written.
ChocolateTeapot
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Morning Ninnies. TeapotCat is looking a bit like a maiden Victorian aunt today, needless to say he’s furious.
traumatised sideboard
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Sorry but where are the hats?? Rude. I'm not fussed about Easter hats but it's now officially Sideboard Cat's 7th birthday and I demand cat-themed hats. Sideboard Cat the under-table troll sends her love to KCC and everyone who's currently unwell.
Marmalade Atkins
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Oh shit. Soz. Lol.
Shesaidwhat?
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I feel such a fraud being on this thread I had KFC